MIL posted about my pregnancy on facebook without permisson

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm surprised that you told even her so early and went to the lengths of taking a picture of your son in a big brother shirt.

If you didn't specifically ask her not to tell, you can't be mad at her. Especially with that picture and all--it doesn't seem like something you're trying to keep secret.

+1

Why even tell the child that early? He'd be confused and crushed if you miscarry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Five weeks? Isn't that like your period being a week late? And you are already dressing your kid in a big brother shirt? Am sorry but this is way weirder than what your MIL did. If you want to be cautious you don't take pics of your kid in that of shirt and share them. If you just told her over the phone without over the top pic she might have kept it for herself.

This!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people just need to play the victim all the time.


Be gracious. Be a grown up. Let this go.

+ 1.

I am quite surprised at the lame reasons people on DCUM are pissed off with their ILs. These women need to wear their big girl's panties and learn to be adults. I cannot believe how much sympathy I have started having for MILs after reading these insane rants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people just need to play the victim all the time.


Be gracious. Be a grown up. Let this go.

+ 1.

I am quite surprised at the lame reasons people on DCUM are pissed off with their ILs. These women need to wear their big girl's panties and learn to be adults. I cannot believe how much sympathy I have started having for MILs after reading these insane rants.

Seriously. Scares me for the day I become one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some people just need to play the victim all the time.


Be gracious. Be a grown up. Let this go.

+ 1.

I am quite surprised at the lame reasons people on DCUM are pissed off with their ILs. These women need to wear their big girl's panties and learn to be adults. I cannot believe how much sympathy I have started having for MILs after reading these insane rants.

Seriously. Scares me for the day I become one.

. +1. This is what happens when little girls grow up but never mature. Dreading the future.

[Anonymous]

PP here and I missed that you announced at five weeks. Tsk, tsk. You are in the wrong here for announcing to anyone this early. Ridiculous.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I had not told anyone, as we were waiting a full trimester before announcing my pregnancy.

My MIL was beyond angry that she wasn't told of my pregnancy and angrier still to find out that I'd had a miscarriage after the fact. I had to have surgery. So what. It was still easier to deal with associated grief and physical recovery without worrying that my MIL would have told everyone she knew that I was pregnant and then any other personal information regarding the pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here and I missed that you announced at five weeks. Tsk, tsk. You are in the wrong here for announcing to anyone this early. Ridiculous.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I had not told anyone, as we were waiting a full trimester before announcing my pregnancy.

My MIL was beyond angry that she wasn't told of my pregnancy and angrier still to find out that I'd had a miscarriage after the fact. I had to have surgery. So what. It was still easier to deal with associated grief and physical recovery without worrying that my MIL would have told everyone she knew that I was pregnant and then any other personal information regarding the pregnancy.

Why did you tell tem after the fact? That pretty much defeats the purpose of not telling early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here and I missed that you announced at five weeks. Tsk, tsk. You are in the wrong here for announcing to anyone this early. Ridiculous.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I had not told anyone, as we were waiting a full trimester before announcing my pregnancy.

My MIL was beyond angry that she wasn't told of my pregnancy and angrier still to find out that I'd had a miscarriage after the fact. I had to have surgery. So what. It was still easier to deal with associated grief and physical recovery without worrying that my MIL would have told everyone she knew that I was pregnant and then any other personal information regarding the pregnancy.

Why did you tell tem after the fact? That pretty much defeats the purpose of not telling early.

PP and to answer your question, I, or rather my DH, had to tell his parents that I had been pregnant because I had to have emergency surgery (d and c).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here and I missed that you announced at five weeks. Tsk, tsk. You are in the wrong here for announcing to anyone this early. Ridiculous.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I had not told anyone, as we were waiting a full trimester before announcing my pregnancy.

My MIL was beyond angry that she wasn't told of my pregnancy and angrier still to find out that I'd had a miscarriage after the fact. I had to have surgery. So what. It was still easier to deal with associated grief and physical recovery without worrying that my MIL would have told everyone she knew that I was pregnant and then any other personal information regarding the pregnancy.

Why did you tell tem after the fact? That pretty much defeats the purpose of not telling early.

PP and to answer your question, I, or rather my DH, had to tell his parents that I had been pregnant because I had to have emergency surgery (d and c).

. I still don't understand. Why did they need to know? It was a d&c--quit common after miscarriage. Btdt

[Anonymous]

Enjoy your pregnancy and only discuss details with your spouse. Some people including mils want to make everything about themselves. I waited til my 6 mth to announce via fb and have family still sour. Oh well I learned the hard way after telling parents early and they told others despite being asked not too. Keep all details to self until you're ready to share and that includes grandparents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here and I missed that you announced at five weeks. Tsk, tsk. You are in the wrong here for announcing to anyone this early. Ridiculous.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I had not told anyone, as we were waiting a full trimester before announcing my pregnancy.

My MIL was beyond angry that she wasn't told of my pregnancy and angrier still to find out that I'd had a miscarriage after the fact. I had to have surgery. So what. It was still easier to deal with associated grief and physical recovery without worrying that my MIL would have told everyone she knew that I was pregnant and then any other personal information regarding the pregnancy.

Why did you tell tem after the fact? That pretty much defeats the purpose of not telling early.

PP and to answer your question, I, or rather my DH, had to tell his parents that I had been pregnant because I had to have emergency surgery (d and c).

. I still don't understand. Why did they need to know? It was a d&c--quit common after miscarriage. Btdt

Not the PP - can you seriously not imagine why the ILs were told when she was having an emergency D&C? Hell, mine wasn't an emergency but any time you're being put to sleep for a procedure it's significant. It may be low risk but it's still a significant procedure. You may have chosen differently but most people share that information with their immediate family.

[Anonymous]

Don't kill spirit of mother in law, you should respect she very excited. Better to go with flow of river than fight current and drown.

[Anonymous]

"We told all of our close family and best friends and that's all"

I totally understand why your MIL thought it was fine to share the photo announcement that you sent her. You dressed up your kid in a big brother shirt, you sent a photo announcement, and you told all the most important people that you were pregnant. A more cautious person might have asked before posting, but I really don't blame her for thinking it was okay to share the news with her friends.

[Anonymous]

Enjoy your pregnancy and only discuss details with your spouse. Some people including mils want to make everything about themselves. I waited til my 6 mth to announce via fb and have family still sour. Oh well I learned the hard way after telling parents early and they told others despite being asked not too. Keep all details to self until you're ready to share and that includes grandparents

Unlike you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here and I missed that you announced at five weeks. Tsk, tsk. You are in the wrong here for announcing to anyone this early. Ridiculous.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks. I had not told anyone, as we were waiting a full trimester before announcing my pregnancy.

My MIL was beyond angry that she wasn't told of my pregnancy and angrier still to find out that I'd had a miscarriage after the fact. I had to have surgery. So what. It was still easier to deal with associated grief and physical recovery without worrying that my MIL would have told everyone she knew that I was pregnant and then any other personal information regarding the pregnancy.

Why did you tell tem after the fact? That pretty much defeats the purpose of not telling early.

PP and to answer your question, I, or rather my DH, had to tell his parents that I had been pregnant because I had to have emergency surgery (d and c).

. I still don't understand. Why did they need to know? It was a d&c--quit common after miscarriage. Btdt

Not the PP - can you seriously not imagine why the ILs were told when she was having an emergency D&C? Hell, mine wasn't an emergency but any time you're being put to sleep for a procedure it's significant. It may be low risk but it's still a significant procedure. You may have chosen differently but most people share that information with their immediate family.

That kind of defeats the whole "not telling anyone until were safe" tactic and most people? Really, none of my friends told their families about their d&c's precisely because we all knew that families would be hurt by not being told of the pregnancy and they weren't told about the pregnancy because they didn't want to deal with the aftermath of telling about a miscarriage. Kind of circular thought process.