Dolling yourself up for husband

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Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.

I do this never. I simply don't care. Happily married over 25 years.

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Anonymous wrote:Husband doesn’t say he likes it. He wouldn’t want to wait for me to get dolled up. I think he likes other women who doll up. For women over 50 it doesn’t matter. You always just look old.

what?! my 56yo girlfriend is sexy AF with and without makeup (and no plastic surgery)

What about your wife? 😉

i'm divorced, so you're actually asking about my exW. she is 51 (as am i). she's still beautiful. in case you're wondering, both my gf and my exW have had 2 kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

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^ *their husbands ignore

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Anonymous wrote:48 and I do it every day. I remember my first full time job out of college 25 years ago, I would duck into the bathroom at the end of the day to brush my hair and teeth and reapply some make up. Another lady who worked there finally asked me why I did that every day and I said, "I want to look nice for my husband!" He picked me up every day, as I worked downtown and parking was so expensive. I remember she laughed and said she can't believe I do that. Why not? It brings me so much happiness that my husband thinks I am beautiful. And I think it makes him happy too to have a pretty lady.

I’m 52 and I do the same too. Brush my hair and add a swipe of lipstick before heading home. Though these days it’s more likely that my 3-year old grandson is the one saying “Mimi pretty”.

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Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

Breaking news! Women hate happy women!

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Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband genuinely does not like a lot of makeup. He can’t be the only one? I do very light makeup most days and style my hair most days and I’ve stayed thin and dress nice enough most days.

My opinion is some women have some kind of dysmorphia where they think they only look normal with a lot of makeup on and with hair done. I generally think women wearing a lot of makeup look like they’re wearing a lot of makeup. If that’s your thing and how you want to spend your time, sincerely seems great. It’s a hobby like anything else is how I look at it.

I'm a poster who said I do try to look nice (for everyone, not just my husband but even if I were only seeing him all day I would try not to look bad) and I don't wear much makeup either. I also wear comfortable clothes because I work from home at a desk job. But I brush my hair/put it up, I will put mascara on because I have blonde eyelashes, and I'll sometimes put some lip color on (if not then just chapstick). I wear well fitting comfortable clothes that show off my figure. But I'm not in a dress with heels and layers of foundation.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

I prefer my husband to get hair plugs in Turkey, grow 4 inches, lose 30lbs and maintain that weight, stop wearing his t shirts from college, and wax his back and shoulders regularly year round. He seems to be ignoring me though. Super rude.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband genuinely does not like a lot of makeup. He can’t be the only one? I do very light makeup most days and style my hair most days and I’ve stayed thin and dress nice enough most days.

My opinion is some women have some kind of dysmorphia where they think they only look normal with a lot of makeup on and with hair done. I generally think women wearing a lot of makeup look like they’re wearing a lot of makeup. If that’s your thing and how you want to spend your time, sincerely seems great. It’s a hobby like anything else is how I look at it.

I'm a poster who said I do try to look nice (for everyone, not just my husband but even if I were only seeing him all day I would try not to look bad) and I don't wear much makeup either. I also wear comfortable clothes because I work from home at a desk job. But I brush my hair/put it up, I will put mascara on because I have blonde eyelashes, and I'll sometimes put some lip color on (if not then just chapstick). I wear well fitting comfortable clothes that show off my figure. But I'm not in a dress with heels and layers of foundation.

This is not “dolled up”. This is basic grooming.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband genuinely does not like a lot of makeup. He can’t be the only one? I do very light makeup most days and style my hair most days and I’ve stayed thin and dress nice enough most days.

My opinion is some women have some kind of dysmorphia where they think they only look normal with a lot of makeup on and with hair done. I generally think women wearing a lot of makeup look like they’re wearing a lot of makeup. If that’s your thing and how you want to spend your time, sincerely seems great. It’s a hobby like anything else is how I look at it.

I'm a poster who said I do try to look nice (for everyone, not just my husband but even if I were only seeing him all day I would try not to look bad) and I don't wear much makeup either. I also wear comfortable clothes because I work from home at a desk job. But I brush my hair/put it up, I will put mascara on because I have blonde eyelashes, and I'll sometimes put some lip color on (if not then just chapstick). I wear well fitting comfortable clothes that show off my figure. But I'm not in a dress with heels and layers of foundation.

Given the fact that you WFH, that would be silly.

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No wonder women are always "under" men.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

I truly appreciate that my husband puts effort into his health and appearance. He's in his early 50s and plays on a community soccer team for guys 40+. The kids and I love to go cheer for his team, and I'm proud of him that he's still so in shape after all these years. He lifts weights in our home gym. He's always clean and well groomed and dresses nicely. That said, you are right: it takes more time to look good as a woman than it does as a man. That part does suck. I once heard a comedian say something like, "Men go to bed and wake up looking pretty much the same. Women somehow deteriorate overnight." And it is true. Hubby gets out of the shower, shaves, dries his hair and is pretty much done. I have a whole lot of creams, face paint, powders, pencils and hair products to apply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

What’s baffling to me is why none of you ask yourselves why women are doing all this while men do next to nothing. Really no reflection on that?

Think how much of your life and your $ you spend on this and then picture what your husband does with all his free time when he’s not doing any of this.

And by the way, I participate. I buy makeup and put it on and buy clothes that aren’t always comfortable and cram myself in uncomfortable shoes and spend time at the hair dresser getting highlights and blow my hair dry a lot of the time with all my hair products. That is the tip of the iceberg of what some women are doing.

But at least have some level of awareness this is kind of all bullshit and conveniently women are the ones doing all this to be “attractive”. It’s not women hating other women to point this out.

Maybe I am an exception but I do care a lot about my appearance. I am 57 years old and regularly into the gym 4 times a week lifting very heavy weight. I wear clothes that fit. I meditate. I don't drink alcohol (I hate it only had 1 glass in my life) and try my best to be kind to everyone

Aren't most husbands like me? What I do is really basic and does not require much effort. Make up takes time. Finding a dress that fit that embraces your figure etc takes time. Most of us men do appreciate the efforts our wives put in. I think where we fail is that we don't compliment them enough and I have been guilty of it, but now I am much better.

Regardless of your age please take care of yourself and your appearance. Yes not much you can do about your receding hairline, thinning/missing hair, but you can shave your heal regularly and have a uniform look. If you have a belly the size of a cantaloupe it's your fault unless you are crippled and can't move. If you have an ass like cardboard which makes your behind less flattering whether you wear jeans or dress pants its your damn fault because you can fix it with diet and spending time in the squat rack.

You have one life to live. Take advantage by taking care of yourself in all aspects. And many of us at this age don't have going kids as an excuse anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Love this thread women attacking women lol

Truly baffling that a woman doing things to please her partner somehow deserves condemnation. Let's ask these critical women how they react when their husband's ignore their desires and preferences.

I prefer my husband to get hair plugs in Turkey, grow 4 inches, lose 30lbs and maintain that weight, stop wearing his t shirts from college, and wax his back and shoulders regularly year round. He seems to be ignoring me though. Super rude.

I have to admit women really compromise a lot for their husbands. No way I'll continue having sex with my wife if she doesn't make basic efforts to look presentable. Yet women will still have sex with these cavemen.