Why do you cheat??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you like your spouse, have a good sex life etc., and still want to cheat, it could be that you are missing the euphoria of a crush and so you want to cheat.

When you are younger, you have a fantasy of what romance, love and sex will be like. Then as you mature, you move away from the fantasy and base a relationship on more real things.

The desire to cheat comes from trying to recapture the feeling of giddiness when you were an adolescent and had your first crush. It (desire to cheat) is a moment of weakness but if you can stop thinking and rational thoughts - it is the most euphoric feeling.

This is spot on.

I have never cheated yet but is seriously considering it with another MM who has been giving me flirting/bodhisattva language hints. I haven't made up my mind to do it or not, but that infatuation is really captivating, like I was back to the teenage years. I haven't felt that strong attraction and tension from dating since I was 24 or 5. With my Dh, while we have a loving relationship, we never had that passion - we used to have pretty good sex but even from the beginning he never passionately kissed me. Now with a young child, we have even less passion, and even the ok sex was almost no longer existent. So if I decide to cheat, it would be because I want passion and sex from the other person, but not actual love and relationship. And I guess also because we have a young child together so I'd never want my child to live without one of the parents, so divorce is not an option for me, at least not until we hate each other to the point that we can no longer stand looking at each other's face for another day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those men who have cheated:

(1) Have your wives given birth?
(2) Have the women with whom you are cheating given birth?
(3) Given that men tend to be very visual and since a lot of the prior responses on this thread suggest men cheat for sex (rather than love / intimacy), are there any physical differences between your wives and the other women that draw you to the other women? For example, if they've never been pregnant / given birth, is part of the allure their physique - perkier breasts, no stretch marks, and perhaps most importantly, tighter vaginas? If that wasn't what initially drew you to the other woman (without kids), did you notice that difference while with the other woman (tighter vagina, perkier breasts)?

1. Yes - 2, vaginally
2. No - no kids
3. Yes - perkier tits and tighter pussy for sure

Not saying it's right or fair, but it is what it is. Wife was very tight before kids but now isn't. She did keels all day, every day for years, but it didn't seem to make a difference. Her tits are still fairly perky even after breast feeding both kids for a year each, but they're certainly not what they used to be. The more stretched out vagina is the bigger issue for me but, then again, although I'm long, I'm rather thin. I'm not faulting her at all. She gave birth to our two beautiful kids but to say things are anywhere near the same down there is just lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For men, it is just too difficult to resist the temptation of another female.

Men are just hard-wired differently than women are. It's in their nature.

Not to say it is okay what they do, but a man would need to have extraordinary impulse control to say NO to another woman's advances.

Sure, just tell yourself that men have no control over their own actions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those men who have cheated:

(1) Have your wives given birth?
(2) Have the women with whom you are cheating given birth?
(3) Given that men tend to be very visual and since a lot of the prior responses on this thread suggest men cheat for sex (rather than love / intimacy), are there any physical differences between your wives and the other women that draw you to the other women? For example, if they've never been pregnant / given birth, is part of the allure their physique - perkier breasts, no stretch marks, and perhaps most importantly, tighter vaginas? If that wasn't what initially drew you to the other woman (without kids), did you notice that difference while with the other woman (tighter vagina, perkier breasts)?

1. Yes - 2, vaginally
2. No - no kids
3. Yes - perkier tits and tighter pussy for sure

Not saying it's right or fair, but it is what it is. Wife was very tight before kids but now isn't. She did keels all day, every day for years, but it didn't seem to make a difference. Her tits are still fairly perky even after breast feeding both kids for a year each, but they're certainly not what they used to be. The more stretched out vagina is the bigger issue for me but, then again, although I'm long, I'm rather thin. I'm not faulting her at all. She gave birth to our two beautiful kids but to say things are anywhere near the same down there is just lying.

Is that why you cheated? Because her vag isn't as tight? What a mensch you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those men who have cheated:

(1) Have your wives given birth?
(2) Have the women with whom you are cheating given birth?
(3) Given that men tend to be very visual and since a lot of the prior responses on this thread suggest men cheat for sex (rather than love / intimacy), are there any physical differences between your wives and the other women that draw you to the other women? For example, if they've never been pregnant / given birth, is part of the allure their physique - perkier breasts, no stretch marks, and perhaps most importantly, tighter vaginas? If that wasn't what initially drew you to the other woman (without kids), did you notice that difference while with the other woman (tighter vagina, perkier breasts)?

It isn't always the case that the OW is more attractive than the wife. Sometimes it is quite the opposite. I speak from experience.

[Anonymous]

You could always say the person you cheat with has something different, something your wife/husband doesn't have. Different race, body type, personality, interests, whatever.

It's all about filling your own emptiness or need, though. I'd hate to think women read this and feel, even for a second, a pang that they're not good enough because they gave birth or aren't 20 years old anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those men who have cheated:

(1) Have your wives given birth?
(2) Have the women with whom you are cheating given birth?
(3) Given that men tend to be very visual and since a lot of the prior responses on this thread suggest men cheat for sex (rather than love / intimacy), are there any physical differences between your wives and the other women that draw you to the other women? For example, if they've never been pregnant / given birth, is part of the allure their physique - perkier breasts, no stretch marks, and perhaps most importantly, tighter vaginas? If that wasn't what initially drew you to the other woman (without kids), did you notice that difference while with the other woman (tighter vagina, perkier breasts)?

It isn't always the case that the OW is more attractive than the wife. Sometimes it is quite the opposite. I speak from experience.

My DW is better looking than every girl I have cheated with.

[Anonymous]

If you were caught would you deny it?

[Anonymous]

Do you feel bad about cheating or do you feel you were driven to it through no fault of your own?
When you leave the person you were with, what are you thinking?

[Anonymous]

Always deny!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those men who have cheated:

(1) Have your wives given birth?
(2) Have the women with whom you are cheating given birth?
(3) Given that men tend to be very visual and since a lot of the prior responses on this thread suggest men cheat for sex (rather than love / intimacy), are there any physical differences between your wives and the other women that draw you to the other women? For example, if they've never been pregnant / given birth, is part of the allure their physique - perkier breasts, no stretch marks, and perhaps most importantly, tighter vaginas? If that wasn't what initially drew you to the other woman (without kids), did you notice that difference while with the other woman (tighter vagina, perkier breasts)?

It isn't always the case that the OW is more attractive than the wife. Sometimes it is quite the opposite. I speak from experience.

My DW is better looking than every girl I have cheated with.

My dh is superior in every metric to those with whom I've cheated. It's not about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You could always say the person you cheat with has something different, something your wife/husband doesn't have. Different race, body type, personality, interests, whatever.

It's all about filling your own emptiness or need, though. I'd hate to think women read this and feel, even for a second, a pang that they're not good enough because they gave birth or aren't 20 years old anymore.

Are you a man or woman pp

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter?

[Anonymous]

I don't!

[Anonymous]

Funny, my DH says women only feel threatened by a prettier woman. Is this a decoy or a strange fact?