OW how do you feel knowing he will never leave her for you?

[Anonymous]

Damn! So rare for DCUMers to attack the Burnt spouse like this. All OWs by chance?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Google how many relationships last that were started from affairs. Very very few. Love is not built on lies, deceit and the destruction of others lives.

Just don't get AP's. Gross. You lack morals and integrity.

Please stop contributing to the AP posts until you finally start looking for one yourself. You will realize your DH has had enough of your nagging bullshit and is on his third or fourth AP. You are just like the OP bitter but I won't conclude you are crazy just yet like the OP. While you may have the "perfect marriage" you do not understand why people have affairs. Neither do we in every case because it is complicated.

Your posts are really simple and not productive. Until you pop your AP cherry, hush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn! So rare for DCUMers to attack the Burnt spouse like this. All OWs by chance?

Clearly most of these are not OW. The bitterness, even if rightful, was strong in the OP. She needs to get help and get strong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Google how many relationships last that were started from affairs. Very very few. Love is not built on lies, deceit and the destruction of others lives.

Just don't get AP's. Gross. You lack morals and integrity.

But how is there anything to google since husbands NEVER leave their wives?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Google how many relationships last that were started from affairs. Very very few. Love is not built on lies, deceit and the destruction of others lives.

Just don't get AP's. Gross. You lack morals and integrity.

But how is there anything to google since husbands NEVER leave their wives?

Exactly she is not well educated. Her husband probably did not allow her to complete 12th grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I logically really do understand the hatred directed at the OW (or OM), but damn, folks, the one you really should be mad at is your husband (or wife). I mean, really, really mad at him/her. Because they are the one messing with you. It isn't the OW. She may not be the best person in the world, but she didn't marry you, and promise to be yours and yours alone.

Sorry your husband is out with OW and not enjoying this lovely evening being cozy with you on the couch. But, the vitriol you are spewing makes me not so surprised about that little turn of events.

NP. The fact that the committed partner is an ass does not give free moral passes to an OW or OM. Really?

I think being upset and vitriolic is pretty common if you've discovered your spouse is cheating. It will pass.

[Anonymous]

David Bowie died. Still processing this loss. Ziggy Stardust playing on repeat...

[Anonymous]

Op, I'm sorry to say it but you really haven't won some great prize. Your husband is a cheater and probably a liar too considering how much deception must occur for an affair to take place. Your husband is likely narcissistic who loves the idea of two women duking it out over him. Go visit chump lady to find vindication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Google how many relationships last that were started from affairs. Very very few. Love is not built on lies, deceit and the destruction of others lives.

Just don't get AP's. Gross. You lack morals and integrity.

Most relationships don't last, whether regular dating relationships or affairs.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Google how many relationships last that were started from affairs. Very very few. Love is not built on lies, deceit and the destruction of others lives.

Just don't get AP's. Gross. You lack morals and integrity.

Most relationships don't last, whether regular dating relationships or affairs.

True. The only reason the divorce rate has fallen is that people are getting married at a much lower rate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Damn! So rare for DCUMers to attack the Burnt spouse like this. All OWs by chance?

Not OW, but hey, OP does sound like she needs professional help. Her fantasies are unhealthy

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Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Husbands leave all the time.

They rarely leave for the OW.

Not from.what I've observed, especially when OW is younger than the wife.

I have no dog in the fight, happily married, but let's not be naive here. We are an upper income family and it's quite sad how many wealthy men are in their 2nd marriages with younger women, having babies that could he their grandkids. I can assure you, they didn't wait until they were single to start looking. Women lose their value to these men as they get older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this is a very sad post.

+1! OW, leave your husband. He's not a DH if you're in this state.
Signed a happily married DW who can't believe that I woke up to stuff like this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Husbands leave all the time.

They rarely leave for the OW.

Not from.what I've observed, especially when OW is younger than the wife.

I have no dog in the fight, happily married, but let's not be naive here. We are an upper income family and it's quite sad how many wealthy men are in their 2nd marriages with younger women, having babies that could he their grandkids. I can assure you, they didn't wait until they were single to start looking. Women lose their value to these men as they get older.

I'm not sure that most men are wanting to redo the newborn/baby/toddler/preschooler days, lol. There is something to be said for getting off work, coming home to a quiet/orderly house, having a nice peaceful dinner, maybe a glass of wine and then hanging out watching t.v., reading. Calm, pleasant, relaxing....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are you talking about? Husbands leave all the time.

They rarely leave for the OW.

Not from.what I've observed, especially when OW is younger than the wife.

I have no dog in the fight, happily married, but let's not be naive here. We are an upper income family and it's quite sad how many wealthy men are in their 2nd marriages with younger women, having babies that could he their grandkids. I can assure you, they didn't wait until they were single to start looking. Women lose their value to these men as they get older.

7:54 here; Yeah, but there are also plenty of non-a$$h*le men out there more worthy of OP's time than the DH she's so threatened about that she started this thread. OP, even in our 40-50-60s, there are more men out there! Venture on. Dump your oppressive husband. Find somebody worthy of you.

Once women starting dumping guys like the PP described in larger numbers, the dynamics will change. Even if not, you'll be happier.
Clinging sucks.