What American "cultural" things you don't do or allow your kids to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does it bother people if other parents don’t want their underage children having sex? Thats disgusting. They are children. This is the United States. People should have the freedom to believe and do whatever they want.

10 years from now your kid is going to be sitting in therapy because their parent called them disgusting when they found out they had sex at 17 with their also 17 year old boyfriend or girlfriend. That’s was teenagers do. It’s normal, it’s healthy and it’s parents like you that cause kids to grow up having intimacy issues.

NP. No, teenagers having sex is not healthy (unless they’re married, and most teens are not mature enough for that). Sex is a huge commitment that involves emotional intimacy and physical risks as well (STDs, pregnancy). Even if you have no religious or moral objection to teen sex, consider this: no birth control is 100%. If your son gets a girl pregnant, he has zero say in what happens next. None. She might abort a baby he wanted to raise. He may spend the rest of his life paying for a baby he didn’t want. I tell my son not to have sex with anyone he wouldn’t want to co-parent with for the rest of his life.

And causal sex is more likely to lead to intimacy issues than avoiding it is. DH and I dated for many years without having sex and eventually got married. Very close with each other and our families of origin.

I was a teenager once. And I was having sex. So was literally every other teenager I knew. I was extremely responsible-I was on BC and we always used condoms as well every single time. Saying “don’t have sex” actually causes more teenage pregnancies then making sure your teenagers are safe, have the facts and know to they can come to you about birth control.

I am not a fan of teens having sex but once you are a young adult, maybe with degree in hand, say 21 years old, and can have a real job it’s fair game to enjoy being young regardless of married or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does it bother people if other parents don’t want their underage children having sex? Thats disgusting. They are children. This is the United States. People should have the freedom to believe and do whatever they want.

10 years from now your kid is going to be sitting in therapy because their parent called them disgusting when they found out they had sex at 17 with their also 17 year old boyfriend or girlfriend. That’s was teenagers do. It’s normal, it’s healthy and it’s parents like you that cause kids to grow up having intimacy issues.

NP. No, teenagers having sex is not healthy (unless they’re married, and most teens are not mature enough for that). Sex is a huge commitment that involves emotional intimacy and physical risks as well (STDs, pregnancy). Even if you have no religious or moral objection to teen sex, consider this: no birth control is 100%. If your son gets a girl pregnant, he has zero say in what happens next. None. She might abort a baby he wanted to raise. He may spend the rest of his life paying for a baby he didn’t want. I tell my son not to have sex with anyone he wouldn’t want to co-parent with for the rest of his life.

And causal sex is more likely to lead to intimacy issues than avoiding it is. DH and I dated for many years without having sex and eventually got married. Very close with each other and our families of origin.

I was a teenager once. And I was having sex. So was literally every other teenager I knew. I was extremely responsible-I was on BC and we always used condoms as well every single time. Saying “don’t have sex” actually causes more teenage pregnancies then making sure your teenagers are safe, have the facts and know to they can come to you about birth control.

I am not a fan of teens having sex but once you are a young adult, maybe with degree in hand, say 21 years old, and can have a real job it’s fair game to enjoy being young regardless of married or not.

So glad you are here to set us all straight about when it’s appropriate!

Guess what? Teenagers typically don’t care if their parents are “fans of it” or not. Have you ever met a teenager? Also, to the pp who said “my son isn’t pressuring any girls because he has not dated yet” I’ll be laughing at this one all night. I would hope nobody is pressuring anybody to do anything they aren’t comfortable with, but to imply your child hasn’t had sex just because they haven’t dated is naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does it bother people if other parents don’t want their underage children having sex? Thats disgusting. They are children. This is the United States. People should have the freedom to believe and do whatever they want.

10 years from now your kid is going to be sitting in therapy because their parent called them disgusting when they found out they had sex at 17 with their also 17 year old boyfriend or girlfriend. That’s was teenagers do. It’s normal, it’s healthy and it’s parents like you that cause kids to grow up having intimacy issues.

NP. No, teenagers having sex is not healthy (unless they’re married, and most teens are not mature enough for that). Sex is a huge commitment that involves emotional intimacy and physical risks as well (STDs, pregnancy). Even if you have no religious or moral objection to teen sex, consider this: no birth control is 100%. If your son gets a girl pregnant, he has zero say in what happens next. None. She might abort a baby he wanted to raise. He may spend the rest of his life paying for a baby he didn’t want. I tell my son not to have sex with anyone he wouldn’t want to co-parent with for the rest of his life.

And causal sex is more likely to lead to intimacy issues than avoiding it is. DH and I dated for many years without having sex and eventually got married. Very close with each other and our families of origin.

I was a teenager once. And I was having sex. So was literally every other teenager I knew. I was extremely responsible-I was on BC and we always used condoms as well every single time. Saying “don’t have sex” actually causes more teenage pregnancies then making sure your teenagers are safe, have the facts and know to they can come to you about birth control.

I am not a fan of teens having sex but once you are a young adult, maybe with degree in hand, say 21 years old, and can have a real job it’s fair game to enjoy being young regardless of married or not.

So glad you are here to set us all straight about when it’s appropriate!

Guess what? Teenagers typically don’t care if their parents are “fans of it” or not. Have you ever met a teenager? Also, to the pp who said “my son isn’t pressuring any girls because he has not dated yet” I’ll be laughing at this one all night. I would hope nobody is pressuring anybody to do anything they aren’t comfortable with, but to imply your child hasn’t had sex just because they haven’t dated is naive.

No need to get so excited, I was simply responding to the no sex until marriage post.

Most millennials get married early 30s, that’s just insane to wait. The men would have gone soft already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Refusing these on principle is bizarre.

My kids have each done one sleepover in their lives, I believe. They're not dating as teens and young adults. And my second did have a yearlong carpool at some point.

But we didn't set off to refuse those things. It just happened that way.

Why don't you live your life in a more organic way? You seem extremely mentally rigid.

TBH - I see no value in them while my kids are young. There are many other things that I do for the socialization of my kids, so I don't think they are missing anything but dangerous situations. I do not want to normalize these things or distract them from their academics, ECs, traveling and having fun with similar kids.

In my interactions with American families, I have not walked away with feeling that I want them be around my kids when I am not around. I don't want to do the detective work to find out what the intentions of people around me are especially when it comes to the safety of my children.

My kids and I do have these discussions all the time, and I feel I will be more comfortable when they are adults and able to have their own boundaries.

You're exactly the kind of person that makes Americans wish immigrants would have stayed in their country of origin, and also wonder why they didn't. Congrats.

Totally different poster. Why are you assuming this person is an immigrant?

DP. Because they're slamming Americans...

Plenty of Americans slam Americans. You must be very limited.

You must be very dim. I'm an American so I wouldn't refer to other families dismissively as Americans. That makes no sense. Try a little reading comprehension next time, it'll go a long way.

[Anonymous]

I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

Well I mean, that’s great. But you don’t know any different. Which is not necessarily a bad thing but also doesn’t mean it’s any better than not waiting either.

One of the risks of waiting until you are married is finding out you are not sexually compatible. Two people can be compatible in so many ways but not sexually. You are lucky that it’s worked out for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

Well I mean, that’s great. But you don’t know any different. Which is not necessarily a bad thing but also doesn’t mean it’s any better than not waiting either.

One of the risks of waiting until you are married is finding out you are not sexually compatible. Two people can be compatible in so many ways but not sexually. You are lucky that it’s worked out for you.

Sexual compatibility is a scam and the reason so many people on this board have terrible sex lives. Sex is a physical act and the body changes drastically through the phases of adulthood. You have to change along with your partner and it’s extremely difficult for people who didn’t wait to understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

Well I mean, that’s great. But you don’t know any different. Which is not necessarily a bad thing but also doesn’t mean it’s any better than not waiting either.

One of the risks of waiting until you are married is finding out you are not sexually compatible. Two people can be compatible in so many ways but not sexually. You are lucky that it’s worked out for you.

Sexual compatibility is a scam and the reason so many people on this board have terrible sex lives. Sex is a physical act and the body changes drastically through the phases of adulthood. You have to change along with your partner and it’s extremely difficult for people who didn’t wait to understand that.

This is how I feel generally about "chemistry" and "sparks" sometimes a slow burn is the way to go for a longer lasting relationship. Those sparks burn out pretty fast.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

Well I mean, that’s great. But you don’t know any different. Which is not necessarily a bad thing but also doesn’t mean it’s any better than not waiting either.

One of the risks of waiting until you are married is finding out you are not sexually compatible. Two people can be compatible in so many ways but not sexually. You are lucky that it’s worked out for you.

Sexual compatibility is a scam and the reason so many people on this board have terrible sex lives. Sex is a physical act and the body changes drastically through the phases of adulthood. You have to change along with your partner and it’s extremely difficult for people who didn’t wait to understand that.

This is what people who have only
had bad to mediocre sex say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

Well I mean, that’s great. But you don’t know any different. Which is not necessarily a bad thing but also doesn’t mean it’s any better than not waiting either.

One of the risks of waiting until you are married is finding out you are not sexually compatible. Two people can be compatible in so many ways but not sexually. You are lucky that it’s worked out for you.

Sexual compatibility is a scam and the reason so many people on this board have terrible sex lives. Sex is a physical act and the body changes drastically through the phases of adulthood. You have to change along with your partner and it’s extremely difficult for people who didn’t wait to understand that.

This is what people who have only
had bad to mediocre sex say.

Yeah selfish men with small dicks say this a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

Well I mean, that’s great. But you don’t know any different. Which is not necessarily a bad thing but also doesn’t mean it’s any better than not waiting either.

One of the risks of waiting until you are married is finding out you are not sexually compatible. Two people can be compatible in so many ways but not sexually. You are lucky that it’s worked out for you.

Sexual compatibility is a scam and the reason so many people on this board have terrible sex lives. Sex is a physical act and the body changes drastically through the phases of adulthood. You have to change along with your partner and it’s extremely difficult for people who didn’t wait to understand that.

This is what people who have only
had bad to mediocre sex say.

We have sex 3-5x per week when possible. I didn’t have sex while unmarried but over my marriage I’ve had more sex than most people. If it were bad I don’t think we would be doing it that often after 20 years!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not American, but I don’t see the issue with carpooling. What’s wrong with that? We don’t do sleepovers due to a fear of SA, and we wouldn’t allow dating, because we don’t believe in intimacy before marriage, but what is wrong with carpooling?

How will you control this when your kid is in college?

They won't. Their kids will have finstas and leave their cell phone at their dorm so the creepy stalking parents don't realize they're spending the night with boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I waited to have sex until marriage. I think it let me enjoy sex with fewer hang ups. It really wasn't that hard for me to wait. Teenage boys are kind of gross and I thought so as a teen too.

This board is full of Godless male and female whores who have had abortions. Of course they attack abstinence and purity because their souls are filth.