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[quote=Anonymous]I won't read the comments hating on you. I was you. I get it. I didn't realize I actually wanted a girl until I heard "boy" for the second time. Now, several years later, and they're so much fun. I love that they are each other's best friend. My younger son is more stereotypically "boy" than my first, but also much more a mama's boy. Love them both to pieces. It'll be ok.

Try to remind yourself that some disappointment was going to happen with any combination. If you'd had two girls, you would've mourned not having a boy. If you had one of each, you'd mourn the girl not having a sister/boy not having a brother. It's just part of the deal. Before you start having kids, any combination is possible. With each kid, up to the last, there is still a possibility. It's weird when the door is slammed shut and all of a sudden you realize X will never happen. It all seems so... final... all of a sudden. It's ok to have feelings about that. Just don't let it interfere with your relationship with your kids.

I try to use my girl energy to buy my nieces gifts and do their hair when I see them. Do I wish I had a daughter? Sure. But also no, because that would mean never having had one of my sons. I'll take the beautiful reality over the abstract idea any day of the week.[/quote]

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