What percentage of married couples do you think are unfaithful?

[Anonymous]

There are studies of this, you know

Eg, 20% of married men and 13% of married women reported having sex with someone who wasn't their spouse. https://ifstudies.org/blog/who-cheats-more-the-demographics-of-cheating-in-america

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. I would have said 5-10%. I’ve only known of one person in my adult life who cheated on a long term partner.

I knew of none. Then I got into my 50s and I have heard of sooooooo many. Lots of divorces happening now because either the wife or husband cheated and those are just the ones that speak of it.

I know of none and I'm 47. Guess the next few years are gonna be crazy.

[Anonymous]

Maybe my sample is skewed but I feel like it's fairly common for men to hook up with someone while on a business trip. I'd say 40%. I think the percent of women cheating is far, far lower... maybe 5-10%.

[Anonymous]

The main issue is if you travel for work you need a burner phone and a prepaid credit card.

You can’t have any Id on you and anything with your real name. That way you can knock the bottom out of randoms on the road in your hotel room and they can never find you to blow up the home front.

That just takes too much work. So no road whores.

Before email and technology, conventions were great. You would see Sally for a few days twice a year. And the. No contact till the next convention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not the percentage that are divorced. But include couples who are unfaithful and their spouse never finds out or they know but don’t divorce.

I think it’s around 70%.

You don’t belong to a church, do you?

No, i don’t. So you’re saying closer to 80%?

[Anonymous]

I agree with the research, 20%. It seems to be overwhelmingly committed by people of a certain personality type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree with the research, 20%. It seems to be overwhelmingly committed by people of a certain personality type.

Explain the personality type please. Curious to see if my cheating ex matches type.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m surprised it’s more than 1% percent.

Such a small percentage of the population is actually dateable / f-able, and then only a percentage of that group would cheat.

Uggos bump nasties all the time. In fact, uglier women tend to give it away more from low self-esteem.

Unattractive guys aren't out there having affairs. Online is a complete bust for them.

[Anonymous]

I have seen affairs in some of what I perceived to be the strongest relationships and many of the ”my spouse would never…” types.

It’s been more than a little shocking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people are as faithful as their options, but I honestly don’t think most people have great options.

Options are a function of both your desirability and your environment. Those with many options have both desirability and the right environment (think musicians who go on tour).

This is it right here. I’ve only met one person in 15 years of marriage that I would want to have a purely sexual relationship with based on feelings of desire and mutual chemistry. But, even if I wanted to start something there (I don’t want to blow up my life for strong sexual chemistry), there are almost zero opportunities for it to happen based on the circumstances. I imagine to start some kind of illicit affair, you need an opportunity to present itself and a lot of working parents who don’t travel etc don’t have these opportunities to begin with. That’s why most affairs happen on work trips. Also, with social media, tech, doorbell cams, security cams, ways to track people, it’s difficult to get away with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It depends. We have mostly upper middle class, muslim immigrant professional couples in 50's with college age or grown kids in our circle.

In my opinion, it can't be more than 5% and this is a generous estimate from a highly skeptical person.

I'm sure most people have had crushes but its very rare for someone to act upon it. Most genuinely see infidelity as a religious sin and a character flaw.

Married Muslim men are often inappropriate to women - in my experience as a non Muslim single white woman. I don’t believe 5% would be unfaithful, more like 80%. Hitting on women, staring and making sexual comments is cheating if not a precursor to infidelity. Married Muslim men are prolific cheaters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe my sample is skewed but I feel like it's fairly common for men to hook up with someone while on a business trip. I'd say 40%. I think the percent of women cheating is far, far lower... maybe 5-10%.

Women now outpace men in some age groups, studies indicate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people are as faithful as their options, but I honestly don’t think most people have great options.

Options are a function of both your desirability and your environment. Those with many options have both desirability and the right environment (think musicians who go on tour).

This is it right here. I’ve only met one person in 15 years of marriage that I would want to have a purely sexual relationship with based on feelings of desire and mutual chemistry. But, even if I wanted to start something there (I don’t want to blow up my life for strong sexual chemistry), there are almost zero opportunities for it to happen based on the circumstances. I imagine to start some kind of illicit affair, you need an opportunity to present itself and a lot of working parents who don’t travel etc don’t have these opportunities to begin with. That’s why most affairs happen on work trips. Also, with social media, tech, doorbell cams, security cams, ways to track people, it’s difficult to get away with it.

My SAHM wife had men come over while teens were at school and I was at work. She met them online.

You are naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have seen affairs in some of what I perceived to be the strongest relationships and many of the ”my spouse would never…” types.

It’s been more than a little shocking.

Same!!

[Anonymous]

Studies are flawed. People aren’t admitting this. Has anyone here ever been surveyed on this ? lol. I’m 54 and never seen a survey