At what age does a girl decide she wants to grow up to be a SAHM?

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Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Why?

OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses.

Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life.

Not if she’s religious and finds a man who is too. It’s been a non issue for me.. pretty sinking in religious families to have a SAHM.

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I'm not believing this post

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When I was 5 I wanted to be an airplane. People kept telling me I could be a pilot, but that I could not become an airplane.
Alas, my dream was shattered by age 6. I grew up to be a real estate lawyer.

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Most every 5 year old girl says she wants to be a mom. And they play with dolls and play house. I don’t know where she got the “stay at home” part but I think her sentiment is just a developmentally normal thing to say, regardless of the girl’s mom’s work status

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Stop!

I wanted to be a kangaroo at 5.

KGers say stuff. She'll need a good education regardless. DHs die or divorce all the time. She needs to be able to stand on her own 2 feet.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not believing this post

+1

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You completely missed the point of feminism, OP. This ain’t it. Back way off. Your daughter is 5, and even if she were 25 your attitude would not be good for your relationship.

I never wanted to be a SAHM. I became one after my first had a severe sleep disorder and other issues so we couldn’t get care. I have no idea what I wanted to be when I was 5. Probably a ballerina? Would that make you happier, OP?

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Anonymous wrote:Stop!

I wanted to be a kangaroo at 5.

KGers say stuff. She'll need a good education regardless. DHs die or divorce all the time. She needs to be able to stand on her own 2 feet.

No way! I wanted to be a polar bear! After that I settled on pig barber (“barber barber shave a pig, how many hairs to make a wig, four and twenty that’s enough, now give the barber a pinch of snuff”)

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Anonymous wrote:lol. My 12 year old says she just wants to marry a rich guy and take care of the kids and house.

Found the future TikTok/Instagram ho

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Why?

OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses.

Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life.

Not if she’s religious and finds a man who is too. It’s been a non issue for me.. pretty sinking in religious families to have a SAHM.

Even religious people divorce.

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Did she actually say the words "stay at home mom"?

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A 5 yo’s comment is pretty meaningless. I wanted to clean houses at 5. I was a SAHM but I did also have career aspirations. When I was young, after my cleaner phase, I wanted to be an astronaut, a writer and a psychologist.

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My five year old today told me he wants to be an astronaut who designs board games. Last week he wanted to be a weatherman. Five year olds say stuff.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm curious because DD is 5 and has been saying her dream job is to be a SAHM. We're pleased with this but don't know where she got the idea from. I did not stay home, both of her grandmothers still work full-time (though they stayed home for years when their kids were young), and all of our family friends and neighbors are 2 income households. She's had a nanny since birth who she loves, and DH and I have worked from home since she was several months old. Our conclusion is that she must have many friends at school with SAHMs.

Those of you who are SAHMs, at what age did you know you wanted to be one? Those who dreamed of being a SAHM when you were young, did you end up as one? As a child, I didn't dream of being a SAHM, though I wouldn't mind it now.

I never "dreamed of being a SAHM". I grew up poor/LMC. I went to a T10 university, Double majored, got a job and went to get my masters at a T20 school (fully paid for by the company). Got married, worked another 7 years, decided to start having kids. Had daycare set up in the building I worked (so onsite, easy access). Then I had my first kid. Once the baby arrived, I went into mom mode. When the time came to return to work after 13 weeks, I knew I needed more time off. So petitioned to have a full year (without pay) and my management approved it. But by month4-5, I knew I most likely was staying home for a few years. Had 2nd when first was 4+, and never looked back. It worked for our family, I loved it, and we didn't need the money from my job (husband was on path to do well financially).

So it just sort of happened.

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At 5, DS wanted to be a pro football player and dd a fairy with a real magic wand (ok, maybe she was 3 or 4). Both are young adults, and neither are on those original paths.

I am in my 60s and would still like to be a wealthy socialite who can make it rain for non profits doing good work, but it isn't going to happen. Chances are similar for your dd.

Fom what I know, young ladies looking to get their MRS. as opposed to a real degree, haven't been in demand since the 1950s, and if that's what my dd was looking for, as opposed to making her own money, I would be incredibly disappointed