Dolling yourself up for husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL does this. She still looks just as bad, the layer of makeup is thicker. Nobody cares, everyone finds it annoying because it makes her late and she monopolizes bathrooms.

Methinks you just don't like your MIL.

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the definition of dolling up? My mother has always been a SAHM. I remember her always starting to get herself ready around 5 pm everyday. She’d shower again, put on something pretty and some light makeup. My dad always came home at 6, and then they’d giggle like kids in the kitchen while she put the final touches on dinner. We knew to wait elsewhere until we were called to eat. I try to always look presentable.

Being a SAHM used to be so different. 4-7pm is just about my busiest time of day with homework, getting dinner at the exact right time everyone can eat together, and driving kids around to various activities. I can’t imagine taking that time to shower and hang out with my husband.

We didn't chronically overschedule our kids back then. They didn't have "extracurriculars" every night of the week. They'd be out, running around the neighborhood or riding their bikes in packs, and parents were home, cooking, cleaning, and preparing for the evening.

We messed it up, honestly. Not a tradwife, but there are some things about "the way it was" that were better for adults and kids, IMO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Expect? Never. Love it? Yes. And I like it too.

Same. He tells me I'm beautiful all the time (including when I'm dripping with sweat and wearing no makeup) but I generally like looking nice in front of him. I don't do more than I would for a normal work day M-F (we both work from home), and sometimes when I don't have any video calls that day I'll go totally make up free (as I am now), but for the most part I like looking nice for him a lot of the time but I don't mind looking gross in front of him either. I mean, after our kids were born the veil sort of got torn off there, you know? He's seen me at my worst, but that doesn't mean I don't like looking my best for him still.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My MIL does this. She still looks just as bad, the layer of makeup is thicker. Nobody cares, everyone finds it annoying because it makes her late and she monopolizes bathrooms.

Methinks you just don't like your MIL.

This. And also, how do you know she's doing it for your FIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What’s the definition of dolling up? My mother has always been a SAHM. I remember her always starting to get herself ready around 5 pm everyday. She’d shower again, put on something pretty and some light makeup. My dad always came home at 6, and then they’d giggle like kids in the kitchen while she put the final touches on dinner. We knew to wait elsewhere until we were called to eat. I try to always look presentable.

Being a SAHM used to be so different. 4-7pm is just about my busiest time of day with homework, getting dinner at the exact right time everyone can eat together, and driving kids around to various activities. I can’t imagine taking that time to shower and hang out with my husband.

We didn't chronically overschedule our kids back then. They didn't have "extracurriculars" every night of the week. They'd be out, running around the neighborhood or riding their bikes in packs, and parents were home, cooking, cleaning, and preparing for the evening.

We messed it up, honestly. Not a tradwife, but there are some things about "the way it was" that were better for adults and kids, IMO.

That’s true.
I do love the high school musicals now though. When I was a teen they were terrible. Now all of the kids have been in voice lessons and dance lessons since they were 5, and they are amazing

[Anonymous]

Side note but I hate this phrase. A doll is a toy for a child, it sounds so infantilizing to use it as a verb.

[Anonymous]

As long as I don’t let myself go and I’m confident enough, my husband is happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Side note but I hate this phrase. A doll is a toy for a child, it sounds so infantilizing to use it as a verb.

Tarted up, then?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Side note but I hate this phrase. A doll is a toy for a child, it sounds so infantilizing to use it as a verb.

Tarted up, then?

I like that one!
How about "gussied up"?

[Anonymous]

He doesn't. He's an absent-minded research scientist.

I doll myself up for ME

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.

OMG, I hope you don't have kids. That's not the life lesson I want to pass on to my kids. Women's accomplishment should be more than sex.

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Anonymous wrote:I do this every day. I simply expect it of myself; it's how I was raised. Happily married over 20 years.

OMG, I hope you don't have kids. That's not the life lesson I want to pass on to my kids. Women's accomplishment should be more than sex.

DP here. You're being awful. The PP didn't say her only accomplishment was sex. Maybe you should look to her as an example of someone who's been happily married for a while instead of jumping to a rude conclusion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your husband expect this?

Its not a matter of what he expects or she expects. If a man or a woman wants to keep attraction alive and have a forever marriage, this is one of the basics for them to do.

[Anonymous]

Neither of us likes dolling up as we are casual and practical people but we do encourage and appreciate graceful dressing and grooming.

[Anonymous]

Dh here: I don’t care about dolled up, dont even like that phrase. Just be skinny and that’s good enough for me. I like girl next door type look. too much makeup is a turn off.