Preparing for first confession after many years, and having an issue.

[Anonymous]

My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

Do you hear yourself? Do you? This is insane. Stop normalizing abuse.

And by the way, how is actively monitoring one's own ovulatory signs and refraining from seggs during that time NOT TRYING TO PREVENT A PREGNANCY?
Why not just use birth control, which is what you are suggesting too, and is likely to work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

Do you hear yourself? Do you? This is insane. Stop normalizing abuse.

And by the way, how is actively monitoring one's own ovulatory signs and refraining from seggs during that time NOT TRYING TO PREVENT A PREGNANCY?
Why not just use birth control, which is what you are suggesting too, and is likely to work?

The RC church does not prohibit preventing pregnancy. Instead, they state that the only permissible method for preventing pregnancy is abstaining from sex.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

Women should have control over their own bodies. Full stop.
And the failure rate for NFP is not low. That is a straight up lie.
Vasectomies and tubal ligations rarely fail. Rarely, and usually due to incompetence. Ask lawyers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

Do you hear yourself? Do you? This is insane. Stop normalizing abuse.

And by the way, how is actively monitoring one's own ovulatory signs and refraining from seggs during that time NOT TRYING TO PREVENT A PREGNANCY?
Why not just use birth control, which is what you are suggesting too, and is likely to work?

The RC church does not prohibit preventing pregnancy. Instead, they state that the only permissible method for preventing pregnancy is abstaining from sex.

Ok, then for Christ's sake, do that. Please. Just do that. We don't need this mind set to keep continuing into the future. It is cruel, stupid, and dangerous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

Women should have control over their own bodies. Full stop.
And the failure rate for NFP is not low. That is a straight up lie.
Vasectomies and tubal ligations rarely fail. Rarely, and usually due to incompetence. Ask lawyers.

I’ll just ask my sister, thanks.

NFP actually involves a woman taking “control over her own body” and learning how it works so she can apply that knowledge to achieve or to delay pregnancy. NFP requires partner cooperation at a far more significant level than chemical or even barrier contraception, which can leave women feeling like they have to be “available” whether they feel like it or not. NFP differs from artificial contraception by taking advantage of natural periods of fertility and non-fertility. From a religious standpoint it is adaptive to divine design rather than interfering with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

Women should have control over their own bodies. Full stop.
And the failure rate for NFP is not low. That is a straight up lie.
Vasectomies and tubal ligations rarely fail. Rarely, and usually due to incompetence. Ask lawyers.

I’ll just ask my sister, thanks.

NFP actually involves a woman taking “control over her own body” and learning how it works so she can apply that knowledge to achieve or to delay pregnancy. NFP requires partner cooperation at a far more significant level than chemical or even barrier contraception, which can leave women feeling like they have to be “available” whether they feel like it or not. NFP differs from artificial contraception by taking advantage of natural periods of fertility and non-fertility. From a religious standpoint it is adaptive to divine design rather than interfering with it.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

They don't call it the rhythm method anymore, but it's still the same natural, ineffective way. If it doesn't work -- you have a baby. The Science is better, though -- thank God for modern science.

[Anonymous]

OP, I would suggest natural family planning. Especially since you plan to try for a baby soon, I'm not sure why this is such a big deal right now. NFP is helpful anyways for learning about your body, and it will help you GET pregnant as much as AVOID getting pregnant. Just read the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It is not religious, not connect to CC. It is just science and important info about the female body. https://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Anniversary/dp/0062326031/ref=sr_1_1?crid=1LOGJP05COAFA&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.KZYy0w0L9GiAkmKQuFtMIf1645s-MkMj8u6S9rpU8PDdbWOgTXgd6EnLhLnxgqUrZ2MvgqB1-s6DcE_aeJ8vnAbnru5tC8ZepzfF_HD8xInxLZbX_LN8BHK7XKe2Fk64aSmVS2dl62dgVumjv4tZLNg3OR63DM6UiN__yObPWmbhQrmCRVpZ9H7Ee6T7X8yQPA9UHGvKrA8QPV7qdSL17ztQ1hYBe44QnC8mEtzJW-4.hIelKD3f75I63HoHIqP7s3R5-OYtmleAuTQdabtyhGo&dib_tag=se&keywords=taking+control+of+your+fertility&qid=1756922947&sprefix=taking+control+of+your+fertility%2Caps%2C107&sr=8-1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

They don't call it the rhythm method anymore, but it's still the same natural, ineffective way. If it doesn't work -- you have a baby. The Science is better, though -- thank God for modern science.

No, it’s not the “same” as stone-age calendar estimating. To the contrary, it is the product of “modern science.”

“If it doesn’t work — you have a baby.”

Wow, just like chemical method failures, IUD failures; barrier failures; withdrawal failures; and surgical failures.

And unlike other approaches it identifies fertile periods and thus aids couples who decide they want to have a child.

[Anonymous]

I would recommend everyone just stop posting in this thread.

DCUM is full of anti Catholic haters that will question everything. They don't care about Catholic teachings or know them, they just hate the Church. They add nothing.

There must be better forums to get Catholic advice or, as already stated, work with a priest on this issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My advice would be to go to confession and just tell the priest how you feel. Exactly how you wrote it above. Not all priests are great, but many are. Maybe he would be willing to commence a conversation with you about it. The fact that you want to go back to confession is great - he will be happy. And if you are open to even a conversation about it, any good priest would be more than happy to walk through the theology of it and talk to you about your fears and your options.

Right, a good priest will talk to you and listen to you and ultimately tell you to use the rhythm method or leave the church. But you'll feel good about it all, because he's a good priest.

Modern Natural Family Planning is as far from the so-called “rhythm method” as ancient cow-dung pessaries. There is a “standard days” method; a method involving symptom/mucus observation; one that adds observation of basal body temperature; and methods that further include saliva microscopes, ovulation testing and fertility monitoring devices. The “failure” rate of NFP is extremely low, and it has the advantage of also aiding in becoming pregnant when that is what is desired. Nothing is “perfect.” Even tubal ligations and vasectomy fail.

That assumes you have a normal cycle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would recommend everyone just stop posting in this thread.

DCUM is full of anti Catholic haters that will question everything. They don't care about Catholic teachings or know them, they just hate the Church. They add nothing.

There must be better forums to get Catholic advice or, as already stated, work with a priest on this issue.

Then there are the former Catholics who question everything, too.

Catholics don't question anything that THE CHURCH teaches. they do look for work arounds, though.