Aftercare is cruel to kindergarteners

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Anonymous wrote:Poor trolling-what elementary school is out at 2:30?

I SAHM and my dc play with kids in SACC on the playground after school. They always complain bitterly when we have to leave and their friends get to stay and play. I haven't seen any depressed-looking SACC kids; they all look like they are having a great time to me.

http://www.acps.k12.va.us/maury/

8 a.m.-2:35 p.m. for all ACPS elementaries.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a life, OP.

If you don't have anything else to worry about except what other people do with their children, you don't have enough to do.

On the contrary - being a full-time cuntasaurus is hard work!

This says much more about you than about anyone else. How pathetic.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Unfortunately my employer won't let me downsize. I'd be happy to take a paycut to work fewer hours and be there to get my kids on and off the bus. Sadly, part time work is not an option since I need health insurance, for example.

If employers would be more flexible, allow more Work at home, more part time work, and if traffic didn't consume two hours of my day, I wouldn't have to use supplemental child care.

However I am encouraged by the fact that my now ten year old somehow survived kindergarten after care and is now a delightful young person thriving in AAP Academics. Can't imagine how she overcame the disadvantages of having a working mom....

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly OP is insecure about her choice to stay home

I'll bet that she quit work years ago, and now bored silly staying home. Then the kids came home and asked if they could go to after care because all their friends are there and the playgrounds are filled only with babies an preschoolers (and we all know this is true, I go there often with my 5 year old at 4 pm)

And of course because she quit and downsized, well there isn't any money to pay for aftercare... Ain't that the rub

God forbid your husband gets furloughed or lad off from Biglaw or decides he wants a partner not a trollish housekeeper for a wife.

I don't think this is the case. Instead of wasting time in after care, her kids can take lessons, join sports teams, practice music, or just be at home.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Ah, yeah. I do all of these things and yet my husband and I still have to work. We live in less than 2000 square feet in the burbs with so so schools and drive our cars into the ground. We never go out. I guess we are just epic fails in your book and cleearly still don't have the right priorties. Smh.

Oh my gawd, less than 2000 ft sq? J/k. Not sure how you really live but you might want to try the city. We live in a 700 sq ft apartment and own no cars. I can stay at home because of that.

Well, somebody should really give you an award.

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Anonymous wrote:So OP, what you're saying is that you depend on your husband for money so you can watch your kids all the time instead of "out-sourcing" their care?

What if he didn't make enough money for you to do this? Would you not have married him? What if he gets laid off? What if he quits his job and doesn't find another? Would you find work? What if the pressure of being the sole breadwinner stressed him to the point of killing him? What would you do then? What if he got tired of your judgmental ass and divorced you? What would you do then? At some point in your life, you may have to do things you are currently judging, and you had better hope that people don't judge you like you judge them.

Some folks are working to support their families, not to afford a huge house or new cars every two years.

True, but - AND GET THIS OP - some of us women also work because we want to, because we are smart, educated and accomplished and have no desire to stay at home all day watching The Chew and filing our nails until the kids get home from school. My son has an intelligent, independent woman as a mother and I am proud that I can be a great role model for him so that he will grow up to be a man who respects women for ALL that they can do, not just as some domestic caretaker for him and his children. So judge me all you want. . .I am judging you because you obviously have nothing better to do with your day than sit on your ass posting drivel like this. Why don't you go out and do something your kids can be proud of while they are at school?

Syaing things like this is what makes working mothers look bad. It shows you have absolutely no understanding of what it takes to raise kids. I am guessing that is how you spend your weekends if that is what you think SAHP do all day. There are lots of WOHP who are actively involved with their kids and know what spending all day with their kids is like and that it doesn't in any way involve sitting around watching TV. You know as little about SAHP as OP does about WOHP. You have to spend time with their kids to be a role model - if you are at work 24/7 your kids don't actually know what you do as they aren't there with you so you aren't really modeling anything except absenteeism. You have a very negative view of raising kids - and little will change that however when i read idiotic posts like yours it just reinforces Ops beliefs.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

You better not send them to school at all then.

School is not "most of their waking hours." Reading is fundamental.

Oh really? 9 to 2:30 is not? Some kids sleep at 7pm. So that's at least half their waking hours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Clearly OP is insecure about her choice to stay home

I'll bet that she quit work years ago, and now bored silly staying home. Then the kids came home and asked if they could go to after care because all their friends are there and the playgrounds are filled only with babies an preschoolers (and we all know this is true, I go there often with my 5 year old at 4 pm)

And of course because she quit and downsized, well there isn't any money to pay for aftercare... Ain't that the rub

God forbid your husband gets furloughed or lad off from Biglaw or decides he wants a partner not a trollish housekeeper for a wife.

I don't think this is the case. Instead of wasting time in after care, her kids can take lessons, join sports teams, practice music, or just be at home.

Oh, yes - they can be overscheduled and pushed to the limit by their hovering, anxious parents until they too are anxious and miserable. Perfect!

Don't believe me? I used to work at a private K-8, where 7th and 8th graders would routinely tell me how "stressed" they were by the burdens of school, competitive sports leagues, piano recitals, etc etc etc. You're not some parent of the year for forcing your kid into 8,000 activities because you are rich and have time on your hands. So get off your high horse.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

You better not send them to school at all then.

School is not "most of their waking hours." Reading is fundamental.

Oh really? 9 to 2:30 is not? Some kids sleep at 7pm. So that's at least half their waking hours.

What elementary school child goes to be at 7pm? Get real. My 4YO goes to bed at 8. Troll.

[Anonymous]

I agree it sucks. I could never do it. If i had no other choice, i imagine that, like some of the PPshere, i'd be convincing myself that my kids "LOVE aftercare" and that it's a "safe, loving, reliable" option, etc

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Anonymous wrote:So OP, what you're saying is that you depend on your husband for money so you can watch your kids all the time instead of "out-sourcing" their care?

What if he didn't make enough money for you to do this? Would you not have married him? What if he gets laid off? What if he quits his job and doesn't find another? Would you find work? What if the pressure of being the sole breadwinner stressed him to the point of killing him? What would you do then? What if he got tired of your judgmental ass and divorced you? What would you do then? At some point in your life, you may have to do things you are currently judging, and you had better hope that people don't judge you like you judge them.

Some folks are working to support their families, not to afford a huge house or new cars every two years.

True, but - AND GET THIS OP - some of us women also work because we want to, because we are smart, educated and accomplished and have no desire to stay at home all day watching The Chew and filing our nails until the kids get home from school. My son has an intelligent, independent woman as a mother and I am proud that I can be a great role model for him so that he will grow up to be a man who respects women for ALL that they can do, not just as some domestic caretaker for him and his children. So judge me all you want. . .I am judging you because you obviously have nothing better to do with your day than sit on your ass posting drivel like this. Why don't you go out and do something your kids can be proud of while they are at school?

Syaing things like this is what makes working mothers look bad. It shows you have absolutely no understanding of what it takes to raise kids. I am guessing that is how you spend your weekends if that is what you think SAHP do all day. There are lots of WOHP who are actively involved with their kids and know what spending all day with their kids is like and that it doesn't in any way involve sitting around watching TV. You know as little about SAHP as OP does about WOHP. You have to spend time with their kids to be a role model - if you are at work 24/7 your kids don't actually know what you do as they aren't there with you so you aren't really modeling anything except absenteeism. You have a very negative view of raising kids - and little will change that however when i read idiotic posts like yours it just reinforces Ops beliefs.

No, I don't have a negative view of raising kids. I have a negative view of bitches like you. You are really something to call ME idiotic. I am not at work 24/7 - you are the idiot because you can't even make an argument without using hysterical hyperbole to make your point. I drop my kid off in the morning, am at work from 8-4 and get home by 5:30 to play and have dinner with my child. He's fine. You on the other hand need to pull the ginormous stick out of your tight, snotty ass.

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Anonymous wrote:Get a life, OP.

If you don't have anything else to worry about except what other people do with their children, you don't have enough to do.

On the contrary - being a full-time cuntasaurus is hard work!

This says much more about you than about anyone else. How pathetic.

Are you OP?

[Anonymous]

^^Plus, please tell me how hard it is to raise your kids while THEY ARE AT SCHOOL ALL DAY. What, exactly, ARE you doing between 8-3?

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

You better not send them to school at all then.

School is not "most of their waking hours." Reading is fundamental.

Oh really? 9 to 2:30 is not? Some kids sleep at 7pm. So that's at least half their waking hours.

What elementary school child goes to be at 7pm? Get real. My 4YO goes to bed at 8. Troll.

All of my kids go to bed at 7pm - 7:30 at the latest and they are elementary school aged.

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Anonymous wrote:This has been covered before. Some folks have to work full time and don't really have a choice. .

Sure they do. Downsize, downsize, downsize. You don't need to live in a 3,000 sq ft place, hire help for cleaning and yardwork, wear the best clothes, have an iPhone5, drive an SUV with only one or two kids, use coupons and shop the specials. Cook more, go out to eat once a month or less.

It can easily be done, even in this area. But people here are too set on keeping up their extravagant lifestyles.

Priorities.

Hey, we won't judge you for living poor ok?

Nope, not living poor. Living within our means, comfortably. I can't help it if this is a foreign concept to you. However, "worth" is relative. My children are worth more than outsourcing them to someone else for most of their waking hours.

You better not send them to school at all then.

School is not "most of their waking hours." Reading is fundamental.

Oh really? 9 to 2:30 is not? Some kids sleep at 7pm. So that's at least half their waking hours.

What elementary school child goes to be at 7pm? Get real. My 4YO goes to bed at 8. Troll.

All of my kids go to bed at 7pm - 7:30 at the latest and they are elementary school aged.

Hmm. Is that because "they need the sleep" or because you are sick and tired of dealing with them? I don't know many elementary school aged children who are asleep at 7 of their own volition.