Is There Anything You Wish You Asked Your DH/DW Before Marriage?

[Anonymous]

Do you have any same sex urges? How would we handle them if it gets to the point where you feel they need to be explored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should have asked about parenting style. My wife is a spanker and I am against hitting a misbehaving child.

Congrats on raising a spoiled rotten brat who won't be able to deal with consequences growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should have asked about parenting style. My wife is a spanker and I am against hitting a misbehaving child.

Congrats on raising a spoiled rotten brat who won't be able to deal with consequences growing up.

No spanking doesn't mean no consequences.

If you're a spanker, congrats on raising an emotionally damaged, aggressive human being.

[Anonymous]

Is cheating a marriage deal breaker? What other circumstances would absolutely lead to you leaving?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing. We conducted full financial and medical due diligence as well as fully negotiated division of labor and responsibilities along with contingencies that cover most possible scenarios (including zombie apocalypse).

It's not romantic but when we started seriously discussing getting engaged and married we had a lot of discussions about current issues and future wishes/expectations. After we were engaged we basically had a "business meeting" for lack of a better term.
-We really got into financial history, current spending habits, expectations for how finances would be combined or divided, future investment goals etc.
-We each had full physicals and discussed past health issues (physical and mental), family history, current health, and future wishes in terms of life-saving measures/life support.
-We talked about goals and timelines for buying a house (Sfh/condo/townhome? MD or VA? Starter home or Forever home?)
-Whether or not we wanted children and if so, what we expected to happen (both of us continue working or someone stay home?).
-Since DH is an only child and my mother had a debilitating disease we discussed how to ha dle decisions regarding how to best help our parents as they age.
-We talked about things that we believed would constitute reasonable grounds for a divorce and whether or not we believed in pursuing counselling prior to going down that route.
-We also discussed creating a pre-nuptial agreement.

If something was revealed that you werent comfortable with, would you have broken off the engagement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should have asked about parenting style. My wife is a spanker and I am against hitting a misbehaving child.

Does she spank in your presence? If so, what do you do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should have asked about parenting style. My wife is a spanker and I am against hitting a misbehaving child.

Congrats on raising a spoiled rotten brat who won't be able to deal with consequences growing up.

No spanking doesn't mean no consequences.

If you're a spanker, congrats on raising an emotionally damaged, aggressive human being.

I was spanked. Funny how I am not emotionally damaged or aggressive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should have asked about parenting style. My wife is a spanker and I am against hitting a misbehaving child.

Congrats on raising a spoiled rotten brat who won't be able to deal with consequences growing up.

No spanking doesn't mean no consequences.

If you're a spanker, congrats on raising an emotionally damaged, aggressive human being.

I was spanked. Funny how I am not emotionally damaged or aggressive.

My dad kicked the shit out of me. Haven't talked to him in years, about the same length of time I've been in psychotherapy. I'm all for spanking! Nothing forges the life-long bond of trust between parent and child like hitting!

[Anonymous]

^Well this was an interesting thread...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I should have asked about parenting style. My wife is a spanker and I am against hitting a misbehaving child.

Congrats on raising a spoiled rotten brat who won't be able to deal with consequences growing up.

No spanking doesn't mean no consequences.

If you're a spanker, congrats on raising an emotionally damaged, aggressive human being.

I was spanked. Funny how I am not emotionally damaged or aggressive.

My dad kicked the shit out of me. Haven't talked to him in years, about the same length of time I've been in psychotherapy. I'm all for spanking! Nothing forges the life-long bond of trust between parent and child like hitting!

Spanking ? getting the shit kicked out of you. I don't endorse either one, but let's not engage in hyperbole.

[Anonymous]

Are you ever going to leave your current job, or have you pretty much peaked professionally at age 30?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you ever going to leave your current job, or have you pretty much peaked professionally at age 30?

What was the current job (which you apparently regarded as beneath you).

[Anonymous]

Are you wearing a toupee?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you ever going to leave your current job, or have you pretty much peaked professionally at age 30?

So do you want DH to help with chores 50/50 at home or to channel that energy to his career? It's a zero-sum game, there are only so many hours in the day.

[Anonymous]

Are there any circumstances under which you would demand that I have an abortion? What would happen to our relationship if I refused?