My 18 yo son is a pothead. What now?

[Anonymous]

Yup. I'd tell him to smoke all the pot he wants, but he won't be living with us or getting any money for college.

[Anonymous]

I just hooked on to the fact that college is actually in the cards here. If my son was in your sons position, college would be out of the question, or he could get a fucking job and pay for it himself.

Also, as someone who hung out with a lot of pot heads as a teen/young adult, lots of people (apparently including your therapist - hint you should not pay her another cent if her response to "My son, who you are working with, is smoking pot regularly" is not to drug test/drug treatment) seem to think being a pothead is harmless. I've never met a pothead who was not severely depressed.

Just to give a little insight: the reason I quit pot cold turkey was when my 24 year old "friend" told me he would just kill him self if he didn't have access to pot.

[Anonymous]

? PPs singular suicide threatening d-bag friend convinced him all potheads are d-bags. Good science PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stick him in rehab. You can't have a good relationship with him if he's dead.

So sorry, OP. A child doing drugs is one of the worst calamities that can befall a family.

There's heroin. There's pot. These two are not the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stick him in rehab. You can't have a good relationship with him if he's dead.

So sorry, OP. A child doing drugs is one of the worst calamities that can befall a family.

There's heroin. There's pot. These two are not the same.

Ex-pothead PP here, and there isn't as big a difference between pot and heroin as the potivists want you to believe.

That suicidal pothead' solder sister was a heroin addict with a record, and he took a lot of pride over the fact he never got hooked on dope, but IMHO once you are smoking weed everyday the differences are negligible.

Yes, weed is not physically addictive (or, in truth, we don't have enough evidence that it is addictive) but psychological addiction is not a topic to scoff at, no matter what the potivists say.

Remember opium was considered a non addictive substance with a wide array of medical uses (from the common cold to maternity issues) for decades. And we see where that got us.

[Anonymous]

Do you think college might motivate him so he'd stop the pot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stick him in rehab. You can't have a good relationship with him if he's dead.

So sorry, OP. A child doing drugs is one of the worst calamities that can befall a family.

There's heroin. There's pot. These two are not the same.

The pp is clearly a troll.

[Anonymous]

OP, see if you can wriggle out of his sister whether he is doing other drugs. She may know and was just telling you about the pot to signal greater concerns without actually telling you. I agree with PP that the explosive behavior etc could be pot, but that is not so usual. It is a hallmark of use of other drugs, though.

[Anonymous]

Did you read the short and tragic life of Robert Peace?
There is smoking pot and then there is having your life revolve around it.
Did any kid ever go away to college and do less drugs?
Maybe time for you to talk to your own therapist to figure out what makes the best sense?
All I know is that I have a friend whose child died of an opiate overdose, and her heart is broken forever. Maybe a parents Narc Anon meeting could help?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stick him in rehab. You can't have a good relationship with him if he's dead.

So sorry, OP. A child doing drugs is one of the worst calamities that can befall a family.

Boo this man!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uUPHlAbAf2I

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Poor school attendance and performance. Fine work attendance. Just a very difficult person to live with. He would not change therapists. We are lucky he goes to this one. She thinks high octane rebellion, senioritis on steroids, etc. He got into a great school, his grades took a dive at the end.

Where does he work (or in what area)?

Sometimes the academics and work clash. If his skills are solid for the most part (as in the basics) and he does well at work, maybe you need to help him find his niche there.

Some of the biggest potheads I knew in high school are now successful business owners in trades. One took time off but eventually returned to college to earn a degree in engineering. My own cousins - who smoked for much of their teen years - are all very successful, and not all have college degrees.

[Anonymous]

Addiction and depression is what I would be concerned about. How much and how often is really the indicator, OP. We have a lot of addiction and mental health issues among family members. Needing to use frequently is not about the kind of drug, it is about not being able to function without self-medicating.

[Anonymous]

My kid smokes pot all the time. She's a college senior and has been smoking since she was a high school sophomore. I hate it, but ignore it. It's just a plant, and she's a responsible kid. In the big scheme of things, marijuana is not the hill I'm going to die on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid smokes pot all the time. She's a college senior and has been smoking since she was a high school sophomore. I hate it, but ignore it. It's just a plant, and she's a responsible kid. In the big scheme of things, marijuana is not the hill I'm going to die on.

Wow. Frankly, mom, I would consider myself a major failure as a parent if this turns out to be my kids' story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kid smokes pot all the time. She's a college senior and has been smoking since she was a high school sophomore. I hate it, but ignore it. It's just a plant, and she's a responsible kid. In the big scheme of things, marijuana is not the hill I'm going to die on.

Wow. Frankly, mom, I would consider myself a major failure as a parent if this turns out to be my kids' story.

LOL. You do realize that pot will be legal nationwide within the next 10-15 years, right? That Colorado hasn't blown up?

I cannot believe how uptight people are getting over this subject. Y'all need to get your smoke on.