At what age does a girl decide she wants to grow up to be a SAHM?

[Anonymous]

At 5 my kid wanted to be a dinosaur.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious because DD is 5 and has been saying her dream job is to be a SAHM. We're pleased with this but don't know where she got the idea from. I did not stay home, both of her grandmothers still work full-time (though they stayed home for years when their kids were young), and all of our family friends and neighbors are 2 income households. She's had a nanny since birth who she loves, and DH and I have worked from home since she was several months old. Our conclusion is that she must have many friends at school with SAHMs.

Those of you who are SAHMs, at what age did you know you wanted to be one? Those who dreamed of being a SAHM when you were young, did you end up as one? As a child, I didn't dream of being a SAHM, though I wouldn't mind it now.

Have you met the parents of your 5 year old child’s friends? I have a five year old and know (at least in passing) most of her classmates’ parents and all of her friends’ parents. Same for my two younger children. My kids have wanted to be firefighters, the president, a ballerina, a princess at disney world, and someone who works at Goldman Sachs. The amount of thought you are putting into this is bizarre.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm curious because DD is 5 and has been saying her dream job is to be a SAHM. We're pleased with this but don't know where she got the idea from. I did not stay home, both of her grandmothers still work full-time (though they stayed home for years when their kids were young), and all of our family friends and neighbors are 2 income households. She's had a nanny since birth who she loves, and DH and I have worked from home since she was several months old. Our conclusion is that she must have many friends at school with SAHMs.

Those of you who are SAHMs, at what age did you know you wanted to be one? Those who dreamed of being a SAHM when you were young, did you end up as one? As a child, I didn't dream of being a SAHM, though I wouldn't mind it now.

Have you met the parents of your 5 year old child’s friends? I have a five year old and know (at least in passing) most of her classmates’ parents and all of her friends’ parents. Same for my two younger children. My kids have wanted to be firefighters, the president, a ballerina, a princess at disney world, and someone who works at Goldman Sachs. The amount of thought you are putting into this is bizarre.

I have 3 kids. One kid has always wanted to be a doctor since he was little and still wants to be a doctor. My other two kids have wanted to be paleontologists, teachers, inventor, etc My middle school kid wants to be a crypto billionaire. He basically wants to not work and make a lot of money. That’s his current goal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:At 7 my son learned that some adults stay home (literally no one in our social circle does so he thought all adults were assigned a job) and he said "when I grow up do you think i can be a dad who doesn't work?!

Dont read much in to this OP. Kids have no idea where life will take them.

SAHM here. When one of my sons was around 9-10, he also said he wants to marry a rich girl so he can stay home and hang out with the kids. He thought I had a very good life. DS has not said that in years. He is a teenager now.

I love this!

[Anonymous]

You're pleased with this? Better make sure when she grows up she's gorgeous with a hot bod so she can marry rich straight out of college, boo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Better make sure when she grows up she's gorgeous with a hot bod so she can marry rich straight out of college, boo.

Or maybe she can just be a nice, well-rounded person that can hopefully one day meet a man who loves and respects her?

[Anonymous]

I decided when I was 30 and pregnant. Never considered it growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Better make sure when she grows up she's gorgeous with a hot bod so she can marry rich straight out of college, boo.

Or maybe she can just be a nice, well-rounded person that can hopefully one day meet a man who loves and respects her?

Love and respect is only enough if she’s going to pull her own weight financially. If she’s assuming a man will support her she’s going to need to bring something to the table. The financial statistics aren’t great here.

[Anonymous]

I’m a SAHP. Knew I wanted to be, though I never said it aloud. It’s very, very hard waiting to fall in love and wondering if you’ll even get to be a mom. Right now, this doesn’t merit an actual response.

If she’s still talking about being a SAHP in middle school, talk about how you can’t control being a SAHP. It’s so dependent on falling in love with someone who wants to marry you. It’s dependent on being able to have children. It’s dependent on your spouse either making enough money or the whole family being able to be content with less. Discuss how SAHP is often a temporary job title. Bring up how important it is to be in a loving marriage, how to spot emotionally healthy people, and how she’ll likely need a career for the decades when she’s not raising kids.

[Anonymous]

I wanted to be after I got married and we were planning on having kids. Became a sahm at 28 but now I’m back at work at 36.

I think I grew up always wanting kids but I never considered what the childcare arrangement would be. I did always assume I’d have a career.

[Anonymous]

What do you not understand girls are now going to be married at age 10 !!

Ugh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're pleased with this? Better make sure when she grows up she's gorgeous with a hot bod so she can marry rich straight out of college, boo.

Or maybe she can just be a nice, well-rounded person that can hopefully one day meet a man who loves and respects her?

Love and respect is only enough if she’s going to pull her own weight financially. If she’s assuming a man will support her she’s going to need to bring something to the table. The financial statistics aren’t great here.

This is a stupid take. None of the working moms on this board who have husbands earning multiples of them are “pulling their weight financially”. This is just a brain dead argument from a shallow person.

[Anonymous]

My DD is 14 and has never ever said or demonstrated any desire to have kids. She played with Calico Critters but never baby dolls. She is a girly girl in most ways but recently articulated that she does not desire any sort of “domestic” life like that. She wants to make a lot of money and spend it on her dream house and clothes and makeup. No babies in this dream world. Maybe a husband.

My son OTOH likes babies, seems to want to get married and have a traditional life. So I might still get to be a grandma someday.

[Anonymous]

Age 9. Sally in Snoopy Come Home said they eat bonbons all day.

[Anonymous]

Depending on the country, the man is expected to provide for the family. I was watching a documentary about men’s perspective and the US stood out with men not wanting to support their wives financially. Americans also don’t take care of their parents.