What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.
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Anonymous
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I will go first.
- No sleepovers. I have held 1/2 sleepovers...(kids wear PJ's, have fun but get picked up at 11:00 pm). - No dating in HS. - No carpools for my kids. We did offer rides and ran carpools for our friend's children if they asked for it but never for mine. |
Anonymous
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Refusing these on principle is bizarre.
My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point. But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way. Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid. |
Anonymous
| Don’t own guns. |
Anonymous
| I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling? |
Anonymous
How will you control this when your kid is in college? |
Anonymous
TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids. In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children. My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries. |
Anonymous
| First things that came to mind with the subject line was set off our own firecrackers. |
Anonymous
| Sleepovers. |
Anonymous
Distracted and terrible driving, poorly maintained car, negligence to check if kids were wearing seatbelts, allowing rudeness, inappropriate behavior and trash talking in the car - we saw this behavior when I was also in the car of one parent who gave us a lift one time. So, that was my one exposure and then DH and I decided that we would not let our kids do carpool with someone else. I am perfectly fine driving other people's kids around if I am asked. I will happily do the carpooling, wait for them for pickup and drop off, let them wait for their parents at my house, provide meals and free childcare etc at my house, host events at my own house...all of this so that I can let my kids have fun and have friends...but I do not trust others with my children. |
Anonymous
DP. I think socialization, family dynamics and home culture also plays a part in how and when children become sexually active. Most gen-z are moving away from hook-up culture and I think this is also due to the culture and worldview that immigrants are bringing to the table. Hooking up as seen as trashy and poor people's behavior. Especially in the affluent and educated circles. |
Anonymous
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So you hate Americans-Got it!
As an American, who you decided is evil without even knowing me, We also don’t allow sleepovers. But other than that I don’t know if you are aware but teenagers date in HS outside of America. Also you can try and control this as much as you want, your kids will just keep it a secret. Carpools just help both sets (or more) of parents. I’m not sure why you automatically think everyone besides you is a dangerous driver (they have kids they want to protect as well). |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
We don’t. We have three, one in MS, one in HS, and a college freshmen. They won’t do it because they just aren’t interested, and would rather wait. |
Anonymous
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Pitbulls.
I know that many people have pitbulls as pets in this country but we won't allow this. |
Anonymous
Haha, ok. That’s what they tell you. |