Do you judge parents by their child's name?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The reason why I think judging someone on their child's name is ridiculous is because what consititues a "good" name is so completely subjective and personal, that to have an opinion on another's decision implies that you are very intolerant of people who don't think and act just like you. Naming your child Sophia instead of Jane, or Carter instead of Michael doesn't indicate anything about the person except for their preference in a name for that child. Heck I meet plenty of people with "normal" names for one child and "trendy" names for another- so I don't think it can even be used to indicate a person's tendencies towards trendiness. A child's name is rarely indicative of some greater value or personality trait of the parent- especially since it is usually a compromise between the mom and dad (and therefore is frequently neither's first choice). So yes, "judging someone" based on their kids name just says to me that you have a difficult time imagining how other people could possibly think/want different things than you- and that, to me, is a type of person I have no respect for.

Do you not get how you are doing exactly what you claim to abhor: judging someone (as "ridiculous") based on a difference from you (in having opinions about someone else's naming choice) and then acting on it (by withdrawing respect for them)?

The irony on this thread is killing me!

Your argument is very weak my dear. She not saying "Don't judge. Ever." The PP just doesn't like it when people judge people based on frivolous things such as strollers and names. I think she's aware that she's making a judgement. But it's her judgement. She's not claiming perfection. She's judging bitchy women. More power to her.

And thereby being a bitch herself. Which is fine, just hypocritical. Or at least, the particular expressions of people being "ridiculous," "gross," "sad," having miserable lives, and deserving no respect sure make her seem like one. Maybe she should think more carefully about the impression she's giving and whether it matches up to what she's intending. Kind of like when people choose a name for their child!

[Anonymous]

That's it. I am definitely naming my kid Apricot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's it. I am definitely naming my kid Apricot.

I kind of like that!

[Anonymous]

I wanted to name my kid Apricot but I'm allergic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OT from this thread, but maybe you ought to just cut the woman with the massive double stroller a break. Trust me, she doesn't want to be pushing anything that large down the narrow grocery aisle. But she has two kids who are stroller age, and she has to grocery shop. And chances are she hates having a massive stroller and having to drag two little ones shopping more than you hate seeing her. Such is life with babies/toddlers. And a little empathy from you would go a long way.

Signed,
mom of a 2 year old and 2 month old with a double stroller who is looking forward to the day when the older one can walk for an extended period of time without running away.
and who is cranky because she's had a very long day with both of them while her husband is away on business travel.

Totally agree. I have a double stroller (wide..side by side) because I have <<<gasp!>>> TWINS! Those who hate moms with double strollers should refrain from judging. Unless you've had twins (or children who are close in age), you have no idea how difficult it is to get around while dealing with the evil eyes you get at the store. Have some compassion people....oh wait, this is DCUM
. Never mind.

But why do you have to get a double wide instead of the ones where kids are lined up back to back (not sure what you call these)? I sympathize with needing to push two kids around but there are less obnoxious options than the double wide.

The stroller talk is a bit off topic.... but imo unless you get something like the Phil and Ted's (way out of our price range, even used) tandem strollers are often huge and difficult to maneuver. We like our side by side stroller, and it's not too huge (it fits through most doorways). I can maneuver through the metro system (providing it's not rush hour and I don't have to worry about packed trains) and through stores. Plus, they both have equal seating, both are close to me, and I feel safer crossing streets with it.

However when shopping I don't take the stroller in. Instead, one kid goes in the cart, one kid walks. Or I wear one kid, one kid goes in the cart, etc. They're 20 months apart. We keep shopping trips very very brief and to the point (and we give them "jobs" and things to hold) otherwise none of us last very long.

[Anonymous]

Err the quotes messed up. Reposting this

Anonymous wrote:
But why do you have to get a double wide instead of the ones where kids are lined up back to back (not sure what you call these)? I sympathize with needing to push two kids around but there are less obnoxious options than the double wide.

The stroller talk is a bit off topic.... but imo unless you get something like the Phil and Ted's (way out of our price range, even used) tandem strollers are often huge and difficult to maneuver. We like our side by side stroller, and it's not too huge (it fits through most doorways). I can maneuver through the metro system (providing it's not rush hour and I don't have to worry about packed trains) and through stores. Plus, they both have equal seating, both are close to me, and I feel safer crossing streets with it.

However when shopping I don't take the stroller in. Instead, one kid goes in the cart, one kid walks. Or I wear one kid, one kid goes in the cart, etc. They're 20 months apart. We keep shopping trips very very brief and to the point (and we give them "jobs" and things to hold) otherwise none of us last very long.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met a baby Sophie this weekend. I told the mom that there were a few Sophie/Sophias in my son's pre-school class. She looked embarrassed.


sucks to be so unoriginal.

F-you bitch! Why would you say that to someone? You are arrogant. What makes you so much better b/c you didn't choose the name Sophie?

Signed, mom of a Sophie who loves the name and could care less if what you think but does have a problem with you purposefully hurting someone else's feelings b/c they exercised the right to name their kid whatever the F they wanted to.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I met a baby Sophie this weekend. I told the mom that there were a few Sophie/Sophias in my son's pre-school class. She looked embarrassed.


sucks to be so unoriginal.

F-you bitch! Why would you say that to someone? You are arrogant. What makes you so much better b/c you didn't choose the name Sophie?

Signed, mom of a Sophie who loves the name and could care less if what you think but does have a problem with you purposefully hurting someone else's feelings b/c they exercised the right to name their kid whatever the F they wanted to.

I don't see the problem with saying "oh, my son knows a couple of Sophie/Sophia's" if the intent is to be nice (ie. to say that it's a lovely name that people will know it and not mess it up constantly). But if the intent is to embarrass someone then yes, that is extraordinarily bitchy.

I'm sure that people who name their kids Sophie know that it's on the common side. I don't have a Sophie/Sophia myself, but I happen to think that it's one of the names that's common because it's lovely and many people share that view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WTF is a BMW Deadhead? Deadheads drive/drove BMWs?

Ever heard the term "trust fund radical"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Err the quotes messed up. Reposting this

Anonymous wrote:
But why do you have to get a double wide instead of the ones where kids are lined up back to back (not sure what you call these)? I sympathize with needing to push two kids around but there are less obnoxious options than the double wide.

The stroller talk is a bit off topic.... but imo unless you get something like the Phil and Ted's (way out of our price range, even used) tandem strollers are often huge and difficult to maneuver. We like our side by side stroller, and it's not too huge (it fits through most doorways). I can maneuver through the metro system (providing it's not rush hour and I don't have to worry about packed trains) and through stores. Plus, they both have equal seating, both are close to me, and I feel safer crossing streets with it.

However when shopping I don't take the stroller in. Instead, one kid goes in the cart, one kid walks. Or I wear one kid, one kid goes in the cart, etc. They're 20 months apart. We keep shopping trips very very brief and to the point (and we give them "jobs" and things to hold) otherwise none of us last very long.

Yup, agree with all of this. Intended to get a tandem, but after testing them found a side by side much easier to push. (Also found that there is no perfect double stroller,you just pick your poison).
And we live in the city, so leaving our stroller outside the store isn't really an option.

[Anonymous]

For a brief minute, one of my boy names was Aiden until I found out that Aiden/Braydon/Jaydon had become the rage (I don't hate those names by the way...I just didn't want a trendy one). One of the other "front runners" was Marcus which is not and has not been popular (ever?). My family hated the name. I eventually settled on a family name and very common. My name is a well known name but never popular. I hated it when I was growing up (wanted to be a Lisa, Jennifer, or Debbie) but now I'm happy to be a non-trendy but somewhat unique in my generation name. My girl names were alittle more unique but my boy names ended up being very common. Our last name is "ethnic" sounding but our first names are very Western/American/European sounding. I wonder what all that says about my kids? !

[Anonymous]

Oh, come on people. EVERYONE makes some sort of judgment about people based on their name and anyone who thinks they don't either isn't very introspective or isn't being honest. There have been sociological studies that look at just this issue. I remember one in particular that found teachers perceived certain students as smarter based solely on their names.

So yes, I do think it's important for parents to choose carefully and I probably wouldn't think too highly of someone who named their kid, "Harry Pitts" or "Anita Bath". At the same time, my first impression of someone who names their kid Michael or Emily might be that they're a little unoriginal but I freely admit that that's probably an unfair characterization. I might also make some assumptions abut the socio-economic status of a little girl named Destinee, which really isn't fair to her, but I doubt there's a person on this board who wouldn't do the same thing. It's just a matter of whether we're willing to admit to it.

The point is--like it or not--we all make some sort of pre-judgments on the basis of names. It's human nature.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:WTF is a BMW Deadhead? Deadheads drive/drove BMWs?

Ever heard the term "trust fund radical"?

I like "trustifarian"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I met a baby Sophie this weekend. I told the mom that there were a few Sophie/Sophias in my son's pre-school class. She looked embarrassed.


sucks to be so unoriginal.

I'm judging you by the mere fact you would even bring this up to someone you just met. PP you should be the one embarrassed, not Sophie's mom.

agreed. I only have boys and I think 'Sophie' and 'Sophia' are beautiful names. I wouldn't care if they are popular and I certainly wouldn't tell somebody that 'oh---there are X # of kids in my DC's class with that name. What a d*uche.

Unoriginal/boring people think unique names will make them unique.

for the record, the context was I said it was a very pretty name. just said there were a few sophies in the class. intent was not to embarrass, just making conversation. I never met the baby or mom before.

[Anonymous]

My boys are named Karim and Timur. I'm European White. Will that get me judged?