I thought men didn’t care how much women make..

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Anonymous wrote:Of course they do. Despite dcum delusional view and pretend millionaires, the mode HHI in this area, including nice places like Mclean, is only around 250k. At 250k, it matters. The men who say it doesn't make their wives live in split levels, shop at Macys, go on vacation in North Carolina, and send their kids to va tech.

Last time I checked NC rents were 7k/for a decent house to vacation

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Anonymous wrote:Hon, I was a teacher making under $50, and I got a lovely guy. Your income is high enough that it should not be a barrier to a relationship. You were right to leave. As the pp said, they were looking for an equal partner in earning, but likely not in invisible labor. The second you have kids, one of you will need to step back and that person will start earning fewer promotions. A good guy knows that and isn’t concerned if you make less than him.

You’re young enough that you can keep looking. I went on over thirty first dates before I met my husband. I’m sure it’s even harder now.

Sorry. Typo!

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Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

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Whether or not a guy cares, the distinction is that for a man, it doesn't make a woman more attractive in the way it seems to for many women.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course they do. Despite dcum delusional view and pretend millionaires, the mode HHI in this area, including nice places like Mclean, is only around 250k. At 250k, it matters. The men who say it doesn't make their wives live in split levels, shop at Macys, go on vacation in North Carolina, and send their kids to va tech.

What's wrong with any of this? Many people can't even afford a house. Nothing wrong with Macy's or North Carolina or VA tech.

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Anonymous wrote:A real man wouldn’t care. You were smart to leave.

Why would a "real" man not care? I'm a woman BTW.

Because your job has nothing to do with moving a relationship forward. It’s a job; everyone has one.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? Why shouldn't they care?

Even if you're done raising kids and paid for college and all of that, perhaps he wants to travel and do things that cost money. He doesn't want to foot the entire bill or stay at home because you can't afford it. It makes sense to care.

I’m 27.

Do you care how much your partner makes?

I’ll be real with you OP. I’m a 42 yo female making 300k, DH 200k.

At your age I felt the same. Who cares if we both make 100k if we’re in love and happy. The reality of life is that it’s extraordinarily expensive. 200k and 600k HHI, especially when you have kids, are worlds apart in terms of quality of life.

You’re at the age where you should start focusing really hard on increasing your earnings. I haven’t read the whole thread but I’m assuming you make around $100k. You have time, but this world is a mess and I highly encourage you to get a move on for the sake of your future self and family.

I make 150-180k. That’s the top of my earnings. I can’t go any higher in my after field. I like my job and think I make plenty of money.

Gotcha. So in that case you’ve got a solid salary. Sounds like these guys want a double law partner family. In which case you’re probably getting a blessing in disguise.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

It’s the men you choose to go on dates with.

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I’m assuming since OP is 27, that she’s going on dates with guys around her age, 25-30. The reality is a lot of men in this age range are just as social media obsessed and shallow as women. They want the fancy life of expensive travel, expensive restaurants, expensive gym memberships, expensive rent at the expensive/exclusive apartment complex, the clothes, the shoes, everything. OP you probably just landed on a few shallow and status-obsessed men. I also think this is more common in certain ethnic groups unfortunately. I’d just keep trying. Not all men are like this but some (an increasing number) are.

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Anonymous wrote:I thought men didn’t care about a woman’s income but I ran across a man who does. I went on several dates with a guy. Our last date he asked me how much I made. After telling him, he told me he usually dates women who earn more than I do and needs a partner who can keep up with his lifestyle. Another date simply asked how much I made and said he required a certain level of income. I ended the date and left. I don’t make a huge amount compared to dc standards but I do well. I’m shocked because I was always under the assumption that most men don’t care about income as long as there is attraction and good sex.

It’s the men you choose to go on dates with.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course they do. Despite dcum delusional view and pretend millionaires, the mode HHI in this area, including nice places like Mclean, is only around 250k. At 250k, it matters. The men who say it doesn't make their wives live in split levels, shop at Macys, go on vacation in North Carolina, and send their kids to va tech.

Last time I checked NC rents were 7k/for a decent house to vacation

Yes that's what PP is talking about. Middle class price.

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you OP? Why shouldn't they care?

Even if you're done raising kids and paid for college and all of that, perhaps he wants to travel and do things that cost money. He doesn't want to foot the entire bill or stay at home because you can't afford it. It makes sense to care.

I’m 27.

Do you care how much your partner makes?

I’ll be real with you OP. I’m a 42 yo female making 300k, DH 200k.

At your age I felt the same. Who cares if we both make 100k if we’re in love and happy. The reality of life is that it’s extraordinarily expensive. 200k and 600k HHI, especially when you have kids, are worlds apart in terms of quality of life.

You’re at the age where you should start focusing really hard on increasing your earnings. I haven’t read the whole thread but I’m assuming you make around $100k. You have time, but this world is a mess and I highly encourage you to get a move on for the sake of your future self and family.

I make 150-180k. That’s the top of my earnings. I can’t go any higher in my after field. I like my job and think I make plenty of money.

PP is just a materialist trying to fill an empty heart with a hole in the bottom.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course they do. Despite dcum delusional view and pretend millionaires, the mode HHI in this area, including nice places like Mclean, is only around 250k. At 250k, it matters. The men who say it doesn't make their wives live in split levels, shop at Macys, go on vacation in North Carolina, and send their kids to va tech.

You're too high by at least 100k.

Earning 250k/yr is a millionaire.

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Some guys don’t care, but most do. Low earners don’t care (because they know they can’t be picky on this as high earning women aren’t likely to be interested in them) and high earners don’t care (because they can afford to support a family on their own. It’s the middle earners that care because they need two incomes to afford kids and a decent lifestyle.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course they do. Despite dcum delusional view and pretend millionaires, the mode HHI in this area, including nice places like Mclean, is only around 250k. At 250k, it matters. The men who say it doesn't make their wives live in split levels, shop at Macys, go on vacation in North Carolina, and send their kids to va tech.

Last time I checked NC rents were 7k/for a decent house to vacation

7k/week is middle class rate now ?

Yes that's what PP is talking about. Middle class price.