bikini with kids?

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm also a nanny. During the summer, I normally do wear a bikini but I have a new job watching twin 3 month olds and a 2 year old so I just recently bought a tankini to add to my collection. The family has a big boat and I was told that we would be spending a lot of time on it this summer and at their yacht club and I figured that having to care for twin babies AND a 2 year old around water, I might be more comfortable in a tankini in case of pulling, etc. I just bought this from VS and I think it's cute and won't make me look old (I'm 24)! http://www.victoriassecret.com/swimwear/tankinis/unforgettable-tankini-forever-sexy?ProductID=108133&CatalogueType=OLS

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Have some decency and professionalism. No woman should EVER wear a bikini, but to wear one on the job....what kind of exhibitionist are you? Who prances around in their underwear while working? Be a lady, you 26 years old not 26 months.

Best emoticon combo ever. Perfect reply to this post!

[Anonymous]

OP, there are tons of nannies at our pool and I haven't seen any of them wear anything but a bikini. There is one particular nanny at our pool who I WISH would wear a one piece, but it's because she makes me long for the days when my butt looked that good without a herculean effort from spanx. Of course my husband says he has never noticed her. (I wonder if my husband knows PP's husband, who "does not want to be distracted by bikinis!?") LOL (hello obvious troll...)

I think if you are going to be around the family, take your cue from mom. If she is covered up, you should probably not be more revealing, just because that might be weird for the family / employee dynamic. But if mom is in a bikini, go ahead. When you are at the pool on your own time, I think your wardrobe is up to you. In that case, take your cue from the other people at the pool. I'd wear your bikini with a tank over it the first day, and if everyone else at the pool is wearing tanks or one-pieces, then you know you've landed at a conservative place; and you might want to invest in a simple tank suit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm also a nanny. During the summer, I normally do wear a bikini but I have a new job watching twin 3 month olds and a 2 year old so I just recently bought a tankini to add to my collection. The family has a big boat and I was told that we would be spending a lot of time on it this summer and at their yacht club and I figured that having to care for twin babies AND a 2 year old around water, I might be more comfortable in a tankini in case of pulling, etc. I just bought this from VS and I think it's cute and won't make me look old (I'm 24)! http://www.victoriassecret.com/swimwear/tankinis/unforgettable-tankini-forever-sexy?ProductID=108133&CatalogueType=OLS

holy crap, nanny. i'd totally do you.

[Anonymous]

I am a mom and I wear a bikini so in fine with our nanny doing the same. I would suggest a halter/sturdy top. I don't wear my string bikini tips with the baby....he pulls in it too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are tons of nannies at our pool and I haven't seen any of them wear anything but a bikini. There is one particular nanny at our pool who I WISH would wear a one piece, but it's because she makes me long for the days when my butt looked that good without a herculean effort from spanx. Of course my husband says he has never noticed her. (I wonder if my husband knows PP's husband, who "does not want to be distracted by bikinis!?") LOL (hello obvious troll...)

I think if you are going to be around the family, take your cue from mom. If she is covered up, you should probably not be more revealing, just because that might be weird for the family / employee dynamic. But if mom is in a bikini, go ahead. When you are at the pool on your own time, I think your wardrobe is up to you. In that case, take your cue from the other people at the pool. I'd wear your bikini with a tank over it the first day, and if everyone else at the pool is wearing tanks or one-pieces, then you know you've landed at a conservative place; and you might want to invest in a simple tank suit.

Your husband is lying!!! I am a red blooded male, and I notice all sorts of other women besides my DW all the time. I even comment on it to her! I basically call it window shopping. I can look, but I am not buying!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone for your responses. I will admit some comments were more helpful than others and who ever wrote the post "have some decency" I agree was not helpful or appropriate!! Should I openly ask the mother this question? My bikinis are two piece but not skimpy, but I am shopping around for a one piece to alternate if not solely wear the one piece. What are water shorts by the way?? I would feel fine wearing my bikinis taking the kids to the pool alone but what if and when the parents join me should I wear a one piece? I would feel fine wearing them in front of mom, assuming she isn't a jealous person (i doubt she is). But if its me kids and dad that could be awkward... I'm not sure if I'm overanalizing the entire situation, just trying to find a solution before the pools day start!

Get the jealous out of your mind...no one cares. What people care about is you teaching their children that women are sex objects. I don't want my son seeing women as meat. I don't want my daughter thinking she is meat so she has to dress that way. And I personally don't want to be distracted by you flopping around, and neither does my husband. Grow the hell up. No one is jealous of your lack of discretion.

LMAO You can think all you want but I bet your husband thinks otherwise. Probably loves the distraction from the hag...I mean nag....of a wife.

You should get rid of the whore mentality. It is bad for women. All women are not scheming whores but women like you don't help. All men are not disrespectful horn dogs and some do try and control lustful urges.

A little feminism 101.

Sex shaming is not how feminism works, that's how catty women think feminism works. You must have some real hang ups to think a woman who wears a bikini is "slutty".

[Anonymous]

My DW 44 y.o. old wears a bikini and she is "hot." DD wears them too. When I was in Russia, 60 y.o. grandmas wore them. I had to chuckle, as they obviously have no body image problems and just want maximum exposure to the sun!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DW 44 y.o. old wears a bikini and she is "hot." DD wears them too. When I was in Russia, 60 y.o. grandmas wore them. I had to chuckle, as they obviously have no body image problems and just want maximum exposure to the sun!

You think there's virtue in both of those things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, there are tons of nannies at our pool and I haven't seen any of them wear anything but a bikini. There is one particular nanny at our pool who I WISH would wear a one piece, but it's because she makes me long for the days when my butt looked that good without a herculean effort from spanx. Of course my husband says he has never noticed her. (I wonder if my husband knows PP's husband, who "does not want to be distracted by bikinis!?") LOL (hello obvious troll...)

I think if you are going to be around the family, take your cue from mom. If she is covered up, you should probably not be more revealing, just because that might be weird for the family / employee dynamic. But if mom is in a bikini, go ahead. When you are at the pool on your own time, I think your wardrobe is up to you. In that case, take your cue from the other people at the pool. I'd wear your bikini with a tank over it the first day, and if everyone else at the pool is wearing tanks or one-pieces, then you know you've landed at a conservative place; and you might want to invest in a simple tank suit.

This is great advice...

[Anonymous]

I don't think i really matters how you look in a bikini. The issue is context and whether in the context of your employer's family you are sexualizing yourself in a way that is unprofessional or unhelpful to you professionally. In some families, a bikini would be fine. In others, not. Perhaps look at what other family members wear as their regular clothing. Do the women wear suggestive clothing? Tank tops? Shorter shorts? Some of these items can look absolutely fine (not trashy) and it's a matter of taste. My default would be not to wear a bikini unless the family's dress was on the more revealing side, in which case I think a bit more wiggle room. I would absolutely not wear anything sexually suggestive, whether a one-piece, bikini, tankini, whatever, on the job. You could get away with it in your regular clothes, I'd think, but when it comes to a bathing suit I'd stick with modest.

[Anonymous]

If you have nice body....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My DW 44 y.o. old wears a bikini and she is "hot." DD wears them too. When I was in Russia, 60 y.o. grandmas wore them. I had to chuckle, as they obviously have no body image problems and just want maximum exposure to the sun!

You think there's virtue in both of those things?

I think,there is virtue in being comfortable in your own skin and not having society dictate to you what you should or should not wear. What is your problem with what these women choose to wear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks everyone for your responses. I will admit some comments were more helpful than others and who ever wrote the post "have some decency" I agree was not helpful or appropriate!! Should I openly ask the mother this question? My bikinis are two piece but not skimpy, but I am shopping around for a one piece to alternate if not solely wear the one piece. What are water shorts by the way?? I would feel fine wearing my bikinis taking the kids to the pool alone but what if and when the parents join me should I wear a one piece? I would feel fine wearing them in front of mom, assuming she isn't a jealous person (i doubt she is). But if its me kids and dad that could be awkward... I'm not sure if I'm overanalizing the entire situation, just trying to find a solution before the pools day start!

Get the jealous out of your mind...no one cares. What people care about is you teaching their children that women are sex objects. I don't want my son seeing women as meat. I don't want my daughter thinking she is meat so she has to dress that way. And I personally don't want to be distracted by you flopping around, and neither does my husband. Grow the hell up. No one is jealous of your lack of discretion.

LMAO You can think all you want but I bet your husband thinks otherwise. Probably loves the distraction from the hag...I mean nag....of a wife.

You should get rid of the whore mentality. It is bad for women. All women are not scheming whores but women like you don't help. All men are not disrespectful horn dogs and some do try and control lustful urges.

A little feminism 101.

Sex shaming is not how feminism works, that's how catty women think feminism works. You must have some real hang ups to think a woman who wears a bikini is "slutty".

I am not a feminist. Feminism is repulsive. I do however support women being treated with respect and not being seen as sex objects. Women are not sex objects, but you can't have it both ways. Either you want to be respected as a human being, or you don't.

You should be ashamed of being a slut, that is not a virtue. Sex is for the bedroom or your private kitchen, not for public areas and certainly it is not to be used to manipulate or as a one up over another woman. Get a life and a brain.

[Anonymous]

One- we have a nanny and she takes our children to the pool in a bikini. I really don't care what she wears. I might feel differently if it were a thing, but it's not so I don't care.

Two- I think everyone should feel proud of their body and feel free to "flaunt" it if they want. Some of you might feel a bikini is not appropriate for my nanny's body type, but I don't think that should form the basis of her determination on what makes her feel good about herself. I think that's a good attitude to adopt. Thank goodness my kids GE to see that bodies come in all shapes.