Do you judge parents by their child's name?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love lastname firstnames! I have a friend with a lastname-firstname AND a firstname-lastname and his name is great!

I should say, though, that I find the trendy ones overused. But, for example, "Thomas" is a last name, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I should say, though, that I find the trendy ones overused. But, for example, "Thomas" is a last name, too.

There are lots of words that are last names. Thomas was a first name before it was a last name, though. Now, if you named your kid Thompson, I'd think you were trying too hard. Unless of course, it was a family tradition forever and ever. Which just means that your ancestors were pretentious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I know a kid (from what would be considered an upper middle class family) who named their kid "President". I mean, come on people!!!

Ha ha - I think I know that kid! (There can't be more than one right???). Seriously, she's awesome and totally lives up to the name!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OT from this thread, but maybe you ought to just cut the woman with the massive double stroller a break. Trust me, she doesn't want to be pushing anything that large down the narrow grocery aisle. But she has two kids who are stroller age, and she has to grocery shop. And chances are she hates having a massive stroller and having to drag two little ones shopping more than you hate seeing her. Such is life with babies/toddlers. And a little empathy from you would go a long way.

Signed,
mom of a 2 year old and 2 month old with a double stroller who is looking forward to the day when the older one can walk for an extended period of time without running away.
and who is cranky because she's had a very long day with both of them while her husband is away on business travel.

Totally agree. I have a double stroller (wide..side by side) because I have <<<gasp!>>> TWINS! Those who hate moms with double strollers should refrain from judging. Unless you've had twins (or children who are close in age), you have no idea how difficult it is to get around while dealing with the evil eyes you get at the store. Have some compassion people....oh wait, this is DCUM. Never mind.

I'm also a twin mom and I agree people who bash double strollers have no idea what it's like. Trust me, I wouldn't use a double stroller if I didn't have to.

[Anonymous]

I cannot imagine a kid being named Random and not being a cool kid.

Can someone provide a link to the stroller thread?

[Anonymous]

I know people who deliberately bought "less expensive" strollers. They felt far *more* judged than my friends who deliberately bought "more expensive" strollers. It certainly was an interesting social experiment in itself. THAT speaks volumes about the former. You all know how shallow people are here, you just don't care to admit it! Could this be you? Does it address an issue likely having nothing to do with a stroller?

As far as an innocent childs name, parents have their own reasons for choosing. Knowing how obviously very personal the choice is (as opposed to say, purchasing an object like a stroller). Could this be you? Does it address an issue likely having nothing to do with a name? I would never want to hang out with someone who would judge such a choice. You can deflect all you want, I think it is a miserable thing to do. I would not spend time with you, as life is too short.

It reminds me of mean girls or wanna bes - just looking for something to make fun of. These people will never be happy, because they do not know *how* to be happy. Hint: trying to mind others business will not make you happy. Are these people jealous of something that has nothing to do with the childs name? Wow, don't tell me you are jealous of an innocent child. How sad.

Live and let live, people. You will be much happier in your own miserable life if you try it. I know this is the judge-your-neighbor capitol of the world. But really, just try it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love lastname firstnames! I have a friend with a lastname-firstname AND a firstname-lastname and his name is great!

I should say, though, that I find the trendy ones overused. But, for example, "Thomas" is a last name, too.

I love surnames as first (or middle) names but ONLY if the surname used is actually a surname in one of the parents' families. Otherwise, no.

[Anonymous]

I judge everyone about everything.

[Anonymous]

This thread makes me sad that people never grew up and are still so nasty, but supposedly "educated". They don't sound educated at all. How can being so mean and judgmental to others make anyone sound "educated"? That is a rhetorical question, of course. Grow up, people.

[Anonymous]

I do inwardly roll my eyes at some names. I am a Jennifer. I was one of a freaking dozen seemingly everywhere I went in my youth. Every school, dorm, extracurricular. Drove me up the wall. I was determined from my childhood that my kids would have unusual names, but not weirdo names. Little did I know that our whole culture would go into this unusal name frenzy.

I think I achieved my goal by giving my first daughter a very pretty name from her Ecuadorian relatives. It's unusual but not bizarre. My second daughter has a more typical US name but not often used.

I used the social security popular names list as a guide for what to stay away from.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I know people who deliberately bought "less expensive" strollers. They felt far *more* judged than my friends who deliberately bought "more expensive" strollers. It certainly was an interesting social experiment in itself. THAT speaks volumes about the former. You all know how shallow people are here, you just don't care to admit it! Could this be you? Does it address an issue likely having nothing to do with a stroller?

As far as an innocent childs name, parents have their own reasons for choosing. Knowing how obviously very personal the choice is (as opposed to say, purchasing an object like a stroller). Could this be you? Does it address an issue likely having nothing to do with a name? I would never want to hang out with someone who would judge such a choice. You can deflect all you want, I think it is a miserable thing to do. I would not spend time with you, as life is too short.

It reminds me of mean girls or wanna bes - just looking for something to make fun of. These people will never be happy, because they do not know *how* to be happy. Hint: trying to mind others business will not make you happy. Are these people jealous of something that has nothing to do with the childs name? Wow, don't tell me you are jealous of an innocent child. How sad.

Live and let live, people. You will be much happier in your own miserable life if you try it. I know this is the judge-your-neighbor capitol of the world. But really, just try it.

Very well said. Yes, it is the mean-girl, wannabe mentality in grown women! It's just gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I know a kid (from what would be considered an upper middle class family) who named their kid "President". I mean, come on people!!!

We have a friend who named their son [common first name] America [common last name]. We make fun but I think its awesome. I made her a nursing cover with an American flag design and wrote "America eats here"

[Anonymous]

Alert: labeling people as "mean girls" and "sad" is a judgment. Thinking names are "cute," "clever," or "interesting" are also judgments.

Which is to say that most of our thoughts are judgments. Nobody asked (or answered) whether we're rude to people on the basis of their kids' names, the question was whether we judge and the truth for all of the people who are not actualized buddhists is yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I know people who deliberately bought "less expensive" strollers. They felt far *more* judged than my friends who deliberately bought "more expensive" strollers. It certainly was an interesting social experiment in itself. THAT speaks volumes about the former. You all know how shallow people are here, you just don't care to admit it! Could this be you? Does it address an issue likely having nothing to do with a stroller?

As far as an innocent childs name, parents have their own reasons for choosing. Knowing how obviously very personal the choice is (as opposed to say, purchasing an object like a stroller). Could this be you? Does it address an issue likely having nothing to do with a name? I would never want to hang out with someone who would judge such a choice. You can deflect all you want, I think it is a miserable thing to do. I would not spend time with you, as life is too short.

It reminds me of mean girls or wanna bes - just looking for something to make fun of. These people will never be happy, because they do not know *how* to be happy. Hint: trying to mind others business will not make you happy. Are these people jealous of something that has nothing to do with the childs name? Wow, don't tell me you are jealous of an innocent child. How sad.

Live and let live, people. You will be much happier in your own miserable life if you try it. I know this is the judge-your-neighbor capitol of the world. But really, just try it.

Very well said. Yes, it is the mean-girl, wannabe mentality in grown women! It's just gross.

You judgmental anti-judgers are cracking me up!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Alert: labeling people as "mean girls" and "sad" is a judgment. Thinking names are "cute," "clever," or "interesting" are also judgments.

Which is to say that most of our thoughts are judgments. Nobody asked (or answered) whether we're rude to people on the basis of their kids' names, the question was whether we judge and the truth for all of the people who are not actualized buddhists is yes.

I think this is true that almost all thoughts are really judgments. But there is a certain "judgmental" attitude that I definitely try to avoid when it comes to names. If a person has a "Brittney," a "Brianna" or an "Infinity," for instance, I might automatically make some generalizations about that person which I would not express out loud. The Haydens, Jaydens and the Kaedens might come with a different set of assumptions and the Sophias, Olivias, and Isabellas will come with a whole different set. But I will not decide if I like that person based only on a name or what boils down to personal taste (or what I might think is a lack thereof). And I tend to just think the really weird names are cool although I went slightly more conservative with my own children's names.