Husband not “into” pregnancy

[Anonymous]

He’s not interested in hearing about it and he’s not very supportive. He’s not the type to off to rub my feet or my back. I go to all of my dr appointments alone.

It’s also obvious that he doesn’t find the bump attractive. I’ve heard on poignancy boards that of men find it sexy when their wives are pregnant and feel possessive. They’re turned on by knowing they’ve knocked up their wives. They’re can’t help their hands off their wives

I think we’ve had sex like a handful of times since I got pregnant. He’s clearly uncomfortable with it the bigger i get.

Should I tell him that all this is hurting my feelings or just keep quiet and hope things go back to normal once the baby is born and I get my body back?

[Anonymous]

Tell him all of this, hope he changes and don't have any more babies with him.

[Anonymous]

I'm on Team Husband.

[Anonymous]

Not every man is going to have a preggers kink

[Anonymous]

A few issues. You need to communicate with him. If you weren't the type before pregnancy to want foot and back rubs, he likely has no clue you want them now. I certainly never wanted them when pregnant.

Sure, some men find pregnancy sexy. Some don't. And some are indifferent. You're getting caught up in the "fantasy " stories. Guarantee half of the posts you read aren't real. Again, talk to him.

The not going to appts is a jerk move and you need to again, talk to him to find out what's going on.

Keeping quiet and not communicating how you feel is going to lead to resentment. And it will keep happening once the kid is born. And then you'll be one of those angry women on here posting about all her resentment for her husband.

Communicate communicate communicate

[Anonymous]

Some men cheat when their wife is pregnant. If he seems to be pulling back, could be a reason.

Sorry, OP. He sucks.

[Anonymous]

I never had sex while pregnant. I don’t see the big deal.

[Anonymous]

You’re never going to get your body back.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, you sound like you have unrealistically high expectations and both of you are bad at communicating, which does not bode well for your relationship once the baby comes unless you both get it together.

Ask him about the concerns you have posted here and listen to his responses with an open mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A few issues. You need to communicate with him. If you weren't the type before pregnancy to want foot and back rubs, he likely has no clue you want them now. I certainly never wanted them when pregnant.

Sure, some men find pregnancy sexy. Some don't. And some are indifferent. You're getting caught up in the "fantasy " stories. Guarantee half of the posts you read aren't real. Again, talk to him.

The not going to appts is a jerk move and you need to again, talk to him to find out what's going on.

Keeping quiet and not communicating how you feel is going to lead to resentment. And it will keep happening once the kid is born. And then you'll be one of those angry women on here posting about all her resentment for her husband.

Communicate communicate communicate

That is not going to change his feelings, the true issue.

[Anonymous]

Mine didn’t have a pregnancy kink, he did like that I couldn’t get more pregnant though lol. Sadly about halfway through his desire faded and never returned. Talk to him.

Also if you want other types of affection too like a foot rub ask him. Tell him it feels super nice when he touches you that way.

Not going to doc appointments together isn’t a big thing. Mind only came to the big scans. They’re so routine otherwise.

Did you plan for this baby together.

[Anonymous]

Argh .
He’s probably gonna’ be a hands off father.

Counseling and if not I def wouldn’t have more kids with him.

[Anonymous]

Is this your first child? How old are you guys?

[Anonymous]

As long as he is “into” the baby you’re fine.

[Anonymous]

I have a 10 year old. Only. My DH hated pregnancy even though he never said it out loud and he never got over it.