New mom friend referred to my toddlers cough as “kennel cough”

[Anonymous]

😂🤣😭🐕🐶🐕‍🦺

I love it!

[Anonymous]

She’s attempting to one up you. Her comments are a dig.

Either call her on them - every time or slow fade that new friendship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she's judging you for using daycare vice a nanny, yes you should be annoyed.

But don't worry, the overprotected nanny kids just spend all of kindergarten getting sick every other week. So it'll come around. Play the long game and hold you kennel cough comments back until they are 5.

This is the answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is funny. I don't understand people who try to be offended

OP is not really offended by "kennel cough." She's offended that this woman used the term while also talking up how her nanny is super careful in order to keep her kid from getting sick.

Had it been a fellow daycare mom who was like "oh no, I call that kennel cough, Larlo had it in September -- popsicles after dinner helped," OP would not have been offended. It was the comparison and condescension that made it offensive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:If my kid was coughing that much I’d take them to the doctor.

She’s been to the doctor. She said it’s normal for coughs to last awhile. Her lungs are clear.

No, its not normal. She should have an xray or ct and sputum test.

😂

[Anonymous]

I think you are being overly sensitive.

When I was a working mom, my kids were constantly sick at their preschool/daycare.

I stayed home with my third child and she went to preschool during Covid.

My boys who went to daycare probably have a far better immune system.

What she is saying about the nanny is probably true but it is rude to say.

I have received all sorts of rude comments throughout the years. I have received rude comments when I was a working mom and now that I’m a stay at home mom. Don’t take it personally. Some people are just rude.

[Anonymous]

It’s only rude because she made the comment in a demeaning way that criticized your childcare choices.

My kids attended a part time preschool program after the baby years - I don’t think referring to the constant germs there as “kennel cough” would be insulting because generally people aren’t using part time preschool as childcare and it’s more of an enrichment thing.

[Anonymous]

It's hilarious, but personally I might not make that joke with a new friend before understanding what her vibe is. I tailor my speech to whom I am speaking. One of my friends is very delicate and sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are being overly sensitive.

When I was a working mom, my kids were constantly sick at their preschool/daycare.

I stayed home with my third child and she went to preschool during Covid.

My boys who went to daycare probably have a far better immune system.

What she is saying about the nanny is probably true but it is rude to say.

I have received all sorts of rude comments throughout the years. I have received rude comments when I was a working mom and now that I’m a stay at home mom. Don’t take it personally. Some people are just rude.

Agreed but OP is not required to become friends with a rude person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:😂🤣😭🐕🐶🐕‍🦺

I love it!

Me too!

[Anonymous]

I think it’s funny.


OP - If this is the worst you ever hear, you’re blessed

You’re very sensitive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ha ha that's a good one. I like it!

Me too! My daughter went to take care with a little girl who was always sick. We called her Typhoid Maddy.

[Anonymous]

If it annoys you that she mentioned her nanny all the time, just change topic or give excuses to stop her. Or you can brag about how much your DC has learned at daycare, and how much socialization your DC has. We sent DCs to preschool even I stayed home, as school provides a lot more I couldn’t do. Same for a lot of neighbors / friends I know, some sends kids to daycare as young as 2 even they had nanny when kids were babies.

[Anonymous]

It would be funny to me if not for the follow-up comment. Which I think is rude in any context. Imagine saying that to a SAHM or other nanny mom that’s bummed their kid is sick. It would still sound snotty (essentially “my nanny is more careful than you/your nanny”).

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Anonymous wrote:I appreciate calling it 'kennel cough', that's actually hilarious. But the part about somehow avoiding it by having a nanny makes it obnoxious.

+1. I'd overlook it once, but if that's a pattern, I'd find this irritating. And I had nannies for my kids, and did appreciate that one advantage was less exposure to all the little viruses going around. Of course, your kids may be building up better lifetime immunity -- who knows. But I think most of us recognize that everyone has some level of guilt or anxiety over their childcare, so it seems tone deaf at best, or snotty at worst.