10yo embarrased by hairy legs and wants to shave. i am at a loss.

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Anonymous wrote:Please take her to get waxed. So much better than shaving and ingrowns etc

Yes but it's very painful, esp for a child

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, my daughter is 13 and still doesn't shave. Most of her friends don't either. Why does a 10yr old care? I find that sad. She is just a kid.

I am the mother of a daughter that is pale and has dark hair. My guess is that your little girl doesn't have to endure the relentless teasing of kids because of this issue. If she did, you might be a little more open minded about it.
She is just a kid, but body hair comes in differently on different people. The reason a 10 year old cares is because the teasing can be brutal and if it can help her project a positive body image for herself, why should you find it sad?

+1 you tell 'em

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, my daughter is 13 and still doesn't shave. Most of her friends don't either. Why does a 10yr old care? I find that sad. She is just a kid.

I am the mother of a daughter that is pale and has dark hair. My guess is that your little girl doesn't have to endure the relentless teasing of kids because of this issue. If she did, you might be a little more open minded about it.
She is just a kid, but body hair comes in differently on different people. The reason a 10 year old cares is because the teasing can be brutal and if it can help her project a positive body image for herself, why should you find it sad?

+1 you tell 'em

Sorry but having a positive body image doesn't come with make-up, shaving, nose jobs, botox etc.... If you are teaching that, you are the problem.

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? Why not let her shave? She is clearly at an age where her peers are noticing and she is, too. That means it's time to shave, not whatever arbitrary age you've decided on. I know it must be hard to see your little girl move into this phase of life, but it's happened and it's wrong to force her to be embarrassed about her body because you put your preferences first.

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Anonymous wrote:Please take her to get waxed. So much better than shaving and ingrowns etc

Cosmetologist here. Do not wax young girls skin, anywhere. They have very thin and more delicate skin than adults and it is extremely painful. Honestly, between this and the other thread about the Dad who waxes his 5yr old's unibrow, you wonder why girls have such a bad image of themselves.

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I don't see the issue. Why can't a 10 year old shave? 10 isn't a child anymore. I got my period at 10.

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NP here - While we're on the subject, my 3rd grader has started to get self-conscious about the "mustache" on her upper lip. She is also fair skin/dark hair, and the facial hair is already quite noticeable. Any suggestions for removal that won't make it worse? I really am saddened that she feels the need to "fix" anything about herself, but I guess a couple of kids have pointed the hair out to her and now she's embarrassed. Normally I teach her to be proud of herself (like we do not straighten her curly hair, we embrace it) but I guess this is something that she'd probably want to remedy down the line anyway...

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My friends and I were shaving at that age.

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Anonymous wrote:I don't see the issue. Why can't a 10 year old shave? 10 isn't a child anymore. I got my period at 10.

Only on DCUM

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My dd (10) shaves - she started at 9 (as soon as she expressed the desire). Got her a nice electric razor. I did it the first two times for her, watched her do it the third time and now she does it on her own. It has never been an issue. My mother also mad me wait and to this day, I don't understand why.

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Anonymous wrote:Please take her to get waxed. So much better than shaving and ingrowns etc

Cosmetologist here. Do not wax young girls skin, anywhere. They have very thin and more delicate skin than adults and it is extremely painful. Honestly, between this and the other thread about the Dad who waxes his 5yr old's unibrow, you wonder why girls have such a bad image of themselves.

While I agree with you about waxing, I don't understand your point about shaving resulting in a poor body image. Having something bother you looks wise that can easily be remedied, being teased for it and being told that you must wait till an arbitrary age to correct it will harm their body image more than shaving.

I have told my DD that if there is anything about her body she is unhappy with she should come talk to me about it. Especially when it come to grooming. I want her to feel free to come to me about these things and not take measures into her own hands (I have a unibrow and wasn't taught how to correct it. So I "fixed" it myself, with terrible results.) I told her that I would help her learn the right way to handle these things. And it worked. DD came to me recently and said that she felt her eyebrows were too bushy. We trimmed (not plucked or shaved) them and DD was thrilled.

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Anonymous wrote:Please take her to get waxed. So much better than shaving and ingrowns etc

Cosmetologist here. Do not wax young girls skin, anywhere. They have very thin and more delicate skin than adults and it is extremely painful. Honestly, between this and the other thread about the Dad who waxes his 5yr old's unibrow, you wonder why girls have such a bad image of themselves.

Thank you!!!

Waxing would also be a fairly major ongoing expense.

Just let her shave. NP here and I started shaving at 10 as well.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, my daughter is 13 and still doesn't shave. Most of her friends don't either. Why does a 10yr old care? I find that sad. She is just a kid.

I am the mother of a daughter that is pale and has dark hair. My guess is that your little girl doesn't have to endure the relentless teasing of kids because of this issue. If she did, you might be a little more open minded about it.
She is just a kid, but body hair comes in differently on different people. The reason a 10 year old cares is because the teasing can be brutal and if it can help her project a positive body image for herself, why should you find it sad?

+1 you tell 'em

Sorry but having a positive body image doesn't come with make-up, shaving, nose jobs, botox etc.... If you are teaching that, you are the problem.

Shaving your legs is a grooming issue, so it's different from makeup. It's obviously very different than a nose job or botox.

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11:45 here. OP, I don't see this as a big deal. Teach your daughter to shave her legs. She'll quickly decide whether she wants to bother with it or not.

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Anonymous wrote:Why does body hair disgust us so?

Because the companies who make shaving products make a pretty penny from people who purchase their products, and so they employ techniques to convince people that body hair is disgusting.