I don't think my son will ever grow up, settle down with a nice girl

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every woman he dates gets increasingly more "interesting".
He was involved with a perfectly nice girl, but that ended. He's dated some lovely women, so I don't know why he insists on dating women who don't love him for him , and in my opinion are trashy.
I want to suggest women to him, but I know that wouldn't work. It's very frustrating.

Maybe he doesn't consider himself worthy of being loved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The histronics in this thread are hysterical.
No doubt most posters are 30 somethings which translates to be old enough to have a few young children and having no idea what it's like to be parent to a child over the age of 10, and being only slightly more mature than a teenager.

I'm sure all of you would love to see pictures of your kid's S/Os private parts right?

I'm sure none of you would be offended if your kid's date started talking about farts upon you meeting them.


What is so terrible or meddlesome about a mom being concerned about her offspring or not having a series of relationships that have ended badly.


Those of you bragging about your DH choosing you to piss of his mother really need to reevaluate your lives. I mean think about that really think about that.

And you all wonder why you have the problems you do.

I have better things to do with my life than clutch my pearls if someone talks about a fart.

Print this out and save it so you can remember to be as perfect as you think you are now when you son starts bringing girls home in 20 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The histronics in this thread are hysterical.
No doubt most posters are 30 somethings which translates to be old enough to have a few young children and having no idea what it's like to be parent to a child over the age of 10, and being only slightly more mature than a teenager.

I'm sure all of you would love to see pictures of your kid's S/Os private parts right?

I'm sure none of you would be offended if your kid's date started talking about farts upon you meeting them.


What is so terrible or meddlesome about a mom being concerned about her offspring or not having a series of relationships that have ended badly.


Those of you bragging about your DH choosing you to piss of his mother really need to reevaluate your lives. I mean think about that really think about that.

And you all wonder why you have the problems you do.

I have better things to do with my life than clutch my pearls if someone talks about a fart.

Print this out and save it so you can remember to be as perfect as you think you are now when you son starts bringing girls home in 20 years.

Hopefully I will have a sense of humor in 20 years. Hopefully I will realize that what matters is a good heart, love for my son and a willingness to be a part of my family, not whether someone has tattoos or immature humor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The histronics in this thread are hysterical.
No doubt most posters are 30 somethings which translates to be old enough to have a few young children and having no idea what it's like to be parent to a child over the age of 10, and being only slightly more mature than a teenager.

I'm sure all of you would love to see pictures of your kid's S/Os private parts right?

I'm sure none of you would be offended if your kid's date started talking about farts upon you meeting them.


What is so terrible or meddlesome about a mom being concerned about her offspring or not having a series of relationships that have ended badly.


Those of you bragging about your DH choosing you to piss of his mother really need to reevaluate your lives. I mean think about that really think about that.

And you all wonder why you have the problems you do.

I have better things to do with my life than clutch my pearls if someone talks about a fart.

Print this out and save it so you can remember to be as perfect as you think you are now when you son starts bringing girls home in 20 years.

Hopefully I will have a sense of humor in 20 years. Hopefully I will realize that what matters is a good heart, love for my son and a willingness to be a part of my family, not whether someone has tattoos or immature humor.

Where has OP complained about tattoos? . You have reading and comprehension issues , and other major problems you are projecting on to OP. Go back to nursing your 6 month old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he doesn't want to get married and settle down with a nice girl. Maybe he likes to have wild, trashy sex and there is a completely different side to him that you don't know because, you know, you are his mother. Maybe he is wildly happy living this life. Maybe he is actually gay. I have no idea why your son isn't finding some nice girl and settling down but there's lots of ways to live life and it's kind of sad to me that you find your kid to be a disappointment. Even if you keep your mouth shut, I am sure he senses that. In fact, he may be dating these "interesting" girls in part as a big Fuck You to you....As if so say, "so, mom, if I don't do what you want I am a disappointment, eh, well, see how much you like this...." Maybe you have a habit of wanting your son to fit into the mold of what you think a nice life is, and he resents that, and just wants to be appreciated for being himself.

I don't know what the issue is you have with younger girls. I was 24 when I met my husband and 26 when I married him. He is 8 years older. We have a great marriage.

No offense, OP, but you seem pretty judgmental.

Age isn't everything. I've known plenty of happy couples with significant age differences. Age is not that big of a deal when you are compatible, have similar goals and genuinely love each other.

I dated a guy who was 8 years older than me when I was in my early 20's. The guy had issues and in hindsight I can see that even though he was intelligent and fun he was emotionally immature and didn't want to date a grown up or live in a grown up world - he wanted to play, hang out in someone's basement, party. I was a young woman but he actually used to refer to me as a "young girl". It wasn't long until I matured w-a-y beyond him and I dumped him. He was never going to grow up....he was like dealing with a really old teenage boy. I hope he has a good life now but I honestly wouldn't be surprised if he hasn't changed a bit and I am 50 now!

I can not imagine me ever talking to (or about) his mom the way that you talk about older women who are concerned about their sons. You sound angry for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The histronics in this thread are hysterical.
No doubt most posters are 30 somethings which translates to be old enough to have a few young children and having no idea what it's like to be parent to a child over the age of 10, and being only slightly more mature than a teenager.

I'm sure all of you would love to see pictures of your kid's S/Os private parts right?

I'm sure none of you would be offended if your kid's date started talking about farts upon you meeting them.


What is so terrible or meddlesome about a mom being concerned about her offspring or not having a series of relationships that have ended badly.


Those of you bragging about your DH choosing you to piss of his mother really need to reevaluate your lives. I mean think about that really think about that.

And you all wonder why you have the problems you do.

I have better things to do with my life than clutch my pearls if someone talks about a fart.

Print this out and save it so you can remember to be as perfect as you think you are now when you son starts bringing girls home in 20 years.

Hopefully I will have a sense of humor in 20 years. Hopefully I will realize that what matters is a good heart, love for my son and a willingness to be a part of my family, not whether someone has tattoos or immature humor.

Where has OP complained about tattoos? . You have reading and comprehension issues , and other major problems you are projecting on to OP. Go back to nursing your 6 month old.

Go back to bothering your grown kids on your Jitterbug phone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was the "interesting" DIL. I was also the one who made time to drive the grandmother to podiatrist appts and learn family recipes. My efforts were never appreciated. The "nice girls" were too busy with Junior League and Pinterest. They were the shining stars.

Now I am their "interesting" ex-DIL.

My STBMIL has a lot of personality issues, but she figured out after my fiancé's divorce that she needed to stop trying to pick women for him. If she thinks I am "interesting", she has kept it to herself.

Your post is very confusing to me. Please explain what you mean. In one sentence, you say that you were "interesting". Does that mean that you were considered "trashy" by the inlaws? I'm guessing that's what you mean because in another sentence you say that the "nice girls" were to busy on Pinterest and Junior League, so I can only deduce that you were a trashy girl, but now you wish they considered you "interesting". Can you see how I'm confused?

[Anonymous]

I hear you, OP. I have watched many parents struggle to reconcile their adult children with their expectations and dreams.

If you have the sort of relationship where you can be blunt with your child, I would just come out with it. He will be offended, but he'll get it over it and see the truth of your words. A lot will depend on how you phrase things.

If you don't have that relationship with him, then you need to let go, and let him muddle through it. I know it's hard.

[Anonymous]

33 is still young for a guy. When he hits 40 he will start looking for wife material.

[Anonymous]

I know exactly what you mean, OP. In this case, I've been watching my DH's best friend date loser after loser (and in some cases toxic) over a period of 20 years. He was engaged to two of them and, thankfully, they ended up breaking it off before getting married. He is SUCH a great guy and I have recommended him to a number of my friends ('nice girls'), but he's not really interested in them. On the bright side, you and I should both be grateful they never married these women or had kids with them.

[Anonymous]

Does he have a drug or alcohol problem? Most men I know in that age bracket who run through women aren't seeking a partner they are seeking a playmate. They won't find too many their owns age to enable their party lifestyle. That would be very unsettling to me as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cut the leash on your kid and get a life. Maybe he'll get a life to... without you down his throat. Sorry, but just back off.

I've been nothing but nice and welcoming to the girls that he us dating. The only thing I've said after his last relationship ended is that maybe he should take a break for a bit.

You sound like a nosy, controlling meddler.

If you were my mother I'd be tempted to tell you to fuck off but I was raised with better manners than that (and, it sounds like, than you).

NP. Your manners are clearly atrocious, even for an anonymous internet forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was the "interesting" DIL. I was also the one who made time to drive the grandmother to podiatrist appts and learn family recipes. My efforts were never appreciated. The "nice girls" were too busy with Junior League and Pinterest. They were the shining stars.

Now I am their "interesting" ex-DIL.

My STBMIL has a lot of personality issues, but she figured out after my fiancé's divorce that she needed to stop trying to pick women for him. If she thinks I am "interesting", she has kept it to herself.

Your post is very confusing to me. Please explain what you mean. In one sentence, you say that you were "interesting". Does that mean that you were considered "trashy" by the inlaws? I'm guessing that's what you mean because in another sentence you say that the "nice girls" were to busy on Pinterest and Junior League, so I can only deduce that you were a trashy girl, but now you wish they considered you "interesting". Can you see how I'm confused?

You have reading comprehension problems. Read it again. Maybe aloud.

Nice girl daughters in laws were actually shallow socialites.

[Anonymous]

How do you even know who your son is dating? He's 33. I can't imagine bringing home all my dates to meet Mom. And you say he doesn't live with you? Why are you tweeting/texting him so much that you see naked photos of his women?

Frankly, it sounds like you could stand to cut the apron strings and also cut back on following him on social media. My oldest son is 30, and his love life has always been his own private business. I never would see or hear about the women he dated until it was very serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you even know who your son is dating? He's 33. I can't imagine bringing home all my dates to meet Mom. And you say he doesn't live with you? Why are you tweeting/texting him so much that you see naked photos of his women?

Frankly, it sounds like you could stand to cut the apron strings and also cut back on following him on social media. My oldest son is 30, and his love life has always been his own private business. I never would see or hear about the women he dated until it was very serious.

Maybe her son is telling her about the girls or bring them over?
If that's the case is she supposed to refuse to let them over?

How exactly is it her fault she sees the girlfriend's naked pics? She could see that by visiting once a week or is that too much? maybe son and gf shouldn't be posting naked pics.

I'm surprised you didn't consider this considering you are the perfect mum to an adult son.