At what age does a girl decide she wants to grow up to be a SAHM?
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Anonymous
At five, my daughter wanted to own a pink ice cream truck and drive around to birthday parties and places where "sad old people live because ice cream would cheer them up." It was a laudable goal and I remember discussing all the pros and cons with her. And now she's in her first year of college, ice cream dreams long abandoned except for a little fro-yo here and there. |
Anonymous
Mine wants to marry a rich girl and play video games. |
Anonymous
It’s really not that tough. Working your ass off at a job you hate (or merely tolerate) for a boss and coworkers who don’t appreciate you, commuting through traffic for a couple hours every day, barely seeing your spouse, barely seeing your kids… now THAT’S a tough life. |
Anonymous
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I decided to be a SAHM at age 38 when I had my third child. When it was time to go back to work from maternity leave after my first, that was the first time I actually wanted to be a SAHM. I never wanted to be a SAHM until I actually had a baby.
My childhood friend wanted nothing more than to be a SAHM. She loved her boyfriends and husbands. She loved kids, loved homemaking and made it clear to everyone she wanted to be a SAHM. She is divorced and never had kids. I would not read too much into your 5yo wanting to be a SAHM. She probably does see some moms around who don’t work and may think that is something she wants. |
Anonymous
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I'm 37 yrs old and I still don't know what I want to be when I grow up.
Op - I think you know better than to take verbatim what a 5 yr old wants to do decades from now. Are you trying to start another sahm debate? |
Anonymous
| OP, you said you work from home. Couldn't it be possible that your kid thinks that's what a SAHM does? Works at/from home? |
Anonymous
Lol no. Preface that I’m a working mom but staying at home is the path that nearly every woman a couple of generations ago chose and there’s never been an unhappier generation than ours. Working is not the key to happiness. |
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Girls can decide they want to be a SAHM at any time, it's life that tends to have other ideas.
Only one woman I know who wanted to be a SAHM has gotten to do so, either because of money or because of divorce (and money.) |
Anonymous
Why would you do that? I mean, you can do any job you want to do. Why pick one you hate? |
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At 32 when I had my first and only child. That oxytocin hormone makes you attached to your baby. But I was in physician residency training. So I pushed through. 12 years later, I’m going down to 0.5 fte as we r financially comfortable. I want to spend time with my son before he s away to college.
Never wanted to be a stay at home mom when I was a girl. My mom was one and it didn’t turn out well. |
Anonymous
| There is a new social media trend on tradwives. Beautiful young women have traditional gender roles and stay home, cook healthy meals, raise their kids and have beautiful homes. |
Anonymous
Yet another reason social media is toxic. I’d rather my daughter be a garbage collector than a SAHM. |
Anonymous
| I would tell her a man is not a plan. Adult women shouldn’t be anyone’s dependent unless they are incapacitated. |
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I don't think you should be encouraging your FIVE YEAR OLD to pick a life path where she's dependent on her romantic partner for her financial sustenance.
It's a completely valid choice for an adult to make when she's weighed all the options, but it's a weird thing for parents to encourage in their child. |
Anonymous
| You better start teaching your kid a man is not a plan |