OW how do you feel knowing he will never leave her for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was an OW until he left her for me. He walked away from everything to start a more modest life with me.

So, it happens.

This is rare. Check out the statistics. Most men just want a whore to fuck. When women have an affair, they are generally checked out of the marriage.

If it happens to you no one cares how rare it supposedly is.

[Anonymous]

Unless I missed it, OP never commented again after original post. I don't think OP is the OW. I think OP is someone who was trying to scare the crap out of those on whom he/she is passing moral judgment.
The tone wasn't self-pitying; it was critical.

[Anonymous]

AP and I have an understanding from the beginning that we are not going to leave our spouses and the our relationship is for fun. Knowing that somehow helps as over the years as our relationship continues, and even when feelings are involved, I never expect him to leave his wife and two kids.

[Anonymous]

This is my situation as well. I love my AP but we established from the inception that neither of us would leave our spouses.

[Anonymous]

Never wanted AP to leave his wife. Now that he's getting older, he's getting on my nerves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AP and I have an understanding from the beginning that we are not going to leave our spouses and the our relationship is for fun. Knowing that somehow helps as over the years as our relationship continues, and even when feelings are involved, I never expect him to leave his wife and two kids.

+1 except my ap got divorced from his wife last year. Still he's accepting that I won't leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never wanted AP to leave his wife. Now that he's getting older, he's getting on my nerves.

They'd kinda funny...in the same way a DH would??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never wanted AP to leave his wife. Now that he's getting older, he's getting on my nerves.

He probably feels the same way, men are weak, they don't know how to break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AP and I have an understanding from the beginning that we are not going to leave our spouses and the our relationship is for fun. Knowing that somehow helps as over the years as our relationship continues, and even when feelings are involved, I never expect him to leave his wife and two kids.

It usually is fine, until he moves on then you realize you thought it was more.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is a very sad post.

I agree. You need to dump his sorry ass before addressing OW. Look at Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, it works great because I never want to leave my husband either. Most OW are married .

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is a very sad post.

I agree. You need to dump his sorry ass before addressing OW. Look at Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng.

Op doesn't need to step aside if she doesn't want to. Maybe there are benefits to her remaining married. After all, she IS the one who is actually married to the man, right? He is Op's husband, right? And why on earth would she ever address the OW? Ha. Not likely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is a very sad post.

I agree. You need to dump his sorry ass before addressing OW. Look at Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng.

Op doesn't need to step aside if she doesn't want to. Maybe there are benefits to her remaining married. After all, she IS the one who is actually married to the man, right? He is Op's husband, right? And why on earth would she ever address the OW? Ha. Not likely.

Well, she seems to be trying to address OW right now. And it is sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is a very sad post.

I agree. You need to dump his sorry ass before addressing OW. Look at Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng.

Op doesn't need to step aside if she doesn't want to. Maybe there are benefits to her remaining married. After all, she IS the one who is actually married to the man, right? He is Op's husband, right? And why on earth would she ever address the OW? Ha. Not likely.

Well, she seems to be trying to address OW right now. And it is sad.

She is probably wondering why a woman would settle for being an OW. I think the main answer is that they want the companionship and the passion without the commitment and the work. They can't really respect their AP's marriage because they are willing to accept so much less for themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is a very sad post.

I agree. You need to dump his sorry ass before addressing OW. Look at Rupert Murdoch and Wendi Deng.

Op doesn't need to step aside if she doesn't want to. Maybe there are benefits to her remaining married. After all, she IS the one who is actually married to the man, right? He is Op's husband, right? And why on earth would she ever address the OW? Ha. Not likely.

Well, she seems to be trying to address OW right now. And it is sad.

She is probably wondering why a woman would settle for being an OW. I think the main answer is that they want the companionship and the passion without the commitment and the work. They can't really respect their AP's marriage because they are willing to accept so much less for themselves.

If it were me I'd have trouble respecting the person's marriage because they have no respect for it and they are in it!