I don't think my son will ever grow up, settle down with a nice girl

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing I can't wrap my head around. This is a mother clearly concerned about her sons well being and everyone's asking her to butt out?

Well, he is 33 and not 13. Nothing she has said so far in this PP sounds over the top to me, but beyond being concerned there really is not much she can do. He is an adult.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing I can't wrap my head around. This is a mother clearly concerned about her sons well being and everyone's asking her to butt out?

Well, he is 33 and not 13. Nothing she has said so far in this PP sounds over the top to me, but beyond being concerned there really is not much she can do. He is an adult.

That's true but as a mother, you'd still want your so to date/marry someone that you'd consider marriage material.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing I can't wrap my head around. This is a mother clearly concerned about her sons well being and everyone's asking her to butt out?

Well, he is 33 and not 13. Nothing she has said so far in this PP sounds over the top to me, but beyond being concerned there really is not much she can do. He is an adult.

That's true but as a mother, you'd still want your so to date/marry someone that you'd consider marriage material.

But OP isn't even marriage material. Not fair for her to hold son's GF to higher standards.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing I can't wrap my head around. This is a mother clearly concerned about her sons well being and everyone's asking her to butt out?

Well, he is 33 and not 13. Nothing she has said so far in this PP sounds over the top to me, but beyond being concerned there really is not much she can do. He is an adult.

That's true but as a mother, you'd still want your so to date/marry someone that you'd consider marriage material.

But OP isn't even marriage material. Not fair for her to hold son's GF to higher standards.

She's been married for 23 yrs. How is that not marriage material?

I have young kids, OP, but if my DS was older and had this issue, I'd be worried, too. But, it's fine for men to marry in their mid/late 30's, too, even early 40's, for having kids. My DH married me when he was 39 (his first marriage), and we have three kids.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing I can't wrap my head around. This is a mother clearly concerned about her sons well being and everyone's asking her to butt out?

Well, he is 33 and not 13. Nothing she has said so far in this PP sounds over the top to me, but beyond being concerned there really is not much she can do. He is an adult.

That's true but as a mother, you'd still want your so to date/marry someone that you'd consider marriage material.

But OP isn't even marriage material. Not fair for her to hold son's GF to higher standards.

She's been married for 23 yrs. How is that not marriage material?

I have young kids, OP, but if my DS was older and had this issue, I'd be worried, too. But, it's fine for men to marry in their mid/late 30's, too, even early 40's, for having kids. My DH married me when he was 39 (his first marriage), and we have three kids.

Divorcees who find a loser to take them with kids are not what any respectable person calls "marriage material."

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OP, I hope he doesn't get married anytime soon. You need to learn to butt out and let him live his life before you become a MIL. Because heaven help the poor girl he ends up with right now...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you're divorced and remarried. What do you know about tradition, manners, and not being trashy?

OMG WOW! Harsh...not OP either

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Or even better, a bitter, know it all, "interesting" girlfriend like all of these posters! What a MIL's dream!

LMAO!

[Anonymous]

He sounds like a Playboy with a lot of cash. Kind of like the guy in "Thomas Crown Affair"

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Maybe he doesn't want to get married and settle down with a nice girl. Maybe he likes to have wild, trashy sex and there is a completely different side to him that you don't know because, you know, you are his mother. Maybe he is wildly happy living this life. Maybe he is actually gay. I have no idea why your son isn't finding some nice girl and settling down but there's lots of ways to live life and it's kind of sad to me that you find your kid to be a disappointment. Even if you keep your mouth shut, I am sure he senses that. In fact, he may be dating these "interesting" girls in part as a big Fuck You to you....As if so say, "so, mom, if I don't do what you want I am a disappointment, eh, well, see how much you like this...." Maybe you have a habit of wanting your son to fit into the mold of what you think a nice life is, and he resents that, and just wants to be appreciated for being himself.

I don't know what the issue is you have with younger girls. I was 24 when I met my husband and 26 when I married him. He is 8 years older. We have a great marriage.

No offense, OP, but you seem pretty judgmental.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing I can't wrap my head around. This is a mother clearly concerned about her sons well being and everyone's asking her to butt out?

Well, he is 33 and not 13. Nothing she has said so far in this PP sounds over the top to me, but beyond being concerned there really is not much she can do. He is an adult.

That's true but as a mother, you'd still want your so to date/marry someone that you'd consider marriage material.

But OP isn't even marriage material. Not fair for her to hold son's GF to higher standards.

She's been married for 23 yrs. How is that not marriage material?

I have young kids, OP, but if my DS was older and had this issue, I'd be worried, too. But, it's fine for men to marry in their mid/late 30's, too, even early 40's, for having kids. My DH married me when he was 39 (his first marriage), and we have three kids.

Divorcees who find a loser to take them with kids are not what any respectable person calls "marriage material."

So, you are stating that divorcees with kids are not respectable? Are you living in 1950?

[Anonymous]

The histronics in this thread are hysterical.
No doubt most posters are 30 somethings which translates to be old enough to have a few young children and having no idea what it's like to be parent to a child over the age of 10, and being only slightly more mature than a teenager.

I'm sure all of you would love to see pictures of your kid's S/Os private parts right?

I'm sure none of you would be offended if your kid's date started talking about farts upon you meeting them.


What is so terrible or meddlesome about a mom being concerned about her offspring or not having a series of relationships that have ended badly.


Those of you bragging about your DH choosing you to piss of his mother really need to reevaluate your lives. I mean think about that really think about that.

And you all wonder why you have the problems you do.

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Anonymous wrote:This is the thing I can't wrap my head around. This is a mother clearly concerned about her sons well being and everyone's asking her to butt out?

Well, he is 33 and not 13. Nothing she has said so far in this PP sounds over the top to me, but beyond being concerned there really is not much she can do. He is an adult.

That's true but as a mother, you'd still want your so to date/marry someone that you'd consider marriage material.

I don't expect my kids to always date marriage material. Goodness knows I dated plenty of guys that were never marriage material in my eyes. But for a grown man to routinely date/dump younger, less experienced women...that pattern would be a worry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The histronics in this thread are hysterical.
No doubt most posters are 30 somethings which translates to be old enough to have a few young children and having no idea what it's like to be parent to a child over the age of 10, and being only slightly more mature than a teenager.

I'm sure all of you would love to see pictures of your kid's S/Os private parts right?

I'm sure none of you would be offended if your kid's date started talking about farts upon you meeting them.


What is so terrible or meddlesome about a mom being concerned about her offspring or not having a series of relationships that have ended badly.


Those of you bragging about your DH choosing you to piss of his mother really need to reevaluate your lives. I mean think about that really think about that.

And you all wonder why you have the problems you do.

I have better things to do with my life than clutch my pearls if someone talks about a fart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he doesn't want to get married and settle down with a nice girl. Maybe he likes to have wild, trashy sex and there is a completely different side to him that you don't know because, you know, you are his mother. Maybe he is wildly happy living this life. Maybe he is actually gay. I have no idea why your son isn't finding some nice girl and settling down but there's lots of ways to live life and it's kind of sad to me that you find your kid to be a disappointment. Even if you keep your mouth shut, I am sure he senses that. In fact, he may be dating these "interesting" girls in part as a big Fuck You to you....As if so say, "so, mom, if I don't do what you want I am a disappointment, eh, well, see how much you like this...." Maybe you have a habit of wanting your son to fit into the mold of what you think a nice life is, and he resents that, and just wants to be appreciated for being himself.

I don't know what the issue is you have with younger girls. I was 24 when I met my husband and 26 when I married him. He is 8 years older. We have a great marriage.

No offense, OP, but you seem pretty judgmental.

I love how people start out with no offense and then proceed to be offensive. It's especially hysterical when they accuse someone of being judgmental after being highly judgmental themselves.

But the main reason for my reply is the bold nothing wrong with age gaps, but when the dates get progressively younger it's usually an indication of something being amiss.