Husband not “into” pregnancy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Argh .
He’s probably gonna’ be a hands off father.

Counseling and if not I def wouldn’t have more kids with him.

What?!?!? Ridiculous.
My DH was like this… with each of my 6 pregnancies. 🤣 definitely turned off by my pregnant belly (always happy to resume normal frequency after delivery), and NOT into the pregnancy stuff. Never went to an ultrasound, made fun of me for being huge, etc. had to have several talks with him about being doing more around the house when I was subsequently pregnant.

But, he did when I asked. And he is an AMAZING father!

No he is not your children watching your husband treat you like shit while you are preggers is not a good father

He didn’t treat me like “shit” simply because he wasn’t into the pregnancy. Frankly, I’m not sure why husbands always go to the prenatal appointments. What does it accomplish?

He made jokes about me being huge… because I WAS. And I thought it was funny. I was huge and uncomfortable. My confidence is not in the toilet, I just don’t take myself too seriously.

I had to explicitly tell him to do more around the house. Sure. But that is also not treating me like “shit.” That’s just obliviousness. I’d communicate and he’d respond. And he supported the family financially!

No wonder you all are miserable. You want all the sympathy and understanding in the world, but don’t want to give any to your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a 10 year old. Only. My DH hated pregnancy even though he never said it out loud and he never got over it.

What do you mean by “never got over it”- he didn’t want another child? Did he talk about it being traumatizing in some way? And how do you know he never got over it if he never spoke about it?

[Anonymous]

OP, if he’s not attracted, you can’t force that. If you need more help, ask for more help. Give him the chance to step up. He can’t read your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He could be having an affair, lots of men cheat during pregnancy.

Yep.. Especially when they’re turned off by the entire pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

I was the pregnant one and hated being pregnant. I felt like a whale.

[Anonymous]

DH was exactly like yours. He's been the best father I know of and ADORED our babies. He did not find pregnancy attractive. I wouldn't say it grossed him out, but he wasn't into it.

Some guys really do have a pregnancy fetish.

[Anonymous]

Divorce

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Argh .
He’s probably gonna’ be a hands off father.

Counseling and if not I def wouldn’t have more kids with him.

What?!?!? Ridiculous.
My DH was like this… with each of my 6 pregnancies. 🤣 definitely turned off by my pregnant belly (always happy to resume normal frequency after delivery), and NOT into the pregnancy stuff. Never went to an ultrasound, made fun of me for being huge, etc. had to have several talks with him about being doing more around the house when I was subsequently pregnant.

But, he did when I asked. And he is an AMAZING father!

No he is not your children watching your husband treat you like shit while you are preggers is not a good father

He didn’t treat me like “shit” simply because he wasn’t into the pregnancy. Frankly, I’m not sure why husbands always go to the prenatal appointments. What does it accomplish?

He made jokes about me being huge… because I WAS. And I thought it was funny. I was huge and uncomfortable. My confidence is not in the toilet, I just don’t take myself too seriously.

I had to explicitly tell him to do more around the house. Sure. But that is also not treating me like “shit.” That’s just obliviousness. I’d communicate and he’d respond. And he supported the family financially!

No wonder you all are miserable. You want all the sympathy and understanding in the world, but don’t want to give any to your spouse.

Nope. Still not a flex
But he’s your husband. Depend that behavior like it’s the norm.

[Anonymous]

Defend^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We went at it not stop when I was pregnant. Amazing sex. DH jokes about getting me pregnant again just for the pregnancy sex.

I have always found pregnant women incredibly sexy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never had sex while pregnant. I don’t see the big deal.

It is absolutely a big deal

He put his sperm in you
You think he will be a good husband no

Medical issues aside +1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We went at it not stop when I was pregnant. Amazing sex. DH jokes about getting me pregnant again just for the pregnancy sex.

I have always found pregnant women incredibly sexy.

DH here: hormones have a lot to do with it. I fully expected to be totally into it, but during my DW’s pregnancies my libido was much lower than usual, and not because I don’t like that look. It was strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We went at it not stop when I was pregnant. Amazing sex. DH jokes about getting me pregnant again just for the pregnancy sex.

I have always found pregnant women incredibly sexy.

DH here: hormones have a lot to do with it. I fully expected to be totally into it, but during my DW’s pregnancies my libido was much lower than usual, and not because I don’t like that look. It was strange.

My dh was the same. And it wasn't because of how I looked or getting fat. DH was not into me the SECOND I told him I was pregnant, even before I showed. Happened with all my pregnancies sadly. I was actually a cute pregnant woman and didn't gain too much.

He wasn't repulsed by me. It was more like I got friend-zoned. He still cuddled and hung out with me, but wasn't interested in doing more. After I gave birth he was instantly into me and it was hard to wait 6 weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not every man is going to have a preggers kink

+1

[Anonymous]

Wait.. women can be turned off by the myriad things that are brought up on this board (facial hair, working too much, working too little, not cooking, knowing how to cook, not cleaning the house, cleaning the house, being afraid of lawn mowers, etc) and men can’t be turned off by their wives temporarily looking like the stay puff marshmallow man?