What percentage of married couples do you think are unfaithful?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think 70% are miserable, but I only think 50% pull the trigger

I'd agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I would have said 5-10%. I’ve only known of one person in my adult life who cheated on a long term partner.

Key words -- known of.

I used to not know of any. Then I befriended a man in law enforcement. (I'm a woman.) He and allllll of his coworkers were cheaters. I learned the dirt on every single one of them. And most of them were complete dorks and unattractive, didn't matter. Maybe one in five of them, the wife found out. Most of the wives had no clue, and everyone smiled for their matching Christmas PJs pic.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can mentally understand how someone looking to cheat would use hookup apps, work travel (often with the ring off and lies about being single), or sex work to cross that line.

I sincerely don't understand how two married people who interact and have something to lose if a move isn't reciprocated actually get to the tearing each other's clothes off phase.

How do two overweight parents on the third grade class field trip committee who know each other's spouses get there? Seems insane.

I think libido makes people do crazy stupid things.

And I think some people are very aware they’re getting older and seeking some last hurrah or something to feel younger and alive again. It’s the same reason why people participate in other midlife crisis behaviors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think that this has been studied and the number is somewhere in the 20s%

I'd say 20-30%. And some of the reason it is not higher is logistics. Affairs usually cost $$$. Plus the higher the class, the more likely time at the office would interfere.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I now think there are lots of men who pay for sex in some fashion. Sugar babies, massage parlors or online personalized porn.

It's seriously gross.

I think it's common. Wives look the other way. There are also gay men married to women who cheat on the down low. Also married men who prefer jobs with lots of travel- sex in hotels in other cities is easy.

All of this is true, but sad.

[Anonymous]

Probably 10%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends. We have mostly upper middle class, muslim immigrant professional couples in 50's with college age or grown kids in our circle.

In my opinion, it can't be more than 5% and this is a generous estimate from a highly skeptical person.

I'm sure most people have had crushes but it’s very rare for someone to act upon it. Most genuinely see infidelity as a religious sin and a character flaw.

Look what happened in Rotterdam.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think that this has been studied and the number is somewhere in the 20s%

Old, old, old data—-way before the internet and online booty apps and affair websites and Tinder.

It’s closer to the divorce rate: 50%

According to… trust me bro

This actually makes more sense unless you think people are pissing away half their net worth on toothpaste cap disputes

[Anonymous]

The women I know aren't divorcing because of sex or infidelity. They have had enough of their husband's selfishness and criticisms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends. We have mostly upper middle class, muslim immigrant professional couples in 50's with college age or grown kids in our circle.

In my opinion, it can't be more than 5% and this is a generous estimate from a highly skeptical person.

I'm sure most people have had crushes but its very rare for someone to act upon it. Most genuinely see infidelity as a religious sin and a character flaw.

Married Muslim men are often inappropriate to women - in my experience as a non Muslim single white woman. I don’t believe 5% would be unfaithful, more like 80%. Hitting on women, staring and making sexual comments is cheating if not a precursor to infidelity. Married Muslim men are prolific cheaters.

+1

Totally agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women I know aren't divorcing because of sex or infidelity. They have had enough of their husband's selfishness and criticisms.

But there is still very few divorces, only 2 out of 100 couples.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I would have said 5-10%. I’ve only known of one person in my adult life who cheated on a long term partner.

Key words -- known of.

I used to not know of any. Then I befriended a man in law enforcement. (I'm a woman.) He and allllll of his coworkers were cheaters. I learned the dirt on every single one of them. And most of them were complete dorks and unattractive, didn't matter. Maybe one in five of them, the wife found out. Most of the wives had no clue, and everyone smiled for their matching Christmas PJs pic.

I don’t even doubt you. The woman cop who was sleeping with 5 men in the same police station just won $500k in her discrimination lawsuit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Probably depends how you define infidelity. Full on sex with another person? Probably 25-40%. Doing something inappropriate like sexting, kissing but less than sex? 75%+

This would be my estimate too for both, especially if you’re counting sketchy online activity in the inappropriate column.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends. We have mostly upper middle class, muslim immigrant professional couples in 50's with college age or grown kids in our circle.

In my opinion, it can't be more than 5% and this is a generous estimate from a highly skeptical person.

I'm sure most people have had crushes but its very rare for someone to act upon it. Most genuinely see infidelity as a religious sin and a character flaw.

Married Muslim men are often inappropriate to women - in my experience as a non Muslim single white woman. I don’t believe 5% would be unfaithful, more like 80%. Hitting on women, staring and making sexual comments is cheating if not a precursor to infidelity. Married Muslim men are prolific cheaters.

I am a married Muslim man and I agree that we are not immune to cheating. Being Muslim doesn't make me more faithful. I am sure a man who intends to cheat whether Christian, Muslim or atheist is going to do so regardless. If somehow Muslim men were more likely to be faithful women will be rushing to marry them because for a lot of women the fear of being cheated on is real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It depends. We have mostly upper middle class, muslim immigrant professional couples in 50's with college age or grown kids in our circle.

In my opinion, it can't be more than 5% and this is a generous estimate from a highly skeptical person.

I'm sure most people have had crushes but its very rare for someone to act upon it. Most genuinely see infidelity as a religious sin and a character flaw.

Married Muslim men are often inappropriate to women - in my experience as a non Muslim single white woman. I don’t believe 5% would be unfaithful, more like 80%. Hitting on women, staring and making sexual comments is cheating if not a precursor to infidelity. Married Muslim men are prolific cheaters.

I am a married Muslim man and I agree that we are not immune to cheating. Being Muslim doesn't make me more faithful. I am sure a man who intends to cheat whether Christian, Muslim or atheist is going to do so regardless. If somehow Muslim men were more likely to be faithful women will be rushing to marry them because for a lot of women the fear of being cheated on is real.

Men should worry about that too. They shouldn't use their faithful mothers to project that women today are faithful as well. Nope. In fact the married of today cheat as much as men. But go further in the sense they eloquently and with confidence explain and justify their cheating. Just read the posts on this forum for proof.