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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe he doesn't want to get married and settle down with a nice girl. Maybe he likes to have wild, trashy sex and there is a completely different side to him that you don't know because, you know, you are his mother. Maybe he is wildly happy living this life. Maybe he is actually gay. I have no idea why your son isn't finding some nice girl and settling down but there's lots of ways to live life and it's kind of sad to me that you find your kid to be a disappointment. Even if you keep your mouth shut, I am sure he senses that. In fact, he may be dating these "interesting" girls in part as a big Fuck You to you....As if so say, "so, mom, if I don't do what you want I am a disappointment, eh, well, see how much you like this...." Maybe you have a habit of wanting your son to fit into the mold of what you think a nice life is, and he resents that, and just wants to be appreciated for being himself.

I don't know what the issue is you have with younger girls. I was 24 when I met my husband and 26 when I married him. He is 8 years older. We have a great marriage.

No offense, OP, but you seem pretty judgmental. [/quote]

Age isn't everything.  I've known plenty of happy couples with significant age differences.  Age is not that big of a deal when you are compatible, have similar goals and genuinely love each other.

I dated a guy who was 8 years older than me when I was in my early 20's.  The guy had issues and in hindsight I can see that even though he was intelligent and fun he was emotionally immature and didn't want to date a grown up or live in a grown up world - he wanted to play, hang out in someone's basement, party. I was a young woman but he actually used to refer to me as a "young girl".  It wasn't long until I matured w-a-y beyond him and I dumped him.  He was never going to grow up....he was like dealing with a really old teenage boy.  I hope he has a good life now but I honestly wouldn't be surprised if he hasn't changed a bit and I am 50 now!

I can not imagine me ever talking to (or about) his mom the way that you talk about older women who are concerned about their sons.  You sound angry for some reason.[/quote]

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