Disappointed that it’s a boy

[Anonymous]

This is my second and last due to age. It’s another boy and I am disappointed. In my parenting experience, most of the cliches about boys are true: into gross motor, very physical, really exhausting. Most boys communication, social awareness, and sensitivity are different from the majority of girls. It’s not just parenting experience that I am drawing from, I also have spent a few years with young children in a Montessori preschool setting. (There are outliers, yes, but the vast majority of children have gender specific characteristics. I prefer female traits.)
I’m sure people will be brutal, but I needed to vent. 70% of white women doing IVF, when sex selection is available, choose girls. I am not alone in my preference. Oh well

[Anonymous]

Disgusting.

Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

Not uncommon. Around the world, some people don’t want boys, some don’t want girls.

I hope your son doesn’t know you don’t like or want boys. Often having a bias against a sex can lead to poor attachment and poor treatment of the child.

[Anonymous]

Stop.

I have one of each, and my DS has been an absolute delight. He's 17 and has never given me a moment's grief, which I cannot say about my 21 y/o DD.

[Anonymous]

It's okay to feel things, but just make sure to express them in a place where neither kid will ever know about it.

[Anonymous]

very sad.

[Anonymous]

I get it. Mom of boys. All the moms of multiple boys in my baby playgroup felt the same when pregnant with a second boy. But as I’m sure you realize, and will realize more once you actually have your child, all boys are not alike. My first boy has a lot of typically boyish traits that can be hard to live with. My second boy is completely different. He is a total joy.( My first is s joy too but a more challenging kind of joy).

Also, I’ll just repeat something my OB told me, which didn’t console me at the time but which now seems true: that little boys are often harder to handle than little girls, but teen boys tend to be a lot easier. No guarantees of course but I do feel having teens now that our life is easier in certain ways than that if some families with girls. Probably doesn’t help you but I do get it now.

You’re going to be fine!

[Anonymous]

How old is DS? My guess is you haven’t hit puberty stages yet. 😁

I have both- it is all fine.

[Anonymous]

Maybe this is the journey you need to grow?

[Anonymous]

It’ll be fine once you meet him.
Here’s hoping your baby is actually healthy.

[Anonymous]

Preschool girls are delightful, true, but there is a whole lot of livin’ that comes after preschool.

[Anonymous]

I have two boys and they are definitly not wild and rowdy. And they are best buddies. I'm close with my brother but there is a big difference in the bond between same-sex siblings.

[Anonymous]

It’s ok to be disappointed OP. You can want a girl, be disappointed you had no girl / ended up with two boys, and still love these two boys.

I’m on the other side (only one due to age, and she’s a girl). The reality is that mother-daughter relationships can be much tougher, especially during the teenage years. Not sure that will comfort your sense of loss.

[Anonymous]

This makes me sad.

I have a sweet and sensitive boy who is now a teen. He is a true empath and a great communicator. Like his dad. In my experience, who a boy's father is really impacts what kind of boy/man they become. What's your kids' father like? There a lot of bro-y, dumpster fire guys out there. If your kids' father isn't one of them, you should really get out of your own head and realize there is more to life than preschool.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to be very honest. My DS (17) is delightful in every way. He's pretty much my favorite human. My DD has been challenging since birth, and DH and I feel like we have to walk on eggshells around her constantly (age 13). All the mother-daughter fantasies I had did not remotely come true. If I could clone my DS, I'd be thrilled to have two of him. Or even just two boys who were not so hard to be around.