Preparing for first confession after many years, and having an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow! I didn’t realize this thread would blow up so much. I appreciate those who have left comments. I am also sorry to read about the atrocities some of you personally have experienced at the hands of the church. The purpose of my thread was not to bash Catholicism or necessarily defend it, just sharing a specific issue I am encountering.

I have a lot to think over, but on a positive note: I have found that confession was a good starting point to reevaluate some of the other sins in my life. I tend to be selfish and unkind to others (cursing a lot, road rage, judgemental) and I’ve definitely thought twice about those things since going. So that is a positive thing at least. I am still seeking out some other priests to talk to.

Here's a good website with a catholic perspective:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/formationmatters/2025/08/liturgical-combat/#comment-6758311331

They don't allow comments from people with opposing views.

Which is exactly how to indoctrinate people. No opposing views.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow! I didn’t realize this thread would blow up so much. I appreciate those who have left comments. I am also sorry to read about the atrocities some of you personally have experienced at the hands of the church. The purpose of my thread was not to bash Catholicism or necessarily defend it, just sharing a specific issue I am encountering.

I have a lot to think over, but on a positive note: I have found that confession was a good starting point to reevaluate some of the other sins in my life. I tend to be selfish and unkind to others (cursing a lot, road rage, judgemental) and I’ve definitely thought twice about those things since going. So that is a positive thing at least. I am still seeking out some other priests to talk to.

Here's a good website with a catholic perspective:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/formationmatters/2025/08/liturgical-combat/#comment-6758311331

They don't allow comments from people with opposing views.

Which is exactly how to indoctrinate people. No opposing views.

They used to allow opposing views, but for a while, that's all they got. So they cut it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow! I didn’t realize this thread would blow up so much. I appreciate those who have left comments. I am also sorry to read about the atrocities some of you personally have experienced at the hands of the church. The purpose of my thread was not to bash Catholicism or necessarily defend it, just sharing a specific issue I am encountering.

I have a lot to think over, but on a positive note: I have found that confession was a good starting point to reevaluate some of the other sins in my life. I tend to be selfish and unkind to others (cursing a lot, road rage, judgemental) and I’ve definitely thought twice about those things since going. So that is a positive thing at least. I am still seeking out some other priests to talk to.

Here's a good website with a catholic perspective:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/formationmatters/2025/08/liturgical-combat/#comment-6758311331

They don't allow comments from people with opposing views.

Which is exactly how to indoctrinate people. No opposing views.

lol…there is literally a pro-choice Catholic magazine that you can subscribe to. https://www.catholicsforchoice.org/conscience-magazine/
There are Catholics questioning Catholic teachings in this very thread. Pope Francis had a very different philosophy on the purpose of the Church than Pope Benedict.
You think you can maintain a church with billions of members over thousands of years without allowing for any flexibility?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow! I didn’t realize this thread would blow up so much. I appreciate those who have left comments. I am also sorry to read about the atrocities some of you personally have experienced at the hands of the church. The purpose of my thread was not to bash Catholicism or necessarily defend it, just sharing a specific issue I am encountering.

I have a lot to think over, but on a positive note: I have found that confession was a good starting point to reevaluate some of the other sins in my life. I tend to be selfish and unkind to others (cursing a lot, road rage, judgemental) and I’ve definitely thought twice about those things since going. So that is a positive thing at least. I am still seeking out some other priests to talk to.

Here's a good website with a catholic perspective:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/formationmatters/2025/08/liturgical-combat/#comment-6758311331

They don't allow comments from people with opposing views.

Which is exactly how to indoctrinate people. No opposing views.

lol…there is literally a pro-choice Catholic magazine that you can subscribe to. https://www.catholicsforchoice.org/conscience-magazine/
There are Catholics questioning Catholic teachings in this very thread. Pope Francis had a very different philosophy on the purpose of the Church than Pope Benedict.
You think you can maintain a church with billions of members over thousands of years without allowing for any flexibility?

I hope you're not trying to make a case for the Catholic Church being wonderful -- it is not. And in the end, rules are rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow! I didn’t realize this thread would blow up so much. I appreciate those who have left comments. I am also sorry to read about the atrocities some of you personally have experienced at the hands of the church. The purpose of my thread was not to bash Catholicism or necessarily defend it, just sharing a specific issue I am encountering.

I have a lot to think over, but on a positive note: I have found that confession was a good starting point to reevaluate some of the other sins in my life. I tend to be selfish and unkind to others (cursing a lot, road rage, judgemental) and I’ve definitely thought twice about those things since going. So that is a positive thing at least. I am still seeking out some other priests to talk to.

Here's a good website with a catholic perspective:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/formationmatters/2025/08/liturgical-combat/#comment-6758311331

They don't allow comments from people with opposing views.

+1
Which is exactly how to indoctrinate people. No opposing views.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow! I didn’t realize this thread would blow up so much. I appreciate those who have left comments. I am also sorry to read about the atrocities some of you personally have experienced at the hands of the church. The purpose of my thread was not to bash Catholicism or necessarily defend it, just sharing a specific issue I am encountering.

I have a lot to think over, but on a positive note: I have found that confession was a good starting point to reevaluate some of the other sins in my life. I tend to be selfish and unkind to others (cursing a lot, road rage, judgemental) and I’ve definitely thought twice about those things since going. So that is a positive thing at least. I am still seeking out some other priests to talk to.

Here's a good website with a catholic perspective:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/formationmatters/2025/08/liturgical-combat/#comment-6758311331

They don't allow comments from people with opposing views.

Which is exactly how to indoctrinate people. No opposing views.

lol…there is literally a pro-choice Catholic magazine that you can subscribe to. https://www.catholicsforchoice.org/conscience-magazine/
There are Catholics questioning Catholic teachings in this very thread. Pope Francis had a very different philosophy on the purpose of the Church than Pope Benedict.
You think you can maintain a church with billions of members over thousands of years without allowing for any flexibility?

What are you talking about?
The Catholic church is an indoctrination center.
They literally pay to support the sexual molesters still. They have billions in cash yet school children still go hungry, women are still less then etc...

It is no different than Joel Osteen's mega church.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Wow! I didn’t realize this thread would blow up so much. I appreciate those who have left comments. I am also sorry to read about the atrocities some of you personally have experienced at the hands of the church. The purpose of my thread was not to bash Catholicism or necessarily defend it, just sharing a specific issue I am encountering.

I have a lot to think over, but on a positive note: I have found that confession was a good starting point to reevaluate some of the other sins in my life. I tend to be selfish and unkind to others (cursing a lot, road rage, judgemental) and I’ve definitely thought twice about those things since going. So that is a positive thing at least. I am still seeking out some other priests to talk to.

Here's a good website with a catholic perspective:

https://www.patheos.com/blogs/formationmatters/2025/08/liturgical-combat/#comment-6758311331

They don't allow comments from people with opposing views.

Which is exactly how to indoctrinate people. No opposing views.

lol…there is literally a pro-choice Catholic magazine that you can subscribe to. https://www.catholicsforchoice.org/conscience-magazine/
There are Catholics questioning Catholic teachings in this very thread. Pope Francis had a very different philosophy on the purpose of the Church than Pope Benedict.
You think you can maintain a church with billions of members over thousands of years without allowing for any flexibility?

I hope you're not trying to make a case for the Catholic Church being wonderful -- it is not. And in the end, rules are rules.

This is so interesting. What about their being vocal pro-choice Catholics makes you think that the Catholic Church is wonderful? I didn’t say that, but I’m interested to know what makes you say that.

And what do you mean “rules are rules?”

I really love hearing your take on this.