What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.

[Anonymous]

Beach Week. Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Promposals.

My kids have gone to proms with a huge group of friends. Sometimes with a date even. But, it has been seen just as a party. Not any of the prom craziness.

[Anonymous]

My kids are not allowed to not reciprocate if someone has treated them or invited them to a meal or have done a favor to them. That is a jerk move.

Our family hosts get-togethers frequently and we are super inclusive (even if "some" people do not reciprocate).

[Anonymous]

These are first gen immigrant problems. The next gen won't be so uptight and weird. Just wait.

[Anonymous]

Not be poor or uneducated. America is for the rich.

[Anonymous]

Cruises. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Promposals.

My kids have gone to proms with a huge group of friends. Sometimes with a date even. But, it has been seen just as a party. Not any of the prom craziness.

Do you really "not allow" the kids to do this or do they just choose not to? This is a weird thing to claim as a cultural family value.

[Anonymous]

No guns, no dating, no playing football.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beach Week. Absolutely not.

That's not even an American thing. It's a very local thing. I remember describing Beach Week when I got to college and people were shocked.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

We don’t. We have three, one in MS, one in HS, and a college freshmen. They won’t do it because they just aren’t interested, and would rather wait.

This whole thread is very bizarre and truly divorced from reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Beach Week. Absolutely not.

That's not even an American thing. It's a very local thing. I remember describing Beach Week when I got to college and people were shocked.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Cake only birthday parties! Why??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

We don’t. We have three, one in MS, one in HS, and a college freshmen. They won’t do it because they just aren’t interested, and would rather wait.

This whole thread is very bizarre and truly divorced from reality.

What is bizarre? It is considered ok for American kids to fornicate from their teen years by their parents. Around the world it is not the norm. From an immigrant perspective - there is no need for our children to follow this practice. But, if they do? There is something legally that can be done by the parents only as long as they are minors, but otherwise what can you do? Maybe cut them off from the family or something. I mean in many families there will be consequences.

On the other hand - It is ok for American kids to not love Math. Around the world, it is a cause for great concern for parents if their kid is not proficient in Math. It is just the way things are. Maybe American parents do not see the value in getting upset over Math. And if that is the case - isn't that their choice and cultural preference?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No guns, no dating, no playing football.

Uffff, I agree. I cannot watch how violent this game is.

[Anonymous]

Child Beauty Pageants. Horrifying.