I don't think my son will ever grow up, settle down with a nice girl

[Anonymous]

Every woman he dates gets increasingly more "interesting".
He was involved with a perfectly nice girl, but that ended. He's dated some lovely women, so I don't know why he insists on dating women who don't love him for him , and in my opinion are trashy.
I want to suggest women to him, but I know that wouldn't work. It's very frustrating.

[Anonymous]

Why are they trashy? And how old is your son?

[Anonymous]

Cut the leash on your kid and get a life. Maybe he'll get a life to... without you down his throat. Sorry, but just back off.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, the more you suggest women, the mor ehe will probably rebel.

[Anonymous]

I was the "interesting" DIL. I was also the one who made time to drive the grandmother to podiatrist appts and learn family recipes. My efforts were never appreciated. The "nice girls" were too busy with Junior League and Pinterest. They were the shining stars.

Now I am their "interesting" ex-DIL.

My STBMIL has a lot of personality issues, but she figured out after my fiancé's divorce that she needed to stop trying to pick women for him. If she thinks I am "interesting", she has kept it to herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are they trashy? And how old is your son?

They are "models" and or lack manners. He is 33 and that's the other thing the girlfriends keep getting younger from close to his age to the current one is 21, his ex was 26.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are they trashy? And how old is your son?

They are "models" and or lack manners. He is 33 and that's the other thing the girlfriends keep getting younger from close to his age to the current one is 21, his ex was 26.

You sound like you lack for manners. For instance, it's rude to comment on someone's choice of romantic partner, especially when your comments are merely vague and insulting generalizations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cut the leash on your kid and get a life. Maybe he'll get a life to... without you down his throat. Sorry, but just back off.

I've been nothing but nice and welcoming to the girls that he us dating. The only thing I've said after his last relationship ended is that maybe he should take a break for a bit.

[Anonymous]

Usually if a man has relationship issues look no further than the dysfunctional
relationship between his parents.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he won't "settle down" with a traditional girl. That's fine. There are a lot of ways to live a life. Nuclear family life doesn't work for everyone.

Live YOUR life, OP.

[Anonymous]

Harsh crowd. I also have two sons (they are young) and just hope they find good partners and are in healthy and stable relationships. I hear your worry OP. Some men just also never mature despite getting older. My single 30 something professional friends are running into these guys. He might just have to learn the hard way what qualities he needs to be focusing on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually if a man has relationship issues look no further than the dysfunctional
relationship between his parents.

There's a lot of truth to this, OP. Did/do you have a good, healthy relationship with your husband?

Did you teach your son what to look for in a partner and what to be for that partner? (This only works well when you've modeled it in your own romantic relationship).

[Anonymous]

Can he afford to move out?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually if a man has relationship issues look no further than the dysfunctional
relationship between his parents.

There's a lot of truth to this, OP. Did/do you have a good, healthy relationship with your husband?

Did you teach your son what to look for in a partner and what to be for that partner? (This only works well when you've modeled it in your own romantic relationship).

I can admit that my boys father was not the perfect choice. I married him young, and that relationship was not good. He wasn't the perfect man, but he loved his boys and always did right by them, and was a good man in other ways especially as he aged.

Their father was not their only role model I've been married to my husband for 23 years, since my boys were quiet small and he is a great man, and I don;t think our relationship is out of the realm of normal.

I understand what you are saying, but my younger son does not have these issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can he afford to move out?

He has lived on his own for many years.