At what age does a girl decide she wants to grow up to be a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:My kindergartener told me he wanted to be a cat when he grew up. Now he was definitely trolling me, but it was funny. He then pretended to be a cat for a solid ten minutes (which is actually a pretty long time to be crawling around meowing).

He's a fun kid.

That’s pretty cute

[Anonymous]

She’s 5. She will likely wish to be a cat when she grows up next.

[Anonymous]

30---after I had my first child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious because DD is 5 and has been saying her dream job is to be a SAHM. We're pleased with this but don't know where she got the idea from. I did not stay home, both of her grandmothers still work full-time (though they stayed home for years when their kids were young), and all of our family friends and neighbors are 2 income households. She's had a nanny since birth who she loves, and DH and I have worked from home since she was several months old. Our conclusion is that she must have many friends at school with SAHMs.

Those of you who are SAHMs, at what age did you know you wanted to be one? Those who dreamed of being a SAHM when you were young, did you end up as one? As a child, I didn't dream of being a SAHM, though I wouldn't mind it now.

That's all we need to read. Kids at that age are just trying to please their parents. Obviously you've made comments that demonstrate you would be pleased. Other parents make comments they would be pleased if their child were a doctor or lawyer and then are "surprised" their child wants to do this because [insert reason/justification here].

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Why?

OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses.

Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life.

It’s really not that tough. Working your ass off at a job you hate (or merely tolerate) for a boss and coworkers who don’t appreciate you, commuting through traffic for a couple hours every day, barely seeing your spouse, barely seeing your kids… now THAT’S a tough life.

Putting up with demanding kids who learn from their father that you are a servant, while your husband bangs the new 20 something at the office can really take a toll. Especially when there is no path to retirement except death. You will always be expected to host, cook, clean, serve, and care for everyone else forever and ever and ever. When your husband retires you job gets harder.

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Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Why?

OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses.

Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life.

Lol no. Preface that I’m a working mom but staying at home is the path that nearly every woman a couple of generations ago chose and there’s never been an unhappier generation than ours. Working is not the key to happiness.

Chose?!

Nah, was expected/forced into.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Why?

OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses.

Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life.

It’s really not that tough. Working your ass off at a job you hate (or merely tolerate) for a boss and coworkers who don’t appreciate you, commuting through traffic for a couple hours every day, barely seeing your spouse, barely seeing your kids… now THAT’S a tough life.

Putting up with demanding kids who learn from their father that you are a servant, while your husband bangs the new 20 something at the office can really take a toll. Especially when there is no path to retirement except death. You will always be expected to host, cook, clean, serve, and care for everyone else forever and ever and ever. When your husband retires you job gets harder.

You are choosing to stay in this life every day. Leave. Pull a “She-Devil” and give your husband and the 20-something full custody of the kids. Get a hobby job and a studio apartment and half the retirement. A good friend of mine became a rowing coach at a D3 school and a yoga instructor. Her pay sucks and her apartment sucks, but she’s got a dock out back, and she can row or kayak every day. She doesn’t have to host, cook, or clean up after anyone but herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think OP could have put that her daughter wanted to be almost anything (a vet, a lawyer, an ice cream shop owner), and people would have posted about how stupid and wrong she is.

My 5 year old daughter wanted to be a construction worker, so I bought her some Lego. I got so many side eyes at her Big 3 school from other parents where the kids are basically trained to say they want to solve world hunger, bring world peace, cure all diseases etc. Yeah, kids just say stuff to please adults. If you don't fill their heads they want to be construction workers, waitresses, teachers, police, and stuff they see.

My older one wanted to be a fish when she was 4 when I told her she couldn't be a princess.

[Anonymous]

I’ve known since I was probably 13. My mom always worked and was always stressed. I babysat for several families with a SAHM (that’s how I even knew it was a thing) and immediately realized that was a much better deal than what my mom had. I also never had strong career aspirations, despite being a top student and standardized test taker. It’s hard, because once you reach a certain age you can’t admit you want to SAH, so you have to make something up. I did tell DH, long before we married though.

[Anonymous]

Keep the stories coming re: your 5 year olds' career aspirations! So cute! My current kindergartner wants to be a unicorn rider (like on the Netflix show Unicorn Academy).

[Anonymous]

Why would you be happy? At 5 she already has no ambition or drive? Is she not going to bother in school or go to college because she just wants to start popping out kids? Yikes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Why?

OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses.

Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life.

It’s really not that tough. Working your ass off at a job you hate (or merely tolerate) for a boss and coworkers who don’t appreciate you, commuting through traffic for a couple hours every day, barely seeing your spouse, barely seeing your kids… now THAT’S a tough life.

Putting up with demanding kids who learn from their father that you are a servant, while your husband bangs the new 20 something at the office can really take a toll. Especially when there is no path to retirement except death. You will always be expected to host, cook, clean, serve, and care for everyone else forever and ever and ever. When your husband retires you job gets harder.

Np. We have a warm home. My kids do chores. DH is a partner. I’m not anyone’s servant.

[Anonymous]

I never wanted to be a SAHM because I saw what happened when my uncle was killed by a drunk driver. The life insurance money wasn't enough and they had to move, my aunt had to get back to work as a nurse.

[Anonymous]

OP is definitely a troll, but I'll bite...

Usually you decide to stay home shortly before you have kids or after.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Why?

OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses.

Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life.

It’s really not that tough. Working your ass off at a job you hate (or merely tolerate) for a boss and coworkers who don’t appreciate you, commuting through traffic for a couple hours every day, barely seeing your spouse, barely seeing your kids… now THAT’S a tough life.

Putting up with demanding kids who learn from their father that you are a servant, while your husband bangs the new 20 something at the office can really take a toll. Especially when there is no path to retirement except death. You will always be expected to host, cook, clean, serve, and care for everyone else forever and ever and ever. When your husband retires you job gets harder.

Wow, sorry your husband sucks!