At what age does a girl decide she wants to grow up to be a SAHM?
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Anonymous
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I'm curious because DD is 5 and has been saying her dream job is to be a SAHM. We're pleased with this but don't know where she got the idea from. I did not stay home, both of her grandmothers still work full-time (though they stayed home for years when their kids were young), and all of our family friends and neighbors are 2 income households. She's had a nanny since birth who she loves, and DH and I have worked from home since she was several months old. Our conclusion is that she must have many friends at school with SAHMs.
Those of you who are SAHMs, at what age did you know you wanted to be one? Those who dreamed of being a SAHM when you were young, did you end up as one? As a child, I didn't dream of being a SAHM, though I wouldn't mind it now. |
Anonymous
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You’re reading way too much into something a 5 year old said. Your child, most likely, will consider numerous careers throughout her childhood.
I became a SAHM because I was expecting twins and my salary wouldn’t have covered more than the cost of two infants in daycare. |
Anonymous
| birth |
Anonymous
| You're pleased with this? Why? |
Anonymous
| At five, my son wanted to be Jake Justice. |
Anonymous
| What a stupid post, OP. |
Anonymous
OP here. I meant to say that I'd be satisfied with almost any path she chooses. |
Anonymous
| You sound exhausting. |
Anonymous
| I never wanted to be a sahp. In fact, I told my then fiancé now DH that I would never ever be a sahp. Ever. Life has a way of changing our plans. Both our children ended up have special needs that required quite a bit more parental involvement for quite a few more years that a typical child. Life just did not work with dual wohp. For various reasons, I was the one who ended up sah. It was an adjustment but needed. |
Anonymous
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So, the thing you decide when you're young is that you want to be a mom. Whether you work or not when you get to that point in your life has a whole lot to do with what your family circumstances are when you arrive at that point.
Maybe help her focus on the job she wants to do until she becomes a homemaker and stay at home parent (if that's even possible.) There was a point when I wanted my next job to be SAHP. This was when I was burned out and also trying to conceive and my spouse had a job that could support our family. Planning on it as a child is okay, but also somewhat putting the cart before the horse. I have several friends who wanted nothing more than to have children but then they didn't have them because they didn't get married and didn't want to be a single mom by choice. |
Anonymous
| A friend of mine says she knew by middle school. Both her parents worked long hours and she was lonely at home, so decided she doesn't want that for her kids. |
Anonymous
| lol. My 12 year old says she just wants to marry a rich guy and take care of the kids and house. |
Anonymous
Problem with this path is that she needs to find someone who will support and take care of her as an adult and never change their mind. That’s a tough life. |
Anonymous
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I’m a SAHM and I guess I always had a feeling I would be. I did have career ambitions, but they were always for “until I had children.” I went to college, had a very fulfilling career (that I may one day go back to) but then stayed home after my first was born. I only dated men who I knew would be able to support this choice.
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Anonymous
| In my early 20s when I was a nanny. I’m a SAHM now and I married someone that has a been very supportive. |