Women: How can Men make themselves more attractive to you?

[Anonymous]

Don't be a child. Clean up after yourself, take responsibility for helping to run the household (as opposed to waiting for me to tell you what needs to be done), use your words instead of shutting down when something's wrong.

[Anonymous]

Be an equal partner around the house so I don't have to nag. I really don't want to nag you (and clearly men hate it), but please pick up after yourself and do basic things to take care of your kids and home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the words, "I cherish you" ever came out of my mouth while speaking to my wife, she'd laugh me out of the room.

I was thinking about this the other day. All of those romantic songs (especially the ones from the 70s and 80s). Kenn Rogers, all the other duets, etc. Lady in Red. If you actually spoke the lyrics to your wife or girlfriend, they would think it was the most pansy, unattractive thing ever. Somehow it's OK to hear it in a song or read it in a poem, but not hear it from your man.

I was thinking about this last night when I was listening to the Temptations singing "Ain't too proud to beg." He talks about how he doesn't mind looking weak or people laughing at him begging because it's that important that the girl stay with him. If the guy actually did these things, the woman would not be attracted to him, but the way David Ruffin belts it out, it's badass.

One time a guy begged me not to break up with him. He said I'm literally begging you and I thought it was amazing. He was a really confident guy, had a dangerous job, and also the only guy I've been with who was truly comfortable talking about his feelings.

Ive had the same and same reaction. To me it actually proved how confident he was. I still think he was the most purely heater guy Ive ever dated- there was never any pretense, he was always 100% honest so I knew exactly where he stood, knew he meant what he said.

Even though I was mad enough at the time not to accept his apology and agree to date him again, I still think back at that interaction and honestly I could practically jerk off over it. The expression on his face was so plaintive, so open- and so masculine at the same time, like he was so desperate for me.

I texted him about a year later (I had moved cities) but he was dating someone else, and again, we are in different cities. We might get back together one day though. That look on his face... HOT.

Advice to dudes: if you really like a girl, be honest and be plaintive. Any strong woman will not be turned off by it.

Agreed. It is sexy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the words, "I cherish you" ever came out of my mouth while speaking to my wife, she'd laugh me out of the room.

I was thinking about this the other day. All of those romantic songs (especially the ones from the 70s and 80s). Kenn Rogers, all the other duets, etc. Lady in Red. If you actually spoke the lyrics to your wife or girlfriend, they would think it was the most pansy, unattractive thing ever. Somehow it's OK to hear it in a song or read it in a poem, but not hear it from your man.

I was thinking about this last night when I was listening to the Temptations singing "Ain't too proud to beg." He talks about how he doesn't mind looking weak or people laughing at him begging because it's that important that the girl stay with him. If the guy actually did these things, the woman would not be attracted to him, but the way David Ruffin belts it out, it's badass.

One time a guy begged me not to break up with him. He said I'm literally begging you and I thought it was amazing. He was a really confident guy, had a dangerous job, and also the only guy I've been with who was truly comfortable talking about his feelings.

Ive had the same and same reaction. To me it actually proved how confident he was. I still think he was the most purely heater guy Ive ever dated- there was never any pretense, he was always 100% honest so I knew exactly where he stood, knew he meant what he said.

Even though I was mad enough at the time not to accept his apology and agree to date him again, I still think back at that interaction and honestly I could practically jerk off over it. The expression on his face was so plaintive, so open- and so masculine at the same time, like he was so desperate for me.

I texted him about a year later (I had moved cities) but he was dating someone else, and again, we are in different cities. We might get back together one day though. That look on his face... HOT.

Advice to dudes: if you really like a girl, be honest and be plaintive. Any strong woman will not be turned off by it.

As long as she finds you attractive. If she doesn't, then this is creepy.

[Anonymous]

don't gain weight after a relationship (an obscene amount), be driven, be kind.

[Anonymous]

all this 'just be yourself' and the ladies will grow to love you is poison to boys.

If they are shown the truths of the world they will be prepared:

instead of 'just be yourself', it should be "maximize your looks, money, and status". the latter two, for most men, are tied to education, drive, and career success and the first is about maximizing your health and physique to the best of your abilities.

focusing on these three attributes to the best of what you can do will make you feel good and satisfied, and the women will come running for you.

inspired by the food blogger suicide thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If the words, "I cherish you" ever came out of my mouth while speaking to my wife, she'd laugh me out of the room.

I was thinking about this the other day. All of those romantic songs (especially the ones from the 70s and 80s). Kenn Rogers, all the other duets, etc. Lady in Red. If you actually spoke the lyrics to your wife or girlfriend, they would think it was the most pansy, unattractive thing ever. Somehow it's OK to hear it in a song or read it in a poem, but not hear it from your man.

I was thinking about this last night when I was listening to the Temptations singing "Ain't too proud to beg." He talks about how he doesn't mind looking weak or people laughing at him begging because it's that important that the girl stay with him. If the guy actually did these things, the woman would not be attracted to him, but the way David Ruffin belts it out, it's badass.

One time a guy begged me not to break up with him. He said I'm literally begging you and I thought it was amazing. He was a really confident guy, had a dangerous job, and also the only guy I've been with who was truly comfortable talking about his feelings.

Ive had the same and same reaction. To me it actually proved how confident he was. I still think he was the most purely heater guy Ive ever dated- there was never any pretense, he was always 100% honest so I knew exactly where he stood, knew he meant what he said.

Even though I was mad enough at the time not to accept his apology and agree to date him again, I still think back at that interaction and honestly I could practically jerk off over it. The expression on his face was so plaintive, so open- and so masculine at the same time, like he was so desperate for me.

I texted him about a year later (I had moved cities) but he was dating someone else, and again, we are in different cities. We might get back together one day though. That look on his face... HOT.

Advice to dudes: if you really like a girl, be honest and be plaintive. Any strong woman will not be turned off by it.

As long as she finds you attractive. If she doesn't, then this is creepy.

this. the pp's message only applies if she already finds you attractive and you sexually turn her on. otherwise you will be labeled a 'creep'.

rule number 1 to avoid being a creep. be attractive.

[youtube]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hbeEuYAZFL4

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't sit on the couch for extended periods while I'm doing chores.

Send me love notes just because.

Every once in a while, do something sexy to sweep me off my feet.

Jewelry for no reason.

Tell me you cherish me.

I'd gag at most of this. Choreplay doesn't work on me either.

PP seems to have queenbee complex. OP, the answers will depend on the individual woman you have in mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't sit on the couch for extended periods while I'm doing chores.

Send me love notes just because.

Every once in a while, do something sexy to sweep me off my feet.

Jewelry for no reason.

Tell me you cherish me.

Same with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Virile
Kind
Generous
Smart
Knows how to fix stuff
Resourceful
Loving
Ambitious

You don't need to buy me anything!

Ad to those: Genuine, and hard working.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eat healthy and workout--outdoors if at all possible (run, bike, swim, row, hike...)
Shave your face
Trim
I find a man who can do home repairs/fix things SO attractive. Especially if you take the initiative/I don't need to nag and beg you to do it
Be a gentleman. Open doors, give up your seat on a crowded bus for someone who needs it more than you do, take off your hat indoors

This. I love DH but it takes him FOREVER to do/fix anything that I get fed up and do it myself. Then he feels bad when he sees me doing it so he tells me that I don't have to, he'll do. Which makes me even more annoyed.

[Anonymous]

Yell across the house to please make him a sammich.

Touch/rub the small of my back for no reason.

Flirt with other housewives and make me wanna stake my claim.

Feats of strength.

Stretch goal. Put clothes in hamper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be an equal partner around the house so I don't have to nag. I really don't want to nag you (and clearly men hate it), but please pick up after yourself and do basic things to take care of your kids and home.

THIS!!

Most women hate, HATE nagging. If you would just do the thing you said you'd do in a timely fashion, there would be no nagging. Also, if you reliably do the things you say you are going to do, then the few times you don't get to them won't be such a big deal.

I also love a man that know how to fix things but also knows when something is beyond him and calls a professional. Also, if you say you can/will fix something but don't have time to do it, CALL A PROFESSIONAL. Otherwise there will be nagging because I still think you intend on taking care of it like you said you would (see above).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be an equal partner around the house so I don't have to nag. I really don't want to nag you (and clearly men hate it), but please pick up after yourself and do basic things to take care of your kids and home.

THIS!!

Most women hate, HATE nagging. If you would just do the thing you said you'd do in a timely fashion, there would be no nagging. Also, if you reliably do the things you say you are going to do, then the few times you don't get to them won't be such a big deal.

I also love a man that know how to fix things but also knows when something is beyond him and calls a professional. Also, if you say you can/will fix something but don't have time to do it, CALL A PROFESSIONAL. Otherwise there will be nagging because I still think you intend on taking care of it like you said you would (see above).

Yep. This exactly. The funny thing is men think women enjoy nagging when in reality we hate it and just would love a partner who is as committed to keeping/making things as nice as we are.

[Anonymous]

Sorry chicks. Men get it. Haven't you figured that out yet. Men just don't give a shit about meeting your homemaking expectations. Outsource or DIY. Nagging is pointles.