Husband not “into” pregnancy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A few issues. You need to communicate with him. If you weren't the type before pregnancy to want foot and back rubs, he likely has no clue you want them now. I certainly never wanted them when pregnant.

Sure, some men find pregnancy sexy. Some don't. And some are indifferent. You're getting caught up in the "fantasy " stories. Guarantee half of the posts you read aren't real. Again, talk to him.

The not going to appts is a jerk move and you need to again, talk to him to find out what's going on.

Keeping quiet and not communicating how you feel is going to lead to resentment. And it will keep happening once the kid is born. And then you'll be one of those angry women on here posting about all her resentment for her husband.

Communicate communicate communicate

That is not going to change his feelings, the true issue.

NP. In my experience talking will not make him not like pregnancy. If anything DH acted worse when I brought it up because he was ashamed but then lashed out at me to make it my fault instead of his

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never had sex while pregnant. I don’t see the big deal.

That is depressing.

[Anonymous]

It makes me so sad to hear “get my body back”. He should love you and your body no matter what. He should revere it for what you are doing.
Just keep on going and know you will probably have to do more than you thought.

[Anonymous]

My husband was like this pregnancy #1, pregnancy #2 we had zero sex the entire pregnancy and I found out after 2 was born he was deep in a porn habit for my last trimester and early postpartum period. I don’t think I can forgive him. Also I never got my body back, which I don’t think he will ever forgive me for.

But I have my two beautiful children, so there’s that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s not interested in hearing about it and he’s not very supportive. He’s not the type to off to rub my feet or my back. I go to all of my dr appointments alone.

It’s also obvious that he doesn’t find the bump attractive. I’ve heard on poignancy boards that of men find it sexy when their wives are pregnant and feel possessive. They’re turned on by knowing they’ve knocked up their wives. They’re can’t help their hands off their wives

I think we’ve had sex like a handful of times since I got pregnant. He’s clearly uncomfortable with it the bigger i get.

Should I tell him that all this is hurting my feelings or just keep quiet and hope things go back to normal once the baby is born and I get my body back?

OK, but then what about his feelings? What is he says he feelings are valid? Why are you feelings an emergency? You can feel what yo want but you are not going to succeed in guilt tripping him.

You all on this board need to know that men do not see pregnant woman as princesses. Actually, pregnancy can be a potentially dangerous time for a woman if the guy really doesn't want the baby and/or doesn't want to commit for the long term.

[Anonymous]

OP, had he seemed interested in fatherhood? How was your relationship before? What is his family like? Parents divorced?

[Anonymous]

The best orgasms of my entire life were when I was in my 3rd trimester of pregnancy. Like I’ve never felt anything like them before or since and it’s been 10 years.

Is doggie style an option?

I feel like sex is actually pretty important during pregnancy to help feel connected to each other amidst all the changes and stress.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Argh .
He’s probably gonna’ be a hands off father.

Counseling and if not I def wouldn’t have more kids with him.

What?!?!? Ridiculous.
My DH was like this… with each of my 6 pregnancies. 🤣 definitely turned off by my pregnant belly (always happy to resume normal frequency after delivery), and NOT into the pregnancy stuff. Never went to an ultrasound, made fun of me for being huge, etc. had to have several talks with him about being doing more around the house when I was subsequently pregnant.

But, he did when I asked. And he is an AMAZING father!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never had sex while pregnant. I don’t see the big deal.

It is absolutely a big deal

He put his sperm in you
You think he will be a good husband no

[Anonymous]

^oh, but I never told him it hurt my feelings that I turned him off in pregnancy (in truth, it annoyed me/angered me more than hurt). But I think it’s, in general, prudent not to communicate too many feelings during pregnancy. Hormones and exhaustion cloud reason and perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Argh .
He’s probably gonna’ be a hands off father.

Counseling and if not I def wouldn’t have more kids with him.

What?!?!? Ridiculous.
My DH was like this… with each of my 6 pregnancies. 🤣 definitely turned off by my pregnant belly (always happy to resume normal frequency after delivery), and NOT into the pregnancy stuff. Never went to an ultrasound, made fun of me for being huge, etc. had to have several talks with him about being doing more around the house when I was subsequently pregnant.

But, he did when I asked. And he is an AMAZING father!

No he is not your children watching your husband treat you like shit while you are preggers is not a good father

[Anonymous]

He could be having an affair, lots of men cheat during pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^oh, but I never told him it hurt my feelings that I turned him off in pregnancy (in truth, it annoyed me/angered me more than hurt). But I think it’s, in general, prudent not to communicate too many feelings during pregnancy. Hormones and exhaustion cloud reason and perspective.

Omg you are sickening

Unintelligent drivel

Ladies if your DH treats you badly during pregnancy he is not a good husband


If he thinks you are gross looking by carrying his fetus he is not a good husband

If he thinks you are fat he is not a good husband

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Argh .
He’s probably gonna’ be a hands off father.

Counseling and if not I def wouldn’t have more kids with him.

What?!?!? Ridiculous.
My DH was like this… with each of my 6 pregnancies. 🤣 definitely turned off by my pregnant belly (always happy to resume normal frequency after delivery), and NOT into the pregnancy stuff. Never went to an ultrasound, made fun of me for being huge, etc. had to have several talks with him about being doing more around the house when I was subsequently pregnant.

But, he did when I asked. And he is an AMAZING father!

I’m trying to imagine why I’d have 5 additional children with someone like this.

[Anonymous]

We went at it not stop when I was pregnant. Amazing sex. DH jokes about getting me pregnant again just for the pregnancy sex.