Disappointed that it’s a boy

Anonymous
OP I was sad too when I found out I was having my second boy. And while I am sorry some people are being rude to you about those feelings, I will admit I sort of wanted people to tell me (anonymous internet people) that I was being ridiculous. It helped me to put in perspective that I was being a bit silly, because in the end it all was going to work out.
I adore having two boys. And when I look at my sweet little second boy I sometimes think back to how disappointed I was that he was not a girl, and can't believe I ever felt that way. He brings so much joy to our family and I cannot imagine life without him. I promise you will be okay!! It will be a fun ride hang in there!
Anonymous
OP, do you think you're a good mother to son #1?
Anonymous
Just echoing a few PPs — gender disappointment is natural and human. The feeling will pass. I was in your shoes and it turned around for me in later pregnancy, after we settled on a name. All the best to you, OP!
Anonymous
I won't read the comments hating on you. I was you. I get it. I didn't realize I actually wanted a girl until I heard "boy" for the second time. Now, several years later, and they're so much fun. I love that they are each other's best friend. My younger son is more stereotypically "boy" than my first, but also much more a mama's boy. Love them both to pieces. It'll be ok.

Try to remind yourself that some disappointment was going to happen with any combination. If you'd had two girls, you would've mourned not having a boy. If you had one of each, you'd mourn the girl not having a sister/boy not having a brother. It's just part of the deal. Before you start having kids, any combination is possible. With each kid, up to the last, there is still a possibility. It's weird when the door is slammed shut and all of a sudden you realize X will never happen. It all seems so... final... all of a sudden. It's ok to have feelings about that. Just don't let it interfere with your relationship with your kids.

I try to use my girl energy to buy my nieces gifts and do their hair when I see them. Do I wish I had a daughter? Sure. But also no, because that would mean never having had one of my sons. I'll take the beautiful reality over the abstract idea any day of the week.
Anonymous
This thread is gross. Why do people feel the need to crap on the experience of having a daughter to lift up having a son?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This thread is gross. Why do people feel the need to crap on the experience of having a daughter to lift up having a son?


I don’t really see anyone on here talking about downsides of daughters. I think the consensus is actually that most of us with boys would have preferred girls, but we got over it. We’re trying to reassure OP she’ll get over it too in time. And she will.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is gross. Why do people feel the need to crap on the experience of having a daughter to lift up having a son?


I don’t really see anyone on here talking about downsides of daughters. I think the consensus is actually that most of us with boys would have preferred girls, but we got over it. We’re trying to reassure OP she’ll get over it too in time. And she will.

You can reassure and talk about the great of having boys without in the same breath talking down daughters and how they get harder at 10+. Way to perpetuate stereotypes.
Anonymous
You could always raise it gender neutral and maybe it will choose to be a girl.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This thread is gross. Why do people feel the need to crap on the experience of having a daughter to lift up having a son?


I don’t really see anyone on here talking about downsides of daughters. I think the consensus is actually that most of us with boys would have preferred girls, but we got over it. We’re trying to reassure OP she’ll get over it too in time. And she will.

You can reassure and talk about the great of having boys without in the same breath talking down daughters and how they get harder at 10+. Way to perpetuate stereotypes.

Go away PP every thread is not about you or your offspring. Maybe PP was a cause of the stereotype growing up
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:You could always raise it gender neutral and maybe it will choose to be a girl.


That won’t turn a male into a female. Biological sex is immutable. This tiny period in history when humans deny this is so absurd and tiresome.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is my second and last due to age. It’s another boy and I am disappointed. In my parenting experience, most of the cliches about boys are true: into gross motor, very physical, really exhausting. Most boys communication, social awareness, and sensitivity are different from the majority of girls. It’s not just parenting experience that I am drawing from, I also have spent a few years with young children in a Montessori preschool setting. (There are outliers, yes, but the vast majority of children have gender specific characteristics. I prefer female traits.)
I’m sure people will be brutal, but I needed to vent. 70% of white women doing IVF, when sex selection is available, choose girls. I am not alone in my preference. Oh well



Why not have an abortion.
Anonymous
I hear you, OP. I would not want a boy either. I have no interest in that type of stuff.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is my second and last due to age. It’s another boy and I am disappointed. In my parenting experience, most of the cliches about boys are true: into gross motor, very physical, really exhausting. Most boys communication, social awareness, and sensitivity are different from the majority of girls. It’s not just parenting experience that I am drawing from, I also have spent a few years with young children in a Montessori preschool setting. (There are outliers, yes, but the vast majority of children have gender specific characteristics. I prefer female traits.)
I’m sure people will be brutal, but I needed to vent. 70% of white women doing IVF, when sex selection is available, choose girls. I am not alone in my preference. Oh well


Omg be happy having a girl with republicans party in power not a good idea
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is my second and last due to age. It’s another boy and I am disappointed. In my parenting experience, most of the cliches about boys are true: into gross motor, very physical, really exhausting. Most boys communication, social awareness, and sensitivity are different from the majority of girls. It’s not just parenting experience that I am drawing from, I also have spent a few years with young children in a Montessori preschool setting. (There are outliers, yes, but the vast majority of children have gender specific characteristics. I prefer female traits.)
I’m sure people will be brutal, but I needed to vent. 70% of white women doing IVF, when sex selection is available, choose girls. I am not alone in my preference. Oh well


Omg be happy having a girl with republicans party in power not a good idea


Huh. I could have sworn a term was only 4 years.
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