Sorority hazing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As someone who was in an SEC sorority in the 2010s...sororities should not be hazing. Seriously if your daughter experiences this: drop and report! The national orgs do not tolerate it. When I was a pledge our introduction to the sorority was getting presents and going to a bunch of bonding events for ~8 weeks. I don't know why anyone would tolerate hazing when you should be having that experience.

+1. My freshman daughter was showered with presents and special surprises when she was pledging this fall.

Awww. I love this. I'm one of the PPs above, and this is exactly how it worked in my sorority 30+ years ago. As it should!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most sororities don’t haze, even the top-tier ones. And the few that do keep it so anodyne that no one should be dissuaded from joining out of fear of it, especially when you weigh it against the benefits.

On SEC campuses in particular, top-tier sorority membership is basically a ticket into the upper echelon of Southern society. The top-tier fraternity guys are often the future bank presidents and wealth advisors to UHNWIs in places like Birmingham, Mobile, Biloxi, Charleston, and Jacksonville. Most are married by 26 or 27, often to women from those same top sororities whom they started dating in college.

People in the DMV love to dump on the South, but these folks are living damn good lives by 30. Big house, Bimmers in the driveway, golf and pickleball on the weekends, vacations on Rosemary Beach. You can hit the books all you want, but a high GPA alone doesn’t get you into that world. You network into it, and that applies to men and women. With that in mind, 8–10 weeks of hazing freshman year is a pretty small price to pay.

You're telling me that even if she makes a 4.0, my daughter will never be able to be a housewife in Biloxi married to a "wealth advisor" and former frat bro?

In that case, I'm not sure why I'm still paying her tuition.

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LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How prevalent is it at your kids school? Can you name the school?

Just heard about the common hazing game: “blow or blow” and was personally taken aback (choice btw drugs or a sexual act).

Crazy idea, just say no and don't join. This is literally the "if everyone jumped off a bridge would you do it too?" lesson we all were supposed to have learned in first grade.

Yup. If a kid knowingly chooses to pledge a fraternity or sorority that practices hazing, something went wrong in their development well before they got to campus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most sororities don’t haze, even the top-tier ones. And the few that do keep it so anodyne that no one should be dissuaded from joining out of fear of it, especially when you weigh it against the benefits.

On SEC campuses in particular, top-tier sorority membership is basically a ticket into the upper echelon of Southern society. The top-tier fraternity guys are often the future bank presidents and wealth advisors to UHNWIs in places like Birmingham, Mobile, Biloxi, Charleston, and Jacksonville. Most are married by 26 or 27, often to women from those same top sororities whom they started dating in college.

People in the DMV love to dump on the South, but these folks are living damn good lives by 30. Big house, Bimmers in the driveway, golf and pickleball on the weekends, vacations on Rosemary Beach. You can hit the books all you want, but a high GPA alone doesn’t get you into that world. You network into it, and that applies to men and women. With that in mind, 8–10 weeks of hazing freshman year is a pretty small price to pay.

Please tell me this is a troll!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most sororities don’t haze, even the top-tier ones. And the few that do keep it so anodyne that no one should be dissuaded from joining out of fear of it, especially when you weigh it against the benefits.

On SEC campuses in particular, top-tier sorority membership is basically a ticket into the upper echelon of Southern society. The top-tier fraternity guys are often the future bank presidents and wealth advisors to UHNWIs in places like Birmingham, Mobile, Biloxi, Charleston, and Jacksonville. Most are married by 26 or 27, often to women from those same top sororities whom they started dating in college.

People in the DMV love to dump on the South, but these folks are living damn good lives by 30. Big house, Bimmers in the driveway, golf and pickleball on the weekends, vacations on Rosemary Beach. You can hit the books all you want, but a high GPA alone doesn’t get you into that world. You network into it, and that applies to men and women. With that in mind, 8–10 weeks of hazing freshman year is a pretty small price to pay.

There's something about this that seems oxymoronic, but I can't quite put my finger on it.

[Anonymous]

My friend was pledging a frat. Saw a brother taking a very drunk female friend of his upstairs. Asked the girl if she was OK. Brother got mad. Friend was de-pledged. He ended up transferring (there were other reasons involved but this was part of it). Much respect for my friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most sororities don’t haze, even the top-tier ones. And the few that do keep it so anodyne that no one should be dissuaded from joining out of fear of it, especially when you weigh it against the benefits.

On SEC campuses in particular, top-tier sorority membership is basically a ticket into the upper echelon of Southern society. The top-tier fraternity guys are often the future bank presidents and wealth advisors to UHNWIs in places like Birmingham, Mobile, Biloxi, Charleston, and Jacksonville. Most are married by 26 or 27, often to women from those same top sororities whom they started dating in college.

People in the DMV love to dump on the South, but these folks are living damn good lives by 30. Big house, Bimmers in the driveway, golf and pickleball on the weekends, vacations on Rosemary Beach. You can hit the books all you want, but a high GPA alone doesn’t get you into that world. You network into it, and that applies to men and women. With that in mind, 8–10 weeks of hazing freshman year is a pretty small price to pay.

Hilarious and sad that this person thinks this lifestyle is only achievable by being in a "top-tier" sorority in the south. Time to expand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend was pledging a frat. Saw a brother taking a very drunk female friend of his upstairs. Asked the girl if she was OK. Brother got mad. Friend was de-pledged. He ended up transferring (there were other reasons involved but this was part of it). Much respect for my friend.

This is a fake story.

[Anonymous]

Mild, good-natured hazing helps the pledge class coalesce and forge bonds.

[Anonymous]

What they do at so many of these sororities is just plain sick and disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mild, good-natured hazing helps the pledge class coalesce and forge bonds.

That's a myth. There is evidence that weathering actual difficulties together can forge healthy bonds in a group. Not much for acting out pointless rituals for the sake of reinforcing arbitrary status.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My friend was pledging a frat. Saw a brother taking a very drunk female friend of his upstairs. Asked the girl if she was OK. Brother got mad. Friend was de-pledged. He ended up transferring (there were other reasons involved but this was part of it). Much respect for my friend.

This is a fake story.

Nope. True story. But I'm glad it makes you feel tough to say otherwise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mild, good-natured hazing helps the pledge class coalesce and forge bonds.

Does sticking dildos into each other count as mild and good-natured?

[Anonymous]

Not as UCLA as far as I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How prevalent is it at your kids school? Can you name the school?

Just heard about the common hazing game: “blow or blow” and was personally taken aback (choice btw drugs or a sexual act).

I haven't been in college in a long time but, at the time, no. Our "sisters" brought us presents, took us out, and set us up with boys for date parties.