Husband not “into” pregnancy
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Anonymous
| My husband wasn’t into pregnancy at all. To be honest, neither was I. I love my kids and am lucky they’re here, but I did not enjoy being pregnant and my husband didn’t love the impact it had on me or our intimacy. He came to a couple of doctor appointments - the big anatomy ultrasounds - but that’s it and I didn’t see the point of him coming to others. It’s wonderful if your spouse is very excited about it, but the reality is that a lot of men and women are blase about pregnancy itself. |
Anonymous
| Pregnant women are sexy. Had a lady friend get pregnant via ONS and I eventually slept with her while she was pregnant. Huge turn on and would love another chance to sleep with another pregnant woman. |
Anonymous
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Some men aren’t into the ritual of pregnancy. I think movies TV and social media have a lot to do with women’s expectations of what their husbands need to do while they’re pregnant. Foot rubbing and back rubbing is one of those things that might not come naturally, if they’ve never done it before.
I may have missed it, but have you asked him to go to the doctor appointments with you? |
Anonymous
Press send it too soon. Aside from my ultrasound my husband didn’t go to any of my doctor appointments because there was simply no need. Maybe he feels the way I do. |
Anonymous
Why?? |
Anonymous
I can’t speak for the other poster, but their curves. Hips get wider, brea$t$ usually get bigger, some let their bu$h grow because it’s difficult to maintain with a belly. |
Anonymous
| For people saying the DH owes OP pregnancy sex, that’s…rapey. |
Anonymous
| Two kids, DH went to one appointment for 1st child (to find out gender) no clear memory of any foot rubbing or other midnight run for ice cream and pickles. Married 21 years. It’s all ok. |
Anonymous
| My husband always enjoyed it because early on my boobs got big as I went from a B to a D. At a certain point intercourse became a challenge so we just did other fun things that were pretty rare before. When i hit my third trimester he really made my life easy taking on many more chores so I could rest. |
Anonymous
Doesn’t sound like it |
Anonymous
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Early in pregnancy when he could feel some fluttering on my stomach, it made him balk.
When my OB said she could feel the baby's head, DH really backed off. I think for him he was trying to respect the baby's space. |
Anonymous
I think the PP was me, and what you wrote sums it up pretty well for me. |
Anonymous
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So, my husband didn’t come to any doctors visits besides the first one and then the anatomy scan. I didn’t even consider asking him to. Why would he take time off work for that? He doesn’t come to my other doctors appointments either.
Some men get very- overly- involved in their wife’s pregnancies and say things like “we’re pregnant!” and seem to enjoy doing things like going to the store at midnight to buy ice cream and other cliche things because they really get a kick out of the whole thing. That’s fine, but I’d have been annoyed if my husband did that sort of thing. I’m pregnant, not him. His role as “husband to the pregnant woman” is not more important than my role of “pregnant person” and some husbands really seem to try to make it all about them. If your back hurts and you want a back rub, ask for one! If he says no then he’s a jerk. In terms of sex, maybe he thinks you’re uncomfortable with it. I didn’t like having sex once I got really big. It was uncomfortable for me and I was tired. But again- communicate! If you want your husband to dote on you and bring you flowers and rub your feet for 9 months then tell him that. But honestly- you’re pregnant, not dying of cancer. |
Anonymous
…..so, impregnate someone. Don’t sleep with women who have been impregnated by other men, that’s just pathetic |
Anonymous
X2 |