Being friends when your financial situations are VERY different.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Third post from epic novelist here -- one last thought related to someone's claim that a "long post is a cry for attention." Oh yes. "look at meeeeeeeeeeeee my post is so looooooooooong! Pay attention to meeeeeeeeee" That makes no sense at all. We are all anonymous strangers on a message board, which is why so many of you have gotten your kicks by ripping into me for a well-intentioned, if overlong, message that I wrote with the genuine attempt to help a stranger on a message board. What "attention" could I get? The only attention I attracted was some bitch telling me that my message was too long (when she could have just skipped it) and another (or the same?) bitch poking fun at my typos and suggesting they resulted from my impoverished people. Take a moment to remember that even though you're writing this stuff anonymously to another anonymous person, you're still being rude, and you're still being mean to a real, live person. I hope the posters being so rude here are just bored at work or with staying at home or whatever else and not really this insipid and petty in real life. Yuck! I'm over this thread -- good luck OP! I think some of the posters here are jealous because you have more money than them, and some of them just want to make others feel bad about having less money than them. Goes to show that rudeness knows no socioeconomic borders and there is trash everywhere.

This is an anonymous forum that's mostly for kicks. You've just made a complete fool of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Third post from epic novelist here -- one last thought related to someone's claim that a "long post is a cry for attention." Oh yes. "look at meeeeeeeeeeeee my post is so looooooooooong! Pay attention to meeeeeeeeee" That makes no sense at all. We are all anonymous strangers on a message board, which is why so many of you have gotten your kicks by ripping into me for a well-intentioned, if overlong, message that I wrote with the genuine attempt to help a stranger on a message board. What "attention" could I get? The only attention I attracted was some bitch telling me that my message was too long (when she could have just skipped it) and another (or the same?) bitch poking fun at my typos and suggesting they resulted from my impoverished people. Take a moment to remember that even though you're writing this stuff anonymously to another anonymous person, you're still being rude, and you're still being mean to a real, live person. I hope the posters being so rude here are just bored at work or with staying at home or whatever else and not really this insipid and petty in real life. Yuck! I'm over this thread -- good luck OP! I think some of the posters here are jealous because you have more money than them, and some of them just want to make others feel bad about having less money than them. Goes to show that rudeness knows no socioeconomic borders and there is trash everywhere.

Clearly girlfriend needs to pickup her refill. Sheesh!

[Anonymous]

Well, I agree with "epic novelist." I'm so sick of the rude posts who benefit from the anonymity offered here. Well said EN.

[Anonymous]

This thread wins the prize for the most posts in a row by the same poster.

[Anonymous]

This is an anonymous forum that's mostly for kicks. The only subtopic to take seriously is the special needs one. Now, let's see a good catfight.

[Anonymous]

Seems like she is better off than you. You married the money. It's not like you earned it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, I agree with "epic novelist." I'm so sick of the rude posts who benefit from the anonymity offered here. Well said EN.

I'm with you.

There is no need to be so ridiculously rude and mean to other people for "kicks", unless they are striving to be a sociopath.

[Anonymous]

OP, do your "friend" a huge favor and end the relationship. Especially as her extreme lack of riches make you feel so bad. The tone that you used in describing her lifestyle in contrast to yours reveals what's really in your heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I agree with "epic novelist." I'm so sick of the rude posts who benefit from the anonymity offered here. Well said EN.

I'm with you.

There is no need to be so ridiculously rude and mean to other people for "kicks", unless they are striving to be a sociopath.

exaggeration much?

sociopath - humorous analysis from someone who's probably not a therapist

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We actually learned this during the rigorous application process for my daughter's pre-k--- which my cousin's lame-ass kid did NOT get into. Only the very best of the very best get to go there, so my husband and hers had to undergo some very intimate scrutiny (screw-tiny?). This was, of course, after I'd passed the breast-to-ass ratio test with flying colors.

Now *THIS* is classy, labeling a kid "lame-ass".


Other than that, this thread has made me laugh so hard it brought tears to my eyes. And for that, a thank you is in called for. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

OP - I'm not even reading all the posts - so maybe you've stopped also.

I've been on both sides of this - and still on both sides with different sets of friends. Last summer I remember playing in our small backyard with my toddler laughing thinking about my friend who was probably in her large million-dollar yard with her full-size pool playing with her kids. Am I jealous, maybe a little, but I don't think it impacts our friendship. Just like I don't think (I hope) it impacts the friendship of friends that are doing "less well" than us.

I think the key is to be aware of what you do togethor and make sure that it isn't a financial deal breaker for either side. That is when I've had some friction. When I've had to say I can't afford to do something. It's uncomfortable for both sides.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, I agree with "epic novelist." I'm so sick of the rude posts who benefit from the anonymity offered here. Well said EN.

I'm with you.

There is no need to be so ridiculously rude and mean to other people for "kicks", unless they are striving to be a sociopath.

OP, actually, you're the sociopath and classist. Really ask yourself why you're asking advice on DCUM on how to befriend your close friend now that you've moved up in the world and she's merely sustaining herself on meager income.

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We actually learned this during the rigorous application process for my daughter's pre-k--- which my cousin's lame-ass kid did NOT get into. Only the very best of the very best get to go there, so my husband and hers had to undergo some very intimate scrutiny (screw-tiny?). This was, of course, after I'd passed the breast-to-ass ratio test with flying colors.

Now *THIS* is classy, labeling a kid "lame-ass".


Other than that, this thread has made me laugh so hard it brought tears to my eyes. And for that, a thank you is in called for. Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

We actually learned this during the rigorous application process for my daughter's pre-k--- which my cousin's lame-ass kid did NOT get into. Only the very best of the very best get to go there, so my husband and hers had to undergo some very intimate scrutiny (screw-tiny?). This was, of course, after I'd passed the breast-to-ass ratio test with flying colors.

Now *THIS* is classy, labeling a kid "lame-ass".


Other than that, this thread has made me laugh so hard it brought tears to my eyes. And for that, a thank you is in called for. Thank you!

I agree had me doubled over laughing. OP, thanks for this thought provoking posts. Perhaps, it jumped off track here and there, gave me some food for thought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems like she is better off than you. You married the money. It's not like you earned it.

great response, PP!

Really - how hard is it to marry rich?