Husband too close to female friend?

[Anonymous]

I am not prepared to face the truth at all..I am still hoping he loves me and will return to me. But I also know that he will never let go of her. The strange thing here is that the husband of my husband's female friend knows about this and they pretend that its normal also he once told me that I should not interfere with their friendship. I get a lot of fans and people compliment me so much but he never does and is nit even jealous of the guys who can talk to me.But he tells me he gets annoyed if his female friend gets close to anyone else. Should I really start bringing the family in? Coz that happens in India and since mine is an arranged marriage that would be step1.

[Anonymous]

I am actually looking for advice from people all over coz if i talk about this to my husband he says I am being too narrow minded and we are currently in US and he says I have to be a little open minded. I am sure any woman is offended by such activities. Am I right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not prepared to face the truth at all..I am still hoping he loves me and will return to me. But I also know that he will never let go of her. The strange thing here is that the husband of my husband's female friend knows about this and they pretend that its normal also he once told me that I should not interfere with their friendship. I get a lot of fans and people compliment me so much but he never does and is nit even jealous of the guys who can talk to me.But he tells me he gets annoyed if his female friend gets close to anyone else. Should I really start bringing the family in? Coz that happens in India and since mine is an arranged marriage that would be step1.

The husband of your husband's female friend might be a part of it. There is a 'lifestyle' where the wife is allowed a lover because the husband wants her to have one.

As to the steps you should take, that is a personal choice. Therefore my suggestion would be...flip a coin, heads you involve the family, tails you don't. When the coin lands come back and tell me if it was heads or tails and how you felt about that...then I will tell you what I recommend.

[Anonymous]

Sure.. thanks

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say they have reached a physical relationship, but it is getting close OP. I have been there, and when the DH starts getting upset when you question the texting. You know you have a problem. My DH was stupid enough not to realize that you have to delete texts twice on a android. So I got to see the texts he didn't want me to see. Start digging OP, and take photos of any texts you find so he can't delete them and gas light you. Stay calm and be smart. Act like you don't care, and get him to let his guard down. Call her sometime on his phone while he is sleeping and see what she says when she answers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's exactly how I was with the guy with whom I am now having an affair.

Ditto.

Same here!

[Anonymous]

Your DH is gaslighting you (do a google search). In the US, as a wife I would be very angry that my husband was that close to another woman. I would be so angry that if he didn't stop, I would think about divorce. He is having an emotional affair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH is gaslighting you (do a google search). In the US, as a wife I would be very angry that my husband was that close to another woman. I would be so angry that if he didn't stop, I would think about divorce. He is having an emotional affair.

That is right "emotional affair".She is on vacation now and not a single day goes without a video chats and I the calls are endless. I was hoping I would get some free time with him but he is glued to the phone.Even I never did video chats regular;y when I was away. This is getting there. But I am so lost.I am currently in the US and I dunno where to start.HE loses his temper quite badly when I talk about her.She is all over my house even if she is not physically present

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's exactly how I was with the guy with whom I am now having an affair.

Ditto.

Same here!

So you guys think they will end up in a relationship? She has a kid too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's exactly how I was with the guy with whom I am now having an affair.

Was he married?

Yes. We are co-workers. Now living together.

[Anonymous]

If they haven't already, they will soon have a physical relationship. Whether or not he will leave you for her, I don't know. But how long can you put up with him being so disrespectful to you and your child? At some point your child will realize that daddy doesn't love mommy and loves his 'friend' more.

I know it is scary. Please seek some counseling to help you make a decision on what to do. Are you a part of a religious community where you could talk to someone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's exactly how I was with the guy with whom I am now having an affair.

And I could be your AP... Prob not as she doesn't visit this site but it all started at work and now we get together a couple times per week for mind blowing sex and there is a strong emotional component too. We are both married and have fallen hard for each other. I don't care if we get caught, it's just that good when we're together. It would likely fast forward what we want to do and that's be with each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's exactly how I was with the guy with whom I am now having an affair.

Ditto.

Same here!

How come this never happens to me? Everyone else has fun.

[Anonymous]

Wrong. Just wrong.

If he insisting this is normal? It's not. And it's not healthy for the to of you.

[Anonymous]

Out of 1000 women, not one would be happy about it. So the majority gets to vote it's an asshole move?

Yes, it's an asshole move. No excuses will make this okay or better.