Can you be friends with a smoker mom?

[Anonymous]

Cigarette smoking is unhealthy, no doubt, and foul-smelling to non-smokers, but the level of ridiculousness in some of these posts-- are you for real, or are you secretly Europeans sitting in front of your computers, chain smoking and giggling to yourselves as you find ways to trollishly mock the latest trend in American puritanism: the zealous anti-smoking crusade?

Seriously, y'all need to unclench. I don't even know any parents in my generation who smoke. It's hardly like there is an army of nasty-smelling, cancer-causing addicts out there just clamoring to get up in your personal space and infect you with their friendship.

[Anonymous]

Likely not. Unless she is the type of mom that doesn't smoke at all around nonsmokers. I stopped hanging out with a childhood friend when she picked up smoking in our 20s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no. I'm not interested in exposing my child to 2nd and 3rd degree smoke. I hate the smell and it's a disgusting habit.

+1

Who really smokes these days anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no. I'm not interested in exposing my child to 2nd and 3rd degree smoke. I hate the smell and it's a disgusting habit.

+1

Who really smokes these days anyway?

40% of Greeks. But they clearly can't do much right, as evidenced by their economy. Or lack thereof.

The typical smoker's profile is unflattering: it is the most prevalent among young men aged 15 to 54 who left school early and who are unemployed and broke.

Not exactly the profile of my friends...or the average DCUM reader.

[Anonymous]

No. I get migraines from cigarette smoke. Wouldn't be able to hang out in her house, wouldn't want her second-hand smoke around me outside, and wouldn't want her bringing her third-hand smoke into my house either. Double all that for having my LO exposed to it.

[Anonymous]

To me, it's a non-issue because as previous posters have pointed out, who even smokes anymore? I don't know anyone who does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cigarette smoking is unhealthy, no doubt, and foul-smelling to non-smokers, but the level of ridiculousness in some of these posts-- are you for real, or are you secretly Europeans sitting in front of your computers, chain smoking and giggling to yourselves as you find ways to trollishly mock the latest trend in American puritanism: the zealous anti-smoking crusade?

Seriously, y'all need to unclench. I don't even know any parents in my generation who smoke. It's hardly like there is an army of nasty-smelling, cancer-causing addicts out there just clamoring to get up in your personal space and infect you with their friendship.

The OP asked a question; did you not read it? We are simply answering. In this case: No, and why.
To me the smoke defenders are the ones who need to unclench.

[Anonymous]

My friends don't smoke. I didn't seek that out, but I do hate the smell of cigarette smoke and find it disgusting to be around. I wouldn't seek out the friendship of someone with really bad body odor either. I sincerely doubt that any of the posters who are trashing people for not wanting to be friends with smokers would sign up to be friends with someone who has really bad BO either. Hypocrites.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no. I'm not interested in exposing my child to 2nd and 3rd degree smoke. I hate the smell and it's a disgusting habit.

+1

Who really smokes these days anyway?

40% of Greeks. But they clearly can't do much right, as evidenced by their economy. Or lack thereof.

The typical smoker's profile is unflattering: it is the most prevalent among young men aged 15 to 54 who left school early and who are unemployed and broke.

Not exactly the profile of my friends...or the average DCUM reader.

Alrighty snob.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not, because it makes me physically ill.
Tearing, sneezing, coughing, vomiting.

I don't care that you are smoking, or why, or what, but please don't smoke in the air that I'm breathing.

So, by your logic, as a vegetarian I (& all other veggies/vegans worldwide - not to mention many pregnant women) should be able to ban all barbecuing of animal meats because the smell makes me/us physically ill?!? I'm talking serious tearing, coughing, vomiting and all! Can we ban farms too, while we're at it? Not that there's any here in the city but when I visit the "summer home" - talk about migranes & nauseating smells! By the way, have you happened to walk near an intersection in DC lately or gotten a whiff of a woodburning fireplace? I don't think I should be forced to tolerate such noxious gasses because "I don't care... why, or what, but please don't smoke in the air I'm breathing" Is this really the American that you want to live in... where a few pps discomfort dictates what the rest of the free society can partake in? Because that is utter lunacy to me!

I am in no way suggesting that we live in a free-for-all world but if EVERYONE would take personal responsibility and just use (what used to be) some common sense, you know... being kind & considerate of others, showing compassion, a wee bit of tolerance, and for goodness sake - cut your fellow sister or brother a little slack now & again. Next time, try gently and kindly explaining your allergy to the "offender" (of whatever variety) and at least give them the opportunity to remedy the situation & if they can't or won't, then take it upon your grown-up self to quietly & dignifiably walk away. Acknowledge the fact we all have rights, and it may also help to try to remember these three things: 1. the best resolution to any situation begins with you putting yourself in the other person's shoes; 2. Some people really, truely get enjoyment out of the activity in which you find so repulsive (& I'm not referring only to those who partake themselves); 3. You my dear, are not the most important person in the universe - sorry - the good news in that is that neither is anyone else!

To make what a (very long) story short; yes, I could be friends with a smoker just not a selfish or intolerant one.

P.S.: So very sorry for the long rant, especially considering the time lapse from the last post, but I stumbled upon the thread and after reading so many replies - especially this one - I couldn't resist!

[Anonymous]

I'm with you, op

[Anonymous]

Agree with OP. I just can't be around it.

Mercifully, I don't know anyone who smokes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could probably be friends with someone who smoked if they were a nice, cool person and we had some common interests. Now anyone who liked The English Patient, forget it.

It was dreadful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not, because it makes me physically ill.
Tearing, sneezing, coughing, vomiting.

I don't care that you are smoking, or why, or what, but please don't smoke in the air that I'm breathing.

So, by your logic, as a vegetarian I (& all other veggies/vegans worldwide - not to mention many pregnant women) should be able to ban all barbecuing of animal meats because the smell makes me/us physically ill?!? I'm talking serious tearing, coughing, vomiting and all! Can we ban farms too, while we're at it? Not that there's any here in the city but when I visit the "summer home" - talk about migranes & nauseating smells! By the way, have you happened to walk near an intersection in DC lately or gotten a whiff of a woodburning fireplace? I don't think I should be forced to tolerate such noxious gasses because "I don't care... why, or what, but please don't smoke in the air I'm breathing" Is this really the American that you want to live in... where a few pps discomfort dictates what the rest of the free society can partake in? Because that is utter lunacy to me!

I am in no way suggesting that we live in a free-for-all world but if EVERYONE would take personal responsibility and just use (what used to be) some common sense, you know... being kind & considerate of others, showing compassion, a wee bit of tolerance, and for goodness sake - cut your fellow sister or brother a little slack now & again. Next time, try gently and kindly explaining your allergy to the "offender" (of whatever variety) and at least give them the opportunity to remedy the situation & if they can't or won't, then take it upon your grown-up self to quietly & dignifiably walk away. Acknowledge the fact we all have rights, and it may also help to try to remember these three things: 1. the best resolution to any situation begins with you putting yourself in the other person's shoes; 2. Some people really, truely get enjoyment out of the activity in which you find so repulsive (& I'm not referring only to those who partake themselves); 3. You my dear, are not the most important person in the universe - sorry - the good news in that is that neither is anyone else!

To make what a (very long) story short; yes, I could be friends with a smoker just not a selfish or intolerant one.

P.S.: So very sorry for the long rant, especially considering the time lapse from the last post, but I stumbled upon the thread and after reading so many replies - especially this one - I couldn't resist!

I nearly spit out my meatball.

[Anonymous]

Oh my. Smokers = criminals huh? Get real.