Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

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Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how many people on DCUM (quite reasonably) are very protective of their sons because of pedophiles on the playground, in extracurriculars, etc., but then demand that 6-year-olds be sent into LOCKER ROOMS alone. Unbelievable.

She can take him home with a robe on or change him in a non locker room, in a family changing room, or in the hallway with a towel around him. There are lots of alternatives.

Nice - and where should Mom change??? Today may have been unseasonably warm but doubt this will hold true, I know I don't want to go outside or get in my car in 30 degree weather with a wet bathing suit on even if under clothing.

As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

Do you understand not all pools are as plush as yours? There is one bathroom or locker room per gender. I have gotten stranger looks changing my son at four outside than bringing him in a locker room. He is in swim lessons year round. So, I bring him out soaking wet in 10-30 degree weather soaking his car seat and let him freeze. No. Get over it. A 5-6-7 year old is not ready to be alone. My child has delays and he needs help getting changed (hence the swim lessons for coordination). The county pool we go to is very very basic.

So if your pool says at 6 he can't go in the women's locker room and you think even a 6-7 yr old can't go alone, what is your plan for the next 2 years after self.?

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Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how many people on DCUM (quite reasonably) are very protective of their sons because of pedophiles on the playground, in extracurriculars, etc., but then demand that 6-year-olds be sent into LOCKER ROOMS alone. Unbelievable.

She can take him home with a robe on or change him in a non locker room, in a family changing room, or in the hallway with a towel around him. There are lots of alternatives.

Nice - and where should Mom change??? Today may have been unseasonably warm but doubt this will hold true, I know I don't want to go outside or get in my car in 30 degree weather with a wet bathing suit on even if under clothing.

As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

Do you understand not all pools are as plush as yours? There is one bathroom or locker room per gender. I have gotten stranger looks changing my son at four outside than bringing him in a locker room. He is in swim lessons year round. So, I bring him out soaking wet in 10-30 degree weather soaking his car seat and let him freeze. No. Get over it. A 5-6-7 year old is not ready to be alone. My child has delays and he needs help getting changed (hence the swim lessons for coordination). The county pool we go to is very very basic.

So if your pool says at 6 he can't go in the women's locker room and you think even a 6-7 yr old can't go alone, what is your plan for the next 2 years after self.?

After SEPT

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Anonymous wrote:Look, I loathe women who bring their pre-teen sons into the women's locker room to shower and change after swimming. It drives me crazy and every time I see someone breaking that rule, I report them to the management of the rec center or pool club, etc. That being said, if the rule of the facility is that kids up to age 6 can be in the opposite sex locker room, then that is what the rule is. If I said my usual, "This is the women's locker room. Why don't you take your son to the family changing room?" and you told me he was 5, I would apologize to you and wish you and your son a happy new year. I follow the rules too.

I have never even once seen someone bring a pre-teen boy into the ladies locker room. Unless you consider 6 year olds to be "pre-teens".

I have and more times than I care to count. My daughter was in a year round swimming program for a couple years when she was in early elementary school. There were several middle school and high school swim teams who practiced at the same time and several mothers of middle schoolers would bring younger kids to the pool to swim during practice and then herd their younger kids and middle school aged kids into the women's locker room to get everyone showered and changed. I understand the impulse, but my daughter did not want to change clothes in front of the obviously pre-teen boys in the locker room. The posted rule said kids 6 and over are to use their gender's locker room. So I complained to management every week until finally it stopped.

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You Americans, you are SO CRAZY PRUDISH.

What hang ups you are passing on to your kids if you would rather they are unsupervised among strangers than possibly see people semi naked for a few seconds? And what hang ups you clearly have if you think a 5 year old gives a toss what you look like naked.

Overheard by my husband in the men's locker room: Adult male to his approx. 7 year old "come on, just get changed, NO ONE HERE IS INTERESTED IN YOUR PENIS".

He's right. Get over yourselves people. And as for your kids feeling uncomfortable -- you taught them that behavior. They need to get over it too.

When I was 5, and 6 and 7, boys and girls changed for PE in our classroom together and it was COMPLETELY NORMAL and uneventful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look, I loathe women who bring their pre-teen sons into the women's locker room to shower and change after swimming. It drives me crazy and every time I see someone breaking that rule, I report them to the management of the rec center or pool club, etc. That being said, if the rule of the facility is that kids up to age 6 can be in the opposite sex locker room, then that is what the rule is. If I said my usual, "This is the women's locker room. Why don't you take your son to the family changing room?" and you told me he was 5, I would apologize to you and wish you and your son a happy new year. I follow the rules too.

I have never even once seen someone bring a pre-teen boy into the ladies locker room. Unless you consider 6 year olds to be "pre-teens".

I have and more times than I care to count. My daughter was in a year round swimming program for a couple years when she was in early elementary school. There were several middle school and high school swim teams who practiced at the same time and several mothers of middle schoolers would bring younger kids to the pool to swim during practice and then herd their younger kids and middle school aged kids into the women's locker room to get everyone showered and changed. I understand the impulse, but my daughter did not want to change clothes in front of the obviously pre-teen boys in the locker room. The posted rule said kids 6 and over are to use their gender's locker room. So I complained to management every week until finally it stopped.

We've done our fair share of swim team/swimming programs, too, and no middle school boy that I have ever seen would allow himself to be herded into a ladies room like that by his MOTHER. Heck, most 5 year old boys object to being dragged into the ladies room. Your pool sounds very different.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how many people on DCUM (quite reasonably) are very protective of their sons because of pedophiles on the playground, in extracurriculars, etc., but then demand that 6-year-olds be sent into LOCKER ROOMS alone. Unbelievable.

She can take him home with a robe on or change him in a non locker room, in a family changing room, or in the hallway with a towel around him. There are lots of alternatives.

Nice - and where should Mom change??? Today may have been unseasonably warm but doubt this will hold true, I know I don't want to go outside or get in my car in 30 degree weather with a wet bathing suit on even if under clothing.

As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

Do you understand not all pools are as plush as yours? There is one bathroom or locker room per gender. I have gotten stranger looks changing my son at four outside than bringing him in a locker room. He is in swim lessons year round. So, I bring him out soaking wet in 10-30 degree weather soaking his car seat and let him freeze. No. Get over it. A 5-6-7 year old is not ready to be alone. My child has delays and he needs help getting changed (hence the swim lessons for coordination). The county pool we go to is very very basic.

I changed my son in the handicapped stall in the ladies room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

If a five year old boy causes you "discomfort", you need to grow up and get over yourself.

I'm not the one uncomfortable. My kid is. Should I tell my 9 year old daughter to get over herself?

Yes. The 5yo boy isn't interested in her either.

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Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about a man taking a 5 year old girl into the men's locker room?

Dad here... I've done that... what about it?

Inappropriate.

OK, no problem, I'll bring her into the women's locker room next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually don't care about boys under six in the women's room. But I used to change at the same time a class of five year olds got out of class. This mom would bring her son in the locker room and change him behind a towel. It was weird - if he's old enough to feel uncomfortable changing in front of women, then he shouldn't be seeing me get changed.

I am from South America and I remember that when I was a child, back in my country, it was very common and it almost seemed the norm to change behind a towel (boys and girls) without distinction of age. You did not see anyone changing in plain sight.. So to me it does not seem weird at all.

[Anonymous]

Take my avg sized 7 yr old son into the women's changing room all the time. Never been an issue. DS is mistaken for a girl by most people and it's not like he runs around naked so they can all see that he has a penis.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's amazing to me how many people on DCUM (quite reasonably) are very protective of their sons because of pedophiles on the playground, in extracurriculars, etc., but then demand that 6-year-olds be sent into LOCKER ROOMS alone. Unbelievable.

She can take him home with a robe on or change him in a non locker room, in a family changing room, or in the hallway with a towel around him. There are lots of alternatives.

Nice - and where should Mom change??? Today may have been unseasonably warm but doubt this will hold true, I know I don't want to go outside or get in my car in 30 degree weather with a wet bathing suit on even if under clothing.

As I mentioned, taking them to a NON locker room is another option..so the women's room. If your kid is big enough to bring discomfort to others and is old enough for kindergarten, he's too big for the women's locker room.

Do you understand not all pools are as plush as yours? There is one bathroom or locker room per gender. I have gotten stranger looks changing my son at four outside than bringing him in a locker room. He is in swim lessons year round. So, I bring him out soaking wet in 10-30 degree weather soaking his car seat and let him freeze. No. Get over it. A 5-6-7 year old is not ready to be alone. My child has delays and he needs help getting changed (hence the swim lessons for coordination). The county pool we go to is very very basic.

So if your pool says at 6 he can't go in the women's locker room and you think even a 6-7 yr old can't go alone, what is your plan for the next 2 years after self.?

She thinks the rules don't apply to her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You Americans, you are SO CRAZY PRUDISH.

What hang ups you are passing on to your kids if you would rather they are unsupervised among strangers than possibly see people semi naked for a few seconds? And what hang ups you clearly have if you think a 5 year old gives a toss what you look like naked.

Overheard by my husband in the men's locker room: Adult male to his approx. 7 year old "come on, just get changed, NO ONE HERE IS INTERESTED IN YOUR PENIS".

He's right. Get over yourselves people. And as for your kids feeling uncomfortable -- you taught them that behavior. They need to get over it too.

When I was 5, and 6 and 7, boys and girls changed for PE in our classroom together and it was COMPLETELY NORMAL and uneventful.

"You Americans."

Way to get us on your side right out of the box, PP.

Idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You Americans, you are SO CRAZY PRUDISH.

What hang ups you are passing on to your kids if you would rather they are unsupervised among strangers than possibly see people semi naked for a few seconds? And what hang ups you clearly have if you think a 5 year old gives a toss what you look like naked.

Overheard by my husband in the men's locker room: Adult male to his approx. 7 year old "come on, just get changed, NO ONE HERE IS INTERESTED IN YOUR PENIS".

He's right. Get over yourselves people. And as for your kids feeling uncomfortable -- you taught them that behavior. They need to get over it too.

When I was 5, and 6 and 7, boys and girls changed for PE in our classroom together and it was COMPLETELY NORMAL and uneventful.

Lady, it doesn't matter what you think about our culture. We are in America. If you don't like it, you can leave and be naked and free in your home country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you feel about a man taking a 5 year old girl into the men's locker room?

Dad here... I've done that... what about it?

Inappropriate.

If it's not inappropriate for a woman to take her five-year-old son into the women's locker room, then it's not inappropriate for a man to take his five-year-old daughter into the men's locker room.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I just avoid all that and change my 5 yr old son poolside. He doesn't mind.