Houseguests…so confused

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

Considering it is usually served sliced and plated at restaurants, how would you know? Considering it’s easy to move down a pan size, how would you know?

[Anonymous]

OP, you have my sympathies. My ILs visited at an excruciatingly busy time, did absolutely nothing to help or make life easier, then complained the visit was too short and hectic for their liking. I can’t win, so I have completely stopped caring.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

Have you had dirty sheets on the bed since the last visitor? And putting towels in the bathroom? Nobody is going to accuse you of rolling out the red carped.

Because she didn't invite them.

and they do not deserve a red carpet. Pp is just a jerk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

Who cares. You're just an awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you have fresh food for your home daily?

who the hell are you? You don't go to anyone's home and demand this. Most families eat leftovers often.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

Considering it is usually served sliced and plated at restaurants, how would you know? Considering it’s easy to move down a pan size, how would you know?

A home cook could easily prepare it one day to cook the next. It's a different choice to reheat it again to serve to guests with them knowing it's yesterday's dinner. But this is why I never order lasagna in a restaurant anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just don’t pay them any attention when they make these comments if you clearly warned them. Don’t waste your energy being upset. Just walk out of the room. Next time it might just be easier to say, you are welcome to stay at our home and we’ll get the guest room ready but we have plans all weekend so we won’t be able to spend more than a few minutes here or there together. If they continue to complain about the bday parties, you can just say on repeat, “if only we had known sooner we would have declined the invite”. But also ask yourself if you’d be so easily irritated by your own parents. It’s nice they are interested in spending time with your family. My ILs are the opposite. They are practically strangers to my kids. They moved across the country after our second was born. Initially they traveled here every year or two and would tell us they’d be here for 1-2 weeks so we would clear our schedule. A week or so out, DH would try to pin down plans and logistics but they’d just provide vague assurances that they’d be seeing us. In the end, we got whatever day and time was left after they’d scheduled with their other kids and their friends. It was always just a few hours on a random afternoon. So I stopped clearing our schedules. Then they stopped visiting. I would have really loved if they’d wanted to involved like your in-laws.

Your situation has nothing to do with what op is dealing with. Just because your inlaws are horrible people who don't care about their son and his family doesn't mean op has to put up with a different form of rudeness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

Who cares. You're just an awful person.

Do you feel better about yourself? I bet you don't.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You didn't have to be the greatest hosts of all time but serving leftovers was incredibly rude.

Not op, but people do this all the time. You are one entitled jerk.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

Who cares. You're just an awful person.

Do you feel better about yourself? I bet you don't.

I feel fine about myself. I endured a lot of entitled demanding behavior from visitors. I identified with this poster because I also refuse to host anyone during the school year other than my mom who was helpful and understand the kid's schedules. I had a cousin try to stay with me in October, the busiest month of the year, when my kids were doing college visits. I hold my boundary and say no. I would never agree to host during the school year knowing how people can be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi everyone, professional caterer. If you’ve ever eaten lasagna at a catered event or at a restaurant, congratulations! You’ve had leftover lasagna.

Do you also serve it with a few pieces missing that had been served at the previous day's event?

I would not hesitate to share leftover lasagne, or any food, with my mom if she just pops in. We are family and if the food is good enough for me then it's good enough for her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You didn't have to be the greatest hosts of all time but serving leftovers was incredibly rude.

NP and for all you know, both OP and DH had big meetings or after-school obligations like taking a kid to a practice on Thursday, so they made a big lasagna on Wednesday.

If you want to be treated like family with a visit during a busy time, you fall in. There is nothing wrong with a lasagna the next day. If you want the full guest treatment, you wait to visit during a time that works for your hosts.

Lasagna never tastes good the 2nd day. It becomes weirdly dry and mushy.

[Anonymous]

Let your husband deal with his parents. He’s the one they raised.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like if this was a well liked friend you would have made the tiniest effort. But, it's the in-laws so that would be asking too much.

OP here. We made the effort of cleaning the house and putting clean sheets on the bed and extra towels in the guest bath. There is nothing wrong with lasagna, or with pizza: and by the way, we’ve eaten both leftovers and pizza in their home before.

No, my daughter isn’t going to skip a birthday party that she RSVPd for before the grandparents asked to stay with us. We went out of our way to explain this was a busy weekend, and we’re not up for hostessing with the mostessing. I am making a very nice dinner tonight, the one non-workday evening they are here with us. I’ve also provided more hot breakfast items than I ever do when it’s just my family in our home.

None of our friends would ever treat us this way. Ever. Especially not after we told them it wasn’t a great time to visit, and they said they understood. My friends know that a free place to stay when they are in town for another event entirely is a GIFT.

At any rate, DH is ready to tell them flat out to stop the complaining. They are beyond rude and we will absolutely never trust that they can handle a visit during a non-holiday/non-summertime ever again.

Have you had dirty sheets on the bed since the last visitor? And putting towels in the bathroom? Nobody is going to accuse you of rolling out the red carped.

Because she didn't invite them.

and they do not deserve a red carpet. Pp is just a jerk.

There is a big difference between red carpet treatment and leftover lasagna