Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

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Anonymous wrote:If u take him in, advise him not to stare and maybe keep him facing the lockers.

hahahahaha yeah, you are hilarious.

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Anonymous wrote:At our pool club, there are no boys 5 or over allowed in the women's locker room. There have been too many incidents with boys that age acting up, so the owners were very responsible in making the majority feel comfortable. OP, you have to suck it up. I would bet you are the type to not watch your kid, either. I would get you thrown out.

My two year old son is much more likely to act up than my quiet well behaved rule-following 5 year old. Do you suggest I send my 5 year old into the men's locker room on his own for that reason?

Are mothers of 5 year olds prohibited from taking them swimming or are 5 year old boys just expected to be in the men's changing room alone and completely unsupervised? Or do mothers of sons always require an adult male chaperone? Please answer these questions, I'd like to know precisely what you expect us to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At our pool club, there are no boys 5 or over allowed in the women's locker room. There have been too many incidents with boys that age acting up, so the owners were very responsible in making the majority feel comfortable. OP, you have to suck it up. I would bet you are the type to not watch your kid, either. I would get you thrown out.

My two year old son is much more likely to act up than my quiet well behaved rule-following 5 year old. Do you suggest I send my 2 year old into the men's locker room on his own for that reason? (correction)

Are mothers of 5 year olds prohibited from taking them swimming or are 5 year old boys just expected to be in the men's changing room alone and completely unsupervised? Or do mothers of sons always require an adult male chaperone? Please answer these questions, I'd like to know precisely what you expect us to do.

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Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how many people on DCUM (quite reasonably) are very protective of their sons because of pedophiles on the playground, in extracurriculars, etc., but then demand that 6-year-olds be sent into LOCKER ROOMS alone. Unbelievable.

She can take him home with a robe on or change him in a non locker room, in a family changing room, or in the hallway with a towel around him. There are lots of alternatives.

Nice - and where should Mom change??? Today may have been unseasonably warm but doubt this will hold true, I know I don't want to go outside or get in my car in 30 degree weather with a wet bathing suit on even if under clothing.

As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

Do you understand not all pools are as plush as yours? There is one bathroom or locker room per gender. I have gotten stranger looks changing my son at four outside than bringing him in a locker room. He is in swim lessons year round. So, I bring him out soaking wet in 10-30 degree weather soaking his car seat and let him freeze. No. Get over it. A 5-6-7 year old is not ready to be alone. My child has delays and he needs help getting changed (hence the swim lessons for coordination). The county pool we go to is very very basic.

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Anonymous wrote:How close to 6 is your kid? FWIW, I think if he's tall and close to 6, he belongs in the family room or in the men's locker room or else changed at home. It wasn't cold today so you could have easily taken him out. My guess is that your kid is very close to the age of 6.

Why do you think he's almost 6? My nephew who is 4y 9m is 48" tall and could easily pass for 6 yo. What do you think my sister and I should do when we take our sons (almost 5, 4.5, 3 and 2.5) to our pool without a family room?

According to some, the oldest should take and watch the little ones.

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The most interesting part about this thread is that most posters have no problem with young boys going into the women's locker room, but no one has even mentioned bringing a young girl into a men's locker room.

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At our pool club, there are no boys 5 or over allowed in the women's locker room. There have been too many incidents with boys that age acting up, so the owners were very responsible in making the majority feel comfortable. OP, you have to suck it up. I would bet you are the type to not watch your kid, either. I would get you thrown out.

Yes we card 2 year olds and up at our locker room. There has been a run on fake Ids...I have called the FBI many times about 6 year olds with fake ids getting into the women's locker room. I like cats.

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How would you feel about a man taking a 5 year old girl into the men's locker room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

If a five year old boy causes you "discomfort", you need to grow up and get over yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about a man taking a 5 year old girl into the men's locker room?

Dad here... I've done that... what about it?

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Anonymous wrote:The most interesting part about this thread is that most posters have no problem with young boys going into the women's locker room, but no one has even mentioned bringing a young girl into a men's locker room.

22:11 here. I posted before reading this.

Agreed. I imagine people would agree it's inappropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how many people on DCUM (quite reasonably) are very protective of their sons because of pedophiles on the playground, in extracurriculars, etc., but then demand that 6-year-olds be sent into LOCKER ROOMS alone. Unbelievable.

She can take him home with a robe on or change him in a non locker room, in a family changing room, or in the hallway with a towel around him. There are lots of alternatives.

Nice - and where should Mom change??? Today may have been unseasonably warm but doubt this will hold true, I know I don't want to go outside or get in my car in 30 degree weather with a wet bathing suit on even if under clothing.

As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

Do you understand not all pools are as plush as yours? There is one bathroom or locker room per gender. I have gotten stranger looks changing my son at four outside than bringing him in a locker room. He is in swim lessons year round. So, I bring him out soaking wet in 10-30 degree weather soaking his car seat and let him freeze. No. Get over it. A 5-6-7 year old is not ready to be alone. My child has delays and he needs help getting changed (hence the swim lessons for coordination). The county pool we go to is very very basic.

You aren't the only one with a son. I have one as well. I also have a daughter and am not bringing my kid into the locker room of the opposite sex once he is elementary school. You did it today, and it was close to 60 degrees so stop with the excuses. It makes my daughter and her swim teammates uncomfortable. Oh, and we swim year round as well. We just are more thoughtful of others'.

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Anonymous wrote:As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

If a five year old boy causes you "discomfort", you need to grow up and get over yourself.

I'm not the one uncomfortable. My kid is. Should I tell my 9 year old daughter to get over herself?

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Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about a man taking a 5 year old girl into the men's locker room?

Dad here... I've done that... what about it?

Inappropriate.

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Anonymous wrote:As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

If a five year old boy causes you "discomfort", you need to grow up and get over yourself.

I'm not the one uncomfortable. My kid is. Should I tell my 9 year old daughter to get over herself?

Many five year olds are I kindergarten. I wouldn't want my kindergartener looking at possible or actual schoolmates.