10yo embarrased by hairy legs and wants to shave. i am at a loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute. Psycho Nonshaving Mom, are you also the mom that, a few weeks back, posted about how your daughter gets to decide if/when she wears shoes? Under the guise of "consensual parenting."

If not, you and she should get together for the wackiest play date ever.

A) I didn't call you names so please refrain from calling me names.

B) No, I'm not that mother. Shoes outside the house, if you're going to be walking, are a safety issue and thus non negotiable. We have a "no shoes in the house" because that's part of my husband's culture and because I find shoes darn uncomfortable, so the moment we walk in the door we change into slippers or non-slip socks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute. Psycho Nonshaving Mom, are you also the mom that, a few weeks back, posted about how your daughter gets to decide if/when she wears shoes? Under the guise of "consensual parenting."

If not, you and she should get together for the wackiest play date ever.

Oh oh!! Are you the crazy perfume poster that thinks people who wear chanel should be kicked out of places and are low-SES?

No, I have nothing against people wear perfume unless they marinade in it.

A dab of scent is ok. Showering in it, so that people around get a headache or feel like they're about to throw up, is quite another thing and it's rude.

[Anonymous]

Has this just become psycho nonshaving mom's thread or is the OP still here? Did she get her answer about her little girl's problem?

I loathe attention seeking thread derailers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait a minute. Psycho Nonshaving Mom, are you also the mom that, a few weeks back, posted about how your daughter gets to decide if/when she wears shoes? Under the guise of "consensual parenting."

If not, you and she should get together for the wackiest play date ever.

Honestly I didn't know these nutty crunchy san fransiscoesque moms existed in DC... have I been living in a bubble?

Takoma Park, I'm guessing?

[Anonymous]

Let her shave and help her find a way to remove any body hair that bothers her. My 13 year old started shaving as soon as she expressed interest. At this point, she also gets her eyebrows waxed and uses hair removal cream on her upper lip.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nair?

Yuuuuup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let her shave and help her find a way to remove any body hair that bothers her. My 13 year old started shaving as soon as she expressed interest. At this point, she also gets her eyebrows waxed and uses hair removal cream on her upper lip.

How about a bikini wax next?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So the discussion here is interesting, but I'm at a real loss here on one very simple issue: if a 10 year old (or almost-10, i.e., fourth grader) wants to shave her legs and is embarrassed by them, will she likely be the 'first' in her class to shave or are there others out there who have already started. FWIW, DC is a competitive gymnast who also dives: her legs are 'on display' a lot.

My concern is that if she's the first to shave, she may get as much teasing as she's nervous about getting RE the abundant hair on her legs.

TIA: we have recently moved and I don't have a strong circle of friends I can consult here, nor do I want to scope out my daughter's peers' legs.....

Have you read the thread? She will not be the first to shave, because many others also started shaving at 10.

My daughter is 12 and none of her friends shave, or at least her whole soccer team. It is not normal to shave in 3/4th grade. Maybe once middle school some start but not before that.

[Anonymous]

Not all of us have blue-eyed blonde haired children for whom the hair is barely noticeable.

My Irish Mediterranean mix has pale skin and lots of very dark hair. I couldn't see telling her she can't shave because the fair haired Larla next door doesn't or the gang of fair haired Larlaettes on her soccer team don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let her shave and help her find a way to remove any body hair that bothers her. My 13 year old started shaving as soon as she expressed interest. At this point, she also gets her eyebrows waxed and uses hair removal cream on her upper lip.

How about a bikini wax next?

I would have loved a bikini wax at age 11. I refused to wear a bathing suit at that age because of hair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is 12 and none of her friends shave, or at least her whole soccer team. It is not normal to shave in 3/4th grade. Maybe once middle school some start but not before that.

It is perfectly normal whether or not it's done by the soccer/softball/lacrosse/water polo team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all of us have blue-eyed blonde haired children for whom the hair is barely noticeable.

My Irish Mediterranean mix has pale skin and lots of very dark hair. I couldn't see telling her she can't shave because the fair haired Larla next door doesn't or the gang of fair haired Larlaettes on her soccer team don't.

+1

My DD is blue-eyed with light brown hair, but has very furry legs. Nowhere close to puberty, but started shaving at 10. Not sure what the ancestry is that makes us so furry, but it definitely comes from my dad's side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let her shave and help her find a way to remove any body hair that bothers her. My 13 year old started shaving as soon as she expressed interest. At this point, she also gets her eyebrows waxed and uses hair removal cream on her upper lip.

How about a bikini wax next?

A bikini wax at age 11 or 12 would have changed my whole body-image. I didn't even know they existed until high school, and it was transformative!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all of us have blue-eyed blonde haired children for whom the hair is barely noticeable.

My Irish Mediterranean mix has pale skin and lots of very dark hair. I couldn't see telling her she can't shave because the fair haired Larla next door doesn't or the gang of fair haired Larlaettes on her soccer team don't.

+100
Who the hell cares what the other girls are doing and when? My daughter takes after me (fair skin, lots of dark hair) and if she expresses a desire to shave because she's bothered by her noticeable leg hair, I will absolutely support her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let her shave and help her find a way to remove any body hair that bothers her. My 13 year old started shaving as soon as she expressed interest. At this point, she also gets her eyebrows waxed and uses hair removal cream on her upper lip.

How about a bikini wax next?

A bikini wax at age 11 or 12 would have changed my whole body-image. I didn't even know they existed until high school, and it was transformative!

This is a joke, right? Please tell me this is sarcasm.