New mom friend referred to my toddlers cough as “kennel cough”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Calling Kennel Cough is rude and not funny but I would not end a friendship but I would keep in mind that she thinks she is superior.

Or you could get a sense of humor and unbunch your panties. You sound dull

[Anonymous]

OP you must have insecurity or less than feelings about your childcare compared to others.
Drop the grievance rope.

[Anonymous]

I used to call my kids daycare illnesses kennel cough. You are being sensitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP you must have insecurity or less than feelings about your childcare compared to others.
Drop the grievance rope.

OP literally said she was insecure

[Anonymous]

If this or any other friendship doesn't make you feel good about your life or your choices, ditch the friend and find a new one. Whether people on this forum find you dull, humorless, sensitive, or insecure is irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's a Seinfeld reference. Hilarious.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qd3eK1iEQvo

"Oh I'll take a vet over an MD any day. They gotta be able to cure a lizard, a chicken, a pig, a frog - all on the same day."

[Anonymous]

I think you’re being too sensitive. Also, how is she supposed to talk about her life and kid without mentioning the nanny. That’s part of her life and will be relevant to her. You should not read into it so much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my kid was coughing that much I’d take them to the doctor.

She’s been to the doctor. She said it’s normal for coughs to last awhile. Her lungs are clear.

No, its not normal. She should have an xray or ct and sputum test.

[Anonymous]

OP see how your class insecurity limits your life?
Also, in dogs kennel cough is treated to prevent pneumonia.
Take this as a clue to get her checked again as 13:37 recommended.

[Anonymous]

No, I wouldn't be offended. It was funny.

[Anonymous]

I called my kids daycare illnesses kennel cough or permacough. NBD

[Anonymous]

I would have laughed. My daughter is in daycare and we're always sick, you need to have a sense of humor about it or you'll drown in the misery.

[Anonymous]

OP, I think the comment on its own is NBD. But if she’s subtly implying she’s got a better childcare set up frequently like you seem to think, it’s going to be hard to be friends.

I remember a few moms who I guess were insecure or something and talked about how amazing their nanny was and how fantastic it was for their kid etc. and i was always biting my tongue so hard because those nanny’s spent a lot of time looking at their phone…it was sort of like that wife who is talking about how hot their balding chubby husband is and how so many women are flirting with him.

I was good with our decision to do daycare though we staggered our hours so it wouldn’t be a super long day.

[Anonymous]

The phrase "kennel cough" could be funny in another context. For instance if two moms with kids in daycare were commiserating over the germs their kids bring home, that would be very funny.

The issue here is not that she used that term, it's that she made a point of comparing your childcare setups and went out of her way to point out why hers is "better" than yours. That's obnoxious. It would have been easy to just say something sympathetic about your kid's cough without making the claim about how her child avoids such things thanks to her nanny's diligence.

If this is the only time she did the comparison thing, I would forget about it. But I have ended friendships with other moms who talk this way all the time (constantly comparing our kid's developmental stages, childcare, schools, activities, etc. -- it gets very old very fast).

It's not about "kennel cough" it's about the drawing the unnecessary, and only flattering to her, comparison.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this or any other friendship doesn't make you feel good about your life or your choices, ditch the friend and find a new one. Whether people on this forum find you dull, humorless, sensitive, or insecure is irrelevant.

+1 you're not required to be friends with any particular person