Just got grief for bringing 5 yo DS into the women's locker room

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should find a family locker room. 5 is too old to be in the ladies' room. If you ignored a polite request, I'd be in the manager's office. It's against the rules in most places.

Most places have rules about the ages and if 5 is okay by the place's rules then it is fine. I would love to see you report someone to the manager when they are following the rules.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some woman "insisted" you were lying about your son's age? My response would have been, "You can choose to believe what you want. He's 5, it's okay for him to be here with me, and you need to move away from us right now before I speak with management."

Had the same issue with my son. She started pointing and yacking when he was in the shower so I said to her 'why are you staring at the private parts of young children exactly?' She went away.

Sounds like a perv or doesn't know how to behave around young children. Did you report the lady to management?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Locker room age rules and old lady discomfort is ONLY valid if multiple family changing rooms are available.

This

I always took my kids, soaking wet, out to the car. Didn't want to deal with bitchy women who only care about themselves. My 6 yr old had no business alone in men's locker room. None at all. When he was too old for the ladies locker room we would go to the car wet, but seriously, any mom who wants to go in the ladies locker room with her boys is fine with me. I didn't have the energy to fight that fight, but more power to the moms who can do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Locker room age rules and old lady discomfort is ONLY valid if multiple family changing rooms are available.

This

I always took my kids, soaking wet, out to the car. Didn't want to deal with bitchy women who only care about themselves. My 6 yr old had no business alone in men's locker room. None at all. When he was too old for the ladies locker room we would go to the car wet, but seriously, any mom who wants to go in the ladies locker room with her boys is fine with me. I didn't have the energy to fight that fight, but more power to the moms who can do it.

+1 many of these places have one, IF ANY, "family" changing rooms that have to accommodate anyone with kids, anyone disabled, and anyone who just happens to feel like want to use it. The wait to use one is ridiculous and no way would I send my 5 year old son into the locker room alone. For one, he isn't very good with getting a wet bathing suit off but even if he was, no way.

[Anonymous]

Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

... THAT would cause less discomfort for people? Really? A naked kid out in the pool area vs a locker room? Wouldn't the same panicky people still see him?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

Or, no, because it is ridiculous that places make rules but provide no other accommodations like family changing rooms, and maybe in the summer your idea works but hell no am I taking my kid outside, wet, in winter, even with a special coat. It has nothing to do with inconvenience. It has EVERYTHING to do with the fact that if you have an issue with a young child changing with his mom and not being left alone with strange men, YOU ARE A PERVERT.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

If you are upset or uncomfortable, that's your issue. You should explore why a young child changing in a changing room makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you're really into little boys?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

If you are upset or uncomfortable, that's your issue. You should explore why a young child changing in a changing room makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you're really into little boys?

It's a LADIES room. You and your kid's issues don't trump the rights of every woman and girl that would like to use the locker room without being peeped at. The entitlement is just insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

Or, no, because it is ridiculous that places make rules but provide no other accommodations like family changing rooms, and maybe in the summer your idea works but hell no am I taking my kid outside, wet, in winter, even with a special coat. It has nothing to do with inconvenience. It has EVERYTHING to do with the fact that if you have an issue with a young child changing with his mom and not being left alone with strange men, YOU ARE A PERVERT.

YOU are an entitled ass! Perhaps the solution is to find a way to make the men's locker room safe for kids to change in. Perhaps you should seek to have the rules and laws in place actually enforced. Perhaps the solution to your problem is not bucking the rules that you don't like, and disregarding the comfort of the people the room was actually intended for. But you can't think past your own damn nose.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

If you are upset or uncomfortable, that's your issue. You should explore why a young child changing in a changing room makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you're really into little boys?

It's a LADIES room. You and your kid's issues don't trump the rights of every woman and girl that would like to use the locker room without being peeped at. The entitlement is just insane.

You're sick. Why do you assume a 5 year old boy is staring at you? Seriously, you're just disgusting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

If you are upset or uncomfortable, that's your issue. You should explore why a young child changing in a changing room makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you're really into little boys?

Yes, almost as ridiculous as you thinking the men's locker room is full of boogey men waiting to pounce on your 5 year old.

It's a LADIES room. You and your kid's issues don't trump the rights of every woman and girl that would like to use the locker room without being peeped at. The entitlement is just insane.

You're sick. Why do you assume a 5 year old boy is staring at you? Seriously, you're just disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't use just change him by the side of the pool or in the hallway then?

Because they don't want to inconvenience themselves. They would far rather do things their way even if it means violating a rule and causing others discomfort and upset. I have no problem with you not sending your child in the men's room. If he is over the posted age, however, then bring him home wet, change him with a towel around him, get a speedo coat, meant to provide warmth when cold and in a wet suit, etc.

If you are upset or uncomfortable, that's your issue. You should explore why a young child changing in a changing room makes you uncomfortable. Maybe you're really into little boys?

It's a LADIES room. You and your kid's issues don't trump the rights of every woman and girl that would like to use the locker room without being peeped at. The entitlement is just insane.

Kids aren't peeping. Are you peeping on them?

Anyway, I don't really care what you think. I, and clearly many others (as this thread shows), will keep bringing my kid. Feel free to report it, I'll put my foot down and management can call the police if they truly want to pursue it. I'll take my chances.