Houseguests…so confused

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Anonymous wrote:You didn't have to be the greatest hosts of all time but serving leftovers was incredibly rude.

NP and for all you know, both OP and DH had big meetings or after-school obligations like taking a kid to a practice on Thursday, so they made a big lasagna on Wednesday.

If you want to be treated like family with a visit during a busy time, you fall in. There is nothing wrong with a lasagna the next day. If you want the full guest treatment, you wait to visit during a time that works for your hosts.

Lasagna never tastes good the 2nd day. It becomes weirdly dry and mushy.

The noodles have absorbed all the liquid so it's both dry and mushy in a gross combination.

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Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

Who cares. You're just an awful person.

Do you feel better about yourself? I bet you don't.

I feel fine about myself. I endured a lot of entitled demanding behavior from visitors. I identified with this poster because I also refuse to host anyone during the school year other than my mom who was helpful and understand the kid's schedules. I had a cousin try to stay with me in October, the busiest month of the year, when my kids were doing college visits. I hold my boundary and say no. I would never agree to host during the school year knowing how people can be.

That is crazy to me. It feels like we’ve had visitors and guests staying with us at least 6-8 times during the school year. But everyone who stays with us (family and friends) is pretty reasonable so maybe that’s the difference

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

You're just looking for a fight today. Why not take a nap since you seem to have below average energy stores?

NP and it seems you’re the one feeling activated, perhaps because you know you’re an overbearing guest

I love when people have the gotchas. I have the detached guest house, but thanks for playing.

What does that have to do with whether you are an overbearing guest?

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

Have you had dirty sheets on the bed since the last visitor? And putting towels in the bathroom? Nobody is going to accuse you of rolling out the red carped.

NP and I always put fresh sheets on the guest bed but put new sheets on anyway when a guest is imminent. How weird, no one wants to sleep on potentially dusty sheets if it has been months

+1 and the guest room is where people go to relax, sleep when someone is snoring or has gas, or pee’d in their on bed or whatever the case may be. And you don’t necessarily need to change those sheets if someone from your own household slept on or laid on it once or twice but an outsider should be provided fresh sheets

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

You're just looking for a fight today. Why not take a nap since you seem to have below average energy stores?

NP and it seems you’re the one feeling activated, perhaps because you know you’re an overbearing guest

I love when people have the gotchas. I have the detached guest house, but thanks for playing.

What does that have to do with whether you are an overbearing guest?

I'm not poor like the vast majority of posters here so I never stay as a guest in anyone's home but I have a guest home I give freely to family and friends as needed. Tell me again how I'm an overbearing guest when I don't stay with anyone but they come to me?

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Anonymous wrote:You didn't have to be the greatest hosts of all time but serving leftovers was incredibly rude.

NP. When my mother comes to my house she cooks every meal. Texts to ask what we want to eat and makes my favorite foods.

My dad also did a lot of the construction projects at my house, he’s aging now.

Op I don’t know what this lazy boy mom nonsense is that you have invited into your home but try to get through the final day of their nonsense expectations with a smile then make sure they don’t come back for a long time

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Anonymous wrote:You didn't have to be the greatest hosts of all time but serving leftovers was incredibly rude.

NP and for all you know, both OP and DH had big meetings or after-school obligations like taking a kid to a practice on Thursday, so they made a big lasagna on Wednesday.

If you want to be treated like family with a visit during a busy time, you fall in. There is nothing wrong with a lasagna the next day. If you want the full guest treatment, you wait to visit during a time that works for your hosts.

Lasagna never tastes good the 2nd day. It becomes weirdly dry and mushy.

You can’t cook

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

You're just looking for a fight today. Why not take a nap since you seem to have below average energy stores?

NP and it seems you’re the one feeling activated, perhaps because you know you’re an overbearing guest

I love when people have the gotchas. I have the detached guest house, but thanks for playing.

What does that have to do with whether you are an overbearing guest?

I'm not poor like the vast majority of posters here so I never stay as a guest in anyone's home but I have a guest home I give freely to family and friends as needed. Tell me again how I'm an overbearing guest when I don't stay with anyone but they come to me?

Then stfu then because you have nothing to add to this conversation

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

You're just looking for a fight today. Why not take a nap since you seem to have below average energy stores?

NP and it seems you’re the one feeling activated, perhaps because you know you’re an overbearing guest

I love when people have the gotchas. I have the detached guest house, but thanks for playing.

What does that have to do with whether you are an overbearing guest?

I'm not poor like the vast majority of posters here so I never stay as a guest in anyone's home but I have a guest home I give freely to family and friends as needed. Tell me again how I'm an overbearing guest when I don't stay with anyone but they come to me?

Translation: you are a raging krunt and no one ever wants to host you because family doesn’t like you and you don’t have any real friends. That said, if you have a guest house in a desirable city, why not get a freebie, and keeped booked and busy so as to avoid Aunt Karen.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

You're just looking for a fight today. Why not take a nap since you seem to have below average energy stores?

NP and it seems you’re the one feeling activated, perhaps because you know you’re an overbearing guest

I love when people have the gotchas. I have the detached guest house, but thanks for playing.

What does that have to do with whether you are an overbearing guest?

I'm not poor like the vast majority of posters here so I never stay as a guest in anyone's home but I have a guest home I give freely to family and friends as needed. Tell me again how I'm an overbearing guest when I don't stay with anyone but they come to me?

Then stfu then because you have nothing to add to this conversation

No.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

You're just looking for a fight today. Why not take a nap since you seem to have below average energy stores?

NP and it seems you’re the one feeling activated, perhaps because you know you’re an overbearing guest

I love when people have the gotchas. I have the detached guest house, but thanks for playing.

What does that have to do with whether you are an overbearing guest?

I'm not poor like the vast majority of posters here so I never stay as a guest in anyone's home but I have a guest home I give freely to family and friends as needed. Tell me again how I'm an overbearing guest when I don't stay with anyone but they come to me?

Translation: you are a raging krunt and no one ever wants to host you because family doesn’t like you and you don’t have any real friends. That said, if you have a guest house in a desirable city, why not get a freebie, and keeped booked and busy so as to avoid Aunt Karen.

Are you a functioning adult? You sound drunk or crazy with this unintelligible screed.

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lol OP I’m sorry your ILs don’t care that you hate them. Better luck next time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol OP I’m sorry your ILs don’t care that you hate them. Better luck next time

I hear ya’
However, mine do.

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They wanted a place to sleep for the wedding. They had that. Now they can go home. Tell DH to ask them to leave.

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I would tell them directly that you feel criticized by these comments, even though you told them that this was a very busy weekend for you, and that they had agreed to just sleep over and not expect hosting.

I would not even wait for your husband to say it.

And there would be no next time for a long time.